Today was a really bad day!!!

[Guest guest]

Candy dear, Step One: Get a new doctor.

Step two: Get the surgery

Step three: Live

Remember, his is only one opinion. And he is very unenlightened. Find a

doctor who understands that diabetes is a devastating disease, to be avoided

when and wherever possible; and that WLS almost always eliminates any

symptoms of diabetes. Run, don't walk, to the nearest resource (internet?

Large medical center? Medically knowlegeable friends?) and find a caring,

enlightened, up-to-date doc!

You deserve a better life. You definitely deserve HEALTH. And I feel for

sure, if you don't get him out of your life, you're headed for worse than

cancer! You fight for yourself, and the result will be worth it. Abraham

Lincoln ran for public office 13 times before he was ever elected. Imagine

if he gave up with the first " no " . Take care of yourself. You are fully

capable of making decisions and gathering information. Here's hoping all

goes great for you. PhillyJude

[Guest guest]

Hi Candy, sorry to hear about your PCP being such a jerk, Perhaps you can ask

if someone from you area knows of another doctor who will support you and

treat you after surgery. I hope things work out for you , I am still working

on my insurance approval, I had a car accident that kinda slowed down my

progression, I originally was hoping to have the surgery in about a week or

two but this has put a halt to it for a while.

Take care and good luck finding another doctor.

Pat

Nevada pre op

[Guest guest]

Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight. Said

that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

going to take over my life.

I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought this

was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for me.

He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on my

own I was headed for cancer.

I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

know what to do now.

Im so sad!!!

Candy

[Guest guest]

Hi Candy,

Just wanted to comfort you, and say maybe you should get another opinion.. or

maybe another doctor. I have been reading these emails for 5 months, and have

sucessful stories, one after the other..Don't give up..Please

Trudy

Today was a really bad day!!!

Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight. Said

that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

going to take over my life.

I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought this

was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for me.

He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on my

own I was headed for cancer.

I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

know what to do now.

Im so sad!!!

Candy

[Guest guest]

Hi Candy,

I'm sorry you had such a bad day... I know it is hard to have your

PCP not support you. There are a lot of people on this list that

have gone through the same thing. It's time to regroup and find a

doctor that will support you. Just the fact that he started you on

meds for diabetes is enough to prove that you need the surgery even

more. Majority of people no longer need meds from the day of

surgery. Please don't give up. We are all here for you.

Jane McShane

MGB 3/20/00

250/178

> Don't be sad. Find another doctor. I don't know where you live,

but ask

> around to other people in your area. I have a friend who had to

find a

> doctor about 50 miles away, but it was well worth it. My primary

care said,

> no, also. But, my stomach doctor asked me to give him Dr. R's

papers and

> reports and he will consider backing me up. I have diabetes,

hypertension,

> hypothyroidism and sleep apnea. By god, what are these doctors

thinking. If

> this operation will work to take all those miseries away, why the

hell not.

> It's your body and I'm sure you have researched everything too.

Don't give

> up!! I'm not going to. We deserve to be happy and healthy.

Kaufmann

[Guest guest]

Candy!

From one PCOSer to another: fire your doctor and find one who'll

support you. My insulin is working. I produce progesterone on my

own

now and I am doing far, far better. You have the power! Take it and

use it - go out there dear and get yourself a doctor who can help

you,

not frighten you!!!!

-Ginny Ivanoff

mgb: 3/1/00

348/254

> Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight.

Said

> that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

> going to take over my life.

>

> I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought

this

> was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

> absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for

me.

> He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

> PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

>

> On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

> started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on

my

> own I was headed for cancer.

>

> I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

> know what to do now.

>

> Im so sad!!!

>

> Candy

[Guest guest]

Candy Honey Child,

Listen to me. You just move on and find yourself a second and third

opinion.

After this doctor told you you had diabetes other than medication and

telling you you should looses weight did he give you any other great

suggestions like maybe leeches or burning a black candle at midnight!

Probably not.

There are always options and you'll find yours just look deep into your

heart the answer is there.

Las Vegas, NV

preop 10/05 MGB

selfpay

290

cottoncandync@... wrote:

> Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight. Said

> that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

> going to take over my life.

>

> I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought this

> was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

> absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for me.

> He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

> PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

>

> On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

> started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on my

> own I was headed for cancer.

>

> I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

> know what to do now.

>

> Im so sad!!!

>

> Candy

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Candy....when I first presented this to any of my doctors, I presented it

first to my endocrinologist...she skipped through it and told me that she is

not familiar enough to be a support and even if she was she would not support

this type of procedure...however she went on to say I think you need to get a

personal trainer and diet.....so yes I came away very down that day..she had

just shot every hope I had for a last chance at life,,,all I could think

about when she told me that and said to her..look I would not know where to

even begin to look for a personal trainer in my area and plus I am not Ophra

I dont have that kind of money, because I have spent it all on yoyo diets for

years that did not work for me...so Candy the only thing I knew to do to have

a chance at life was to find a doctor who would support.....hang in thereand

look around...keep your hopes up, you will find one...if you lived in my area

then i could give you a list of doctors who support WLS....and I wish you all

the luck in the world.Dont give up.

