questions about having kids with cf

[Guest guest]

hi,

this is a hard question that i am dealing with. it's weather i

should have a child or just forget about a natural birth & try to

adopt. if you knew that you had cf & the child would have cf would

you still have that child. what's it like to have a child with cf &

if you knew ahead of time would you still have wanted to have a

child naturally. i wasn't dx until 20 & have a mild case but was

told that if i had a child it would be a severe case of cf. i guess

i just would like some ideas & info on it. this is a hard descision

and not one anyone eles can make. my husband can put his opinion in

but i am not only thinking of my health but also what kind of a life

would the child have.

mindy

[Guest guest]

WOW . another loaded question.! That IS CERTAINLY YOUR OWN SPECIAL CHOICE.

Most docs say & many folks who have CF & have had children, think it is

better to adopt, so you don't " possibly " shorten your time with the

child. ----That said, If it is what you & your hubby want...again--that is

your choice & your own business........Love will come to either.

When adopting , you help & love a child who is already here & generally has

no one to love it.......Your health prayerfully will remain better. You will

be able to do many things with the adopted wee one & they are such charmers.

getting them VERY early on is very possible too.

BUT, your own child is delightful . I also know one gal that had her egg &

her husbands sperm collected & a friend carried their child for her. NOW

THAT IS A REAL FRIEND...........I am not suggesting that BUT ..am saying YOU

choose. We...the readers are NOT here to judge ....just support & give our

OWN opinions.

With much love & many HUGS,

GrandmomBEV

questions about having kids with cf

hi,

this is a hard question that i am dealing with. it's weather i

should have a child or just forget about a natural birth & try to

adopt. if you knew that you had cf & the child would have cf would

you still have that child. what's it like to have a child with cf &

if you knew ahead of time would you still have wanted to have a

child naturally. i wasn't dx until 20 & have a mild case but was

told that if i had a child it would be a severe case of cf. i guess

i just would like some ideas & info on it. this is a hard descision

and not one anyone eles can make. my husband can put his opinion in

but i am not only thinking of my health but also what kind of a life

would the child have.

mindy

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[Guest guest]

We have three adopted children and one birth child. It is the same. The second

they told me the older three were ours I experienced the same thing I did when

the handed me Patti after delivery. Your kids are your kids no matter how you

have them, and no matter how old they are when you get them. Those raised with

you from infancy will be more like you, and you will understand their little

quirks better. But then, again the waiting lists for babies is very long. We

adopted a sibling group for that reason. was 28 months old and

was 18 months old when they came to live with us. Two weeks later their sister

Sammye was born and she came to be with us when she was two days old. It has

been so good for them to all be together. They don't seem to have any of that

angst about being adopted that I have seen in other children and I think that it

comes from having birth siblings in the house.

I am not trying to dissuade you from having your own child... Just make sure

you consider that there are children out there who want parents just as badly as

you want children. ;-)

Dawn mom of 4, 7 and under, the youngest wcf

[Guest guest]

I always knew you were a beautiful person. Bless you .............!1 I

know those wee ones felt & still do your love for them

Have a wonderful week!!

LOVE & HUGS, grandmomBEV

Re: questions about having kids with cf

We have three adopted children and one birth child. It is the same.

The second they told me the older three were ours I experienced the same

thing I did when the handed me Patti after delivery. Your kids are your

kids no matter how you have them, and no matter how old they are when

you get them. Those raised with you from infancy will be more like you,

and you will understand their little quirks better. But then, again the

waiting lists for babies is very long. We adopted a sibling group for

that reason. was 28 months old and was 18 months old when

they came to live with us. Two weeks later their sister Sammye was born

and she came to be with us when she was two days old. It has been so

good for them to all be together. They don't seem to have any of that

angst about being adopted that I have seen in other children and I think

that it comes from having birth siblings in the house.

I am not trying to dissuade you from having your own child... Just make

sure you consider that there are children out there who want parents

just as badly as you want children. ;-)

Dawn mom of 4, 7 and under, the youngest wcf

[Guest guest]

*blush* Thanks Bev... *blush*

Dawn mom of 4, 7 and under, the youngest wcf

[Guest guest]

> Most docs say & many folks who have CF & have had children, think

it is

> better to adopt, so you don't " possibly " shorten your time with the

> child.

Nothing is guaranteed when it comes to adopting. You adopt because

you want to adopt. We adopted our son as a newborn and found out this

year he has CF. (He is 8)It came a quite a surprise.

jan

[Guest guest]

I think that every one is forgetting here that it is the writer who has cf...

She is not merely speculating on the health of a would be child, but her health

as well.

Dawn mom of 4, 7 and under, the youngest wcf