Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 Sher - Wishing and praying for a swift recovery for Rich, and also for an easy time for both of you accepting a few more limitations for a while. B Barbara McD PF--Sept 08; Sjogren's--Apr 09; Reynaud's--seems like forever Beautiful Western NC Attitude is everything. To: Breathe-Support Sent: Sat, October 24, 2009 2:08:50 PMSubject: Re: Re: sher>May Sher, You posted this to our board....that' s how Bruce knew about Rich's surgery.lol I know about it too, from our board. I hope that all goes smoothly and Rich has a speedy recovery. It is all so very overwhelming I know. Just one day at a time...that' s all you can do. You and Rich are in my thoughts and prayers! Beth Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 From: Sher Bauman <bofus6 (AT) verizon (DOT) net>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Sat, October 24, 2009 1:52:40 PMSubject: Re: Re: sher>May Bruce... how in the heck do you know about Rich's surgery?? You must be on the board w/Ze and May... Yes, surgery on Nov. 3rd. I'm extremely apprehensive about meeting his needs as well as he has meant mine all these years. My caregiver now needs a caregiver. According to the paper work he was given, no driving for a year! Possibility of fainting and/or dizziness and other things. Don't lift more than 5#. However long it takes him to recover sufficiently, shopping that he currently does and errands and etc he may not do for awhile... It's lucky we are here close to Lysa but she can't be a caregiver full time either. Our lives are certainly going to change. We don't know yet how we will handle the changes but we will and yes I'll sure keep ya posted. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 MB... lol at myself. I somehow thought I was emailing May privately...duh. It is a stressful time right now. Although Lysa is 4 min away, she can't fill the daily min by min, hr by hr things that will arise. I will do what I can and if necessary I'll just have to hire someone....but for what? Min by min, hr by hr? A person cannot just sit here waiting for something I or we need help with. We are planning laundry on Sat when Hannah or Lysa can help....we'll just have to see. I must remember, one day at a time. I can do that and so can Rich. thanks for your support. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 Sher,I'm sorry that with everything going on with you, that you now have this additional worry. My prayers for Rich for successful surgery and a speedy recovery. Keep the faith and take care of you. Could hospice be any help for temporary needs?Roxanne, 59, South Carolina 2006 Asthma/ PF 2008 PF/ Sarcoidosis/Gerd I pray you enough.....Subject: Re: Re: sher>MayTo: Breathe-Support Date: Saturday, October 24, 2009, 1:52 PM Bruce... how in the heck do you know about Rich's surgery?? You must be on the board w/Ze and May... Yes, surgery on Nov. 3rd. I'm extremely apprehensive about meeting his needs as well as he has meant mine all these years. My caregiver now needs a caregiver. According to the paper work he was given, no driving for a year! Possibility of fainting and/or dizziness and other things. Don't lift more than 5#. However long it takes him to recover sufficiently, shopping that he currently does and errands and etc he may not do for awhile... It's lucky we are here close to Lysa but she can't be a caregiver full time either. Our lives are certainly going to change. We don't know yet how we will handle the changes but we will and yes I'll sure keep ya posted. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 Barbara/....thanks for your support. I do appreciate it so much. We know there will be changes and we're trying to anticipate them and prepare. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 Roxanne...I don't think hospice will be an option. Neither of us are 'dying'. As such. I'm just feeling overwhelmed. I want to be there for him and hell, I can't even be here for myself! We'll manage and Lysa is close by. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 JACK!!! OMG I have gone berserk for sure. I have no idea why I called you ""!!! I was thinking of a good friend to tell about Rich and that must have been the reason. At least I'm claimin' it. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 Sher I know because you posted it here in the email you sent. > > > > Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. What > a wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May, > really great. > > You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know. > > MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group! > > I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hello > for me and of course Ze... > > > > Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we like > the apt. a lot. > > > > My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my main > worry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to do > something about it. > > I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again... > > > > Blessings for strength friend. > > Sher > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2009 Report Share Posted October 24, 2009 sher i'm sorry to hear about rich's heart surgery. very stressful for you both. i did notice when i was in for the vats surgery that all the heart patients, after recovery, felt so much better and had much better colour. i'm sure it will be the same for rich. some said it was years since they'd felt so well. however, his convalescence will take time. in the uk we have a state home care system where district nurses and then care assistants come out to the home for a while to deal with wounds and then bathing needs. this contines until its not necessary. they wont of course shop etc but on-line shopping with home deliveries is getting very easy and common here. loads of people without health issues do it now. i believe delivery fees are higher for peak times and very low for non peak. i can see that lysa cant do everything. if you are thinking about hiring someone, what about hiring your own