Guest guest Posted March 17, 2005 Report Share Posted March 17, 2005 Jody I feel for you and Liam. That stage never seems to fully go away. One thing I found really, really helped with Adam, is I started to change my language. We parents just seem to normally say to a child who wants to do something or other " not now, when you are bigger " . Because we just naturally equate height with age. When Adam was young (around Liam's age now), I started to change that. Adam has an older sister (as Liam has an older sibling) and so I would say " you can leave the drive way when you are 5 " or you can ride your bike to the park, like Colette did, when she was 6. And so on. Everything became a number. It's amazing but it has made a difference. I am in the midst of constant battles with him right now. I am forever hearing *why* he thinks he should be allowed to do this or that (almost all of which terrifies me! LOL) but he'll always say " I am TWELVE " . So thankfully, I can still rely on his sister by saying " but Colette wasn't allowed until she was 13 " (or whatever). But that does not stop the bullying or being called " a baby " or " little " at school. When Adam was much younger (the ages of 4 to about 9 or 10) he would just fire off a come back like " I AM NOT LITTLE " or whatever. As he's gotten older, these past few years have been rough (teenagers UGH!) and I don't see that fire as much anymore. Hopefully, you will see with Liam a fire for now. But try making everything about age from now on. Not size. It will sink in and help him see the world differently. Debby " Im not little " > > > Hi > I was beginning to think we would avoid this issue, with growth > hormone. > Liam came home from preschool yesterday in tears because " the big > boys " keep telling him he is little. > I know from watching Liam with groups of kids, that this is becoming > more of an issue with him, trying to defend himself when other kids > call him a baby. Yesterday was the first time Ive seen him in tears > over it. > Im sure this has been discussed recently, does anyone remember the > subject title so I can reread. > Liam will be 4 in June, Im not sure he sees himself as different > than other kids??(smaller) or if he is just beginning to equate age > and height etc. Or if he is just being annoyed by the comments. Im > going to have to get some of these books and are > getting together for the convention, and think about how to approach > this the right way. > He also asked me if he would get bigger if I took his button out ?? > In so many words. > Is this near the end of lessons to be learned in the RSS/SGA parent > handbook ????!!!??? > Never a dull moment > Jody(mum to Liam 3.9yrs RSS and Cameron 6) > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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