Re: Fibbing about how we lose weight -

November 1, 2001

Pre-op I have only told family and friends closest to me. I told no

one at work. I will when I return. I just didn't want the added

stress of everyone's opinions dragging me down emotionally when I was

having surgery.

I have no qualms about telling people now--esp. those who could

benefit from the information. The stuck up skinny people I'm not

sure about yet--I would love to pass myself off as this wonderfully

strong person who did this on my own--but after going through this

surgery--esp. going to SPain--I realise more and more what an

incredibly brave and courageous thing I did. Beleive me, surgery is

no picnic and not easy.

But some people in my life---IMHO---I just don't think it is thier

business, and I will just leave them to wonder in amazement!!

Pammi

November 1, 2001

So Far I have only told my mother and one of my sisters and two friends!!! I

refuse to tell anyone else at this point....As I have been losing weight now all

I hear from people is: " Maybe you should eat less and excersize more " At work I

hear fat jokes and fat people have no self control and are undisciplined enough

times to know that they would have never been supportive of the surgery...Hell I

am sure that someone would have probably thought that the surgery was a cosmetic

procedure. My neighbors who have been very lucky up until recently used to eat

with utter abandon and I mean there portions and food choices would make a

hungry lumberjack look petite would often look at my smaller portions and laugh

because I would eat so little and still gain weight...I guess time has caught up

to them because now all they do is talk about dieting as spiteful and mean as

they were I just sit and eat and lose as they diet and are miserable life has a

funny way of getting even....

Now as far as telling someone I dont know about the surgery someone who would

benefit from it I would totally be honest. But the people in my life no

way....The second I told them about the surgery if I burped wrong tomorrow they

would pull a Sue Widemark and say I was dying because of the surgery.....I am

enjoying my life to much to deal with the drama of the ignorant!

Lisbeth (thats my story and I am sticking with it)

Nick wrote: If people are possibly in need of surgery

themselves and ask you how you are

going about losing weight, it is a bit unfair to tell them that it is

because you are eating carefully and exercising.

I can tell you this from experience. I have a friend who I had not seen in

some time who lost a bunch of weight and kept it off. I asked her and got

the same answer that many of us give about the diet and exercise. I was

disappointed because I wanted to know about her experience and I know durn

good and well that she had surgery.

I am really unclear as to why so many people have a hard time talking to

others about their surgery. I talk about it to anyone who is interested. I

haven't been shunned, stoned, or discriminated against in any way.

Best -

Nick in Sage

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November 1, 2001

When I wrote my original post on this it was directed toward honestly

answering questions of others. I would extend that to discussing surgery

with those who might find a benefit from the DS.

I wouldn't suggest discussing it with " just anyone " at any time, much less

when you are a pre-op and don't know how others will react - not that it

made much difference in my life as before my surgery, my wife discussed it

in detail with everyone she met.

At any rate, the idiots who live in a world of information free opinion

formation are hardly worthy of our note.

Best-

Nick in Sage

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Re: Fibbing about how we lose weight -

>

> So Far I have only told my mother and one of my sisters and two friends!!!

I refuse to tell anyone else at this point....As I have been losing weight

now all I hear from people is: " Maybe you should eat less and excersize

more " At work I hear fat jokes and fat people have no self control and are

undisciplined enough times to know that they would have never been

supportive of the surgery...Hell I am sure that someone would have probably

thought that the surgery was a cosmetic procedure. My neighbors who have

been very lucky up until recently used to eat with utter abandon and I mean

there portions and food choices would make a hungry lumberjack look petite

would often look at my smaller portions and laugh because I would eat so

little and still gain weight...I guess time has caught up to them because

now all they do is talk about dieting as spiteful and mean as they were I

just sit and eat and lose as they diet and are miserable life has a funny

way of getting even....

> Now as far as telling someone I dont know about the surgery someone who

would benefit from it I would totally be honest. But the people in my life

no way....The second I told them about the surgery if I burped wrong

tomorrow they would pull a Sue Widemark and say I was dying because of the

surgery.....I am enjoying my life to much to deal with the drama of the

ignorant!

> Lisbeth (thats my story and I am sticking with it)

>

> Nick wrote: If people are possibly in need of surgery

themselves and ask you how you are

> going about losing weight, it is a bit unfair to tell them that it is

> because you are eating carefully and exercising.

>

> I can tell you this from experience. I have a friend who I had not seen in

> some time who lost a bunch of weight and kept it off. I asked her and got

> the same answer that many of us give about the diet and exercise. I was

> disappointed because I wanted to know about her experience and I know durn

> good and well that she had surgery.

>

> I am really unclear as to why so many people have a hard time talking to

> others about their surgery. I talk about it to anyone who is interested. I

> haven't been shunned, stoned, or discriminated against in any way.

>

> Best -

>

> Nick in Sage

>

> ----------------------------------------------------------------------

>

November 1, 2001

Nick,

In that case we are in agreement!

Lisbeth