grandchildren. i think household chores can be kept to one big session. laundry, vacuum and dusting with perhaps a shopping delivery at this session. perhaps then the grandchildren can come in the evening and help with dinner and preping lunch for next day too. anyhow, you are just at the start of brainstorming how this is all going to be organised. one day at a time indeed. it will all work out. good luck for the surgery. may > > Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. What a wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May, really great. > You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know. > MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group! > I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hello for me and of course Ze... > > Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we like the apt. a lot. > > My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my main worry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to do something about it. > I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again... > > Blessings for strength friend. > Sher > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2009 Report Share Posted October 25, 2009 hehehehhee MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2009 Report Share Posted October 25, 2009  J/J...thanks for these suggestions. I will call. We're so damn used to 'not qualifying' that I put off calling. This time I will. I may (will) need some help. Lysa is close and good to help but I don't want to over burden her either. If we can find a way to help ourselves, that's best to do. Love to you both. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherSorry to hear about Rich's planned surgery. I sure hope everything goessmoothly with it. Please keep us posted. I know he does become yourpriority in this situation. Just try your best not to exhaust yourself.>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. Whata wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hellofor me and of course Ze...>> Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we likethe apt. a lot.>> My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my mainworry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to dosomething about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...>> Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2009 Report Share Posted October 25, 2009 Thanks May...your suggestions are wonderful and I'm considering all you said already. I guess inserting a defibrillator is not "open heart" surgery as I supposed. I'm sure he will feel better,drs say he will. I do notice his color is not good. Sometimes pale sometimes a bit yellow. Thanks for your concern. I know you are dealing with your own medical stuff! MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May sheri'm sorry to hear about rich's heart surgery.very stressful for you both. i did noticewhen i was in for the vats surgery that all the heart patients, after recovery, felt somuch better and had much better colour. i'msure it will be the same for rich. some saidit was years since they'd felt so well.however, his convalescence will take time. inthe uk we have a state home care system wheredistrict nurses and then care assistants comeout to the home for a while to deal with woundsand then bathing needs. this contines untilits not necessary. they wont of course shopetc but on-line shopping with home deliveries is getting very easy and common here. loads ofpeople without health issues do it now. i believedelivery fees are higher for peak times and verylow for non peak.i can see that lysa cant do everything. if you are thinking about hiring someone, what about hiring your own grandchildren. i think householdchores can be kept to one big session. laundry, vacuum and dusting with perhaps a shopping delivery atthis session. perhaps then the grandchildren cancome in the evening and help with dinner and prepinglunch for next day too. anyhow, you are just at the start of brainstorminghow this is all going to be organised. one day at a time indeed. it will all work out.good luck for the surgery.may>> Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started. What a wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May, really great.> You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babs hello for me and of course Ze...> > Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and we like the apt. a lot.> > My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is my main worry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time to do something about it.> I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...> > Blessings for strength friend.> Sher> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2009 Report Share Posted October 25, 2009 Ye gads Bruce. I've lost it for sure. MamaSher; 71, IPF 3-2006, OR.Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! Re: sher>May SherI know because you posted it here in the email you sent.> >> > Thanks ever so much for telling me about the group you started.What> a wonderful gesture and already over 100 members. That's great May,> really great.> > You and Ze will be so appreciated with what you two know.> > MB, Leanne, then , Babs and . What a great group!> > I haven't seen post in a long while. Do tell her and Babshello> for me and of course Ze...> >> > Yes, the move was hard but we are now settled in and cozy and welike> the apt. a lot.> >> > My husband, Rich, is having heart surgery on Nov 3rd. That is mymain> worry right now. His heart has gotten so bad that it's now time todo> something about it.> > I'll be writing the board so I won't repeat it all here again...> >> > Blessings for strength friend.> > Sher> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2009 Report Share Posted October 26, 2009 Take advantage of the senior citizen group in your area, they helped greatly with my mother who just recently died, and now I am in the same boat and they are there for me...........ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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