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October 9, 2001

>>I'm half terrified to talk to him about it... to bring it up again. He

is not only precious to me because he is my only biological child,

but we share the same birthday. Can you imagine losing my sweet

baby, love of my life, second only to my husband and God? OUCH. I <<

Hi Lee Ann--

PLEASE do not hesitate to talk this into the ground with your son! My

brother lived with me while he was going thru a difficult time and was

suicidal some of the time. Not talking about it makes it worse for you,

and leaves the person with the problem all alone with it. You have to

work hard to be calm and not show how frightened you are, and you have to

encourage your son to talk about it with you-- don't minimize his

feelings, or try to help him describe them-- let him talk however he

wants to. It may well be nothing. Then, again, it might not. Talking

about bad feelings is the best way to get thru them. If you can't get

your feelings under control enough to let your son talk as much as he may

need to-- find a good child psychologist-- sometimes you have to get an

objective party involved-- kids are very sensitive to their parents

emotions, and your son may not disclose his true feelings if he knows

they upset you.

I trained as a marriage and family counselor, but my weight and

co-morbidities stopped me from getting the hours for my license-- kids

who express thoughts of killing themselves or others need someone to

listen to them a lot! Hang in there, but don't sweep this under the rug.

Nan E.

5'2 " , 368

20 pounds off in panni on June 13, 2001

waiting for a DS date with Dr. Anthone in CA

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