Kendra in WV

9-21-00

16 lbs gone forever!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi Kendra-

Same here............I was told to go to Weight Watchers (which I did several

times...lost 8 lbs gained 80); I was told to 'just walk' (which I did...had a

panic attack when a dog barked at me); have joined many weight loss things,

all to no avail. So I sort of know what you went through....But like you

said...the pounds are now gone forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Regina in Charlotte

[Guest guest]

> Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight.

Said

> that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

> going to take over my life.

> > Im so sad!!!

>

> Candy

Candy,

Most responses started with reccomending a new doc. I don't know

you but my expierence has been exhausting sometimes. It will be worth

your efforts. I am among the heaviest of thoes that have gotten the

MGB. My co-morbidiities were high blood pressure, lymphydemia, and a

family history of diabetes.I am a mother, wife,@ social worker.I had

no energy. It was a chore cleaning up my house as well as actively

working, working on my marriage,and engaging with my children. I had

become digusted with my weight, and disgusted with my laziness.

74lbs, 4.5months later I am no longer on bp-meds, and whats even

greater is I am discovering I am not lazy. My stamina is increasing

and what I thought was laziness was lack of energy. I weighed what 3

average women would weigh. it was amazing that i could function.

I know you have read dozens of stories like mine or worse( in

terms of co-morbidites). I thought I would share a little because it

takes sooooo much energy to fight for your life. To have made the

decision and and to run into road blocks. Remember if the road is

blocked there is a detour. You can go around this road block.

Fight for your life. If someone does or dose'nt believe this

surgery is for them:O.K. Whether someone loses weight or not:O.K.

You must muster the strength to do what is best for you. This is it.

You don't get another chance at THIS life. Don't let this

dissapointment or feeling sad, sap your motivation and energy to look

for a different Doc or investagate the other reccomendations. Like

any detour sometimes it takes longer...but you will get there. My

favorite saying is " this is not a dress rehersal " . Good luck...keep

going.

Irma in raleigh

[Guest guest]

Very Well Said, Irma! Congrats on the new life. I am starting to

feel some of that energy, too and it feels great!!!

Laurie

8/20/00

20 lbs gone

> Candy,

> Most responses started with reccomending a new doc. I don't know

> you but my expierence has been exhausting sometimes. It will be

worth

> your efforts. I am among the heaviest of thoes that have gotten the

> MGB. My co-morbidiities were high blood pressure, lymphydemia, and

a

> family history of diabetes.I am a mother, wife,@ social worker.I

had

> no energy. It was a chore cleaning up my house as well as actively

> working, working on my marriage,and engaging with my children. I

had

> become digusted with my weight, and disgusted with my laziness.

> 74lbs, 4.5months later I am no longer on bp-meds, and whats

even

> greater is I am discovering I am not lazy. My stamina is increasing

> and what I thought was laziness was lack of energy. I weighed what 3

> average women would weigh. it was amazing that i could function.

> I know you have read dozens of stories like mine or worse( in

> terms of co-morbidites). I thought I would share a little because

it

> takes sooooo much energy to fight for your life. To have made the

> decision and and to run into road blocks. Remember if the road is

> blocked there is a detour. You can go around this road block.

> Fight for your life. If someone does or dose'nt believe this

> surgery is for them:O.K. Whether someone loses weight or not:O.K.

> You must muster the strength to do what is best for you. This is

it.

> You don't get another chance at THIS life. Don't let this

> dissapointment or feeling sad, sap your motivation and energy to

look

> for a different Doc or investagate the other reccomendations. Like

> any detour sometimes it takes longer...but you will get there. My

> favorite saying is " this is not a dress rehersal " . Good

luck...keep

> going.

> Irma in raleigh

[Guest guest]

Wow Irma!!!

That was so great! I am approaching surgery soon (I hope), and I have been

researching it since May of this year. Fighting with my husband's group

insurance since June. Now I am going as a self-pay, believe me that was hard to

convince my husband I was worth that much money!! LOL Finally he is at my side,

as all my other family members ( it was so tiring to hear that everyone loves me

fat, ugh).

Thank you for all the incouragement, even if I was only ease-dropping on your

conversation with Candy...

And Candy, please don't give up, I know there are alot of people out there, that

just don't understand how it feels to be fat. We who do want you to be happy,

and especially healthy again! Trudy Strong

Re: Today was a really bad day!!!

> Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight.

Said

> that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

> going to take over my life.

> > Im so sad!!!

