Guest guest Posted October 20, 2001 Report Share Posted October 20, 2001 I am so mad right now. While I was a work tonight my husband and his parents decided that the French fries at Fuddruckers would be okay for my 3 year old asd daughter. It is 10:00 p.m. and I just changed a diaper that was so awful. She is screaming and crying. I feel like we are back at square one. I left her dinner for them to give her. I left snacks and told them what she could eat if they went out. Why does he do this? I feel like I'm in this alone. Valeri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2001 Report Share Posted October 20, 2001 I am so mad right now. While I was a work tonight my husband and his parents decided that the French fries at Fuddruckers would be okay for my 3 year old asd daughter. It is 10:00 p.m. and I just changed a diaper that was so awful. She is screaming and crying. I feel like we are back at square one. I left her dinner for them to give her. I left snacks and told them what she could eat if they went out. Why does he do this? I feel like I'm in this alone. Valeri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2001 Report Share Posted October 21, 2001 When I first wanted to try this diet I did all research, but I knew my husband would not be supportive--he hates inconvenience! That's why I made an appointment with a DAN doctor and had my husband go to the appointments with me. It cost us an arm and a leg, but it was worth it. My husband considers everything the doctor says to be the absolute gospel truth (if I told him the same information he would say that I must be confused). My son has been on the diet for almost 2 months now and is doing extremely well. My husband continues to be very supportive. Dawn in Denver Mother of 5 NT, 3, ASD, and 7 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2001 Report Share Posted October 21, 2001 When I first wanted to try this diet I did all research, but I knew my husband would not be supportive--he hates inconvenience! That's why I made an appointment with a DAN doctor and had my husband go to the appointments with me. It cost us an arm and a leg, but it was worth it. My husband considers everything the doctor says to be the absolute gospel truth (if I told him the same information he would say that I must be confused). My son has been on the diet for almost 2 months now and is doing extremely well. My husband continues to be very supportive. Dawn in Denver Mother of 5 NT, 3, ASD, and 7 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2001 Report Share Posted October 21, 2001 , While your husband's behavior was inexcusable, perhaps it is rooted in ignorance and parental pressure. I don't think your husband or his parents meant to harm your daughter. Ignorance on your husband's part is also somewhat inexcusable, but parental pressure can be a very difficult thing to overcome. One thing to remember is that unless your husband and anyone who might feed your child needs to be on board with the diet. If they aren't, then you're surely headed for trouble. If the diet is " your thing " , then he might resent what he sees as a basic parental power, feeding his child, as being taken away from him. Success on this diet relies on true " co-parents " . Statistics show that situations where Mom is in charge with Dad as the assistant, back-up parent, are destined for trouble. One thing you might try is to empower your husband. Let him make some of decisions regarding your child's diet. Of course, at first you'll have to oversee him until he learns. You can also get " buy-in " from grandparents by asking them to watch out for bargains on hfs items, or give them some of your books to read. If they don't have a computer, print hard copies of some of the e-mails from the list that you feel pertain to your situation and pass them along to them. One more thing. The longer your child is on the diet, the less severe the infractions become. But as I've stated before, don't let that become a temptation to quit the diet. HTH, Pat in Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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