>

> Candy

Candy,

Most responses started with reccomending a new doc. I don't know

you but my expierence has been exhausting sometimes. It will be worth

your efforts. I am among the heaviest of thoes that have gotten the

MGB. My co-morbidiities were high blood pressure, lymphydemia, and a

family history of diabetes.I am a mother, wife,@ social worker.I had

no energy. It was a chore cleaning up my house as well as actively

working, working on my marriage,and engaging with my children. I had

become digusted with my weight, and disgusted with my laziness.

74lbs, 4.5months later I am no longer on bp-meds, and whats even

greater is I am discovering I am not lazy. My stamina is increasing

and what I thought was laziness was lack of energy. I weighed what 3

average women would weigh. it was amazing that i could function.

I know you have read dozens of stories like mine or worse( in

terms of co-morbidites). I thought I would share a little because it

takes sooooo much energy to fight for your life. To have made the

decision and and to run into road blocks. Remember if the road is

blocked there is a detour. You can go around this road block.

Fight for your life. If someone does or dose'nt believe this

surgery is for them:O.K. Whether someone loses weight or not:O.K.

You must muster the strength to do what is best for you. This is it.

You don't get another chance at THIS life. Don't let this

dissapointment or feeling sad, sap your motivation and energy to look

for a different Doc or investagate the other reccomendations. Like

any detour sometimes it takes longer...but you will get there. My

favorite saying is " this is not a dress rehersal " . Good luck...keep

going.

Irma in raleigh

[Guest guest]

Candy,

I went to my pcp (now my former pcp) because my Asthma was way out of

control and he prescribed me a truck load of Asthma meds and then told me

the severity of the Asthma was due to my weight. He told me to go on a 1200

calorie a day diet, he said he didn't care how I did it but do it. He

provided me no help, no compassion and no follow up. He just prescribed

drugs to treat what he saw was a disease (the Asthma) and viewed the obesity

as my fault therefore undeserving of any help.

I lost 25lbs on my own and promptly gained 35lbs back. If your doctor

doesn't want to help you... dump him! Find one that cares enough to realize

obesity is a disease that needs to be addressed aggressively by the medical

community. Find a doctor that will care enough to research this with you.

And Finally... find enough love and compassion for yourself to do this if it

is right for you and don't let anything stop you... That's what I'm doing.

Like the L'Oreal commercial says... I'M WORTH IT!!!

Good Luck,

Jackie in Georgia

>From: cottoncandync@...

>Reply-To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com

>To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com

>Subject: Today was a really bad day!!!

>Date: Sat, 30 Sep 2000 03:50:46 -0000

>

>Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight. Said

>that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

>going to take over my life.

>

>I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought this

>was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

>absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for me.

>He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

>PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

>

>On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

>started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on my

>own I was headed for cancer.

>

>I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

>know what to do now.

>

>Im so sad!!!

>

>Candy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Candy, I'm in the same predicament -- please, please don't let us give up.

Not all doctors are sympathetic to our needs and for that matter to our

health and well being. I live in County land and can't find a

doctor. But, I'm sure with this e-mail help group, you will definitely find

someone in your area. I pray that you do. It's worth the struggle --

don't give up. I know it feels like someone has hit you in your gut, but get

up and start fighting back. I know in my heart you will find a very support

doctor. Ask around, you would be surprised about how many people have had

this done, but just don't talk about and I bet you will find someone. Please

let me know how it turns out. My prayers and support are with you.

Kaufmann -- Desperately seeking supportive doctor in County land.

[Guest guest]

Candy;

Please allow me to offer my advice as a medical professional....

Fire your PCP. He is woefully misinformed. You have the right as a patient

to change PCP's. You employ him... not the other way around. Pardon the

rant... I have very little patience for " God-Complex, " doctors.

I have PCOS (along with other co-morbidities) and have been informed by

*both* my PCP and my GYN that this is good and viable option for me. (My

PCP is board certified in internal medicine.)

I hope you can find better support elsewhere. You deserve it!

My best;

Jenn in Vancouver, WA

BMI 48

MGB preop 11-1-00

Self Pay

*******************************************************

Message: 5

Date: Sat, 30 Sep 2000 03:50:46 -0000

From: cottoncandync@...

Subject: Today was a really bad day!!!

Today I went to my doctor and he fussed at me about my weight. Said

that if I didnt get a hold of my Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome it was

going to take over my life.

I took him my packet and information and asked him if he thought this

was a good surgery for me and he about fell in the floor, he said

absolutley NO!!! He said that this surgery was not an option for me.

He said it wouldnt work. I told him I had talked to people who has

PCOS and that it worked for them, but he wouldnt listen to me.

On top of everything else he told me today that I have diabetes and

started me on medication. He said if I couldnt lose the weight on my

own I was headed for cancer.

I feel like all the walls caved in on me at that moment and I dont

know what to do now.

Im so sad!!!

Candy

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