Guest guest Posted November 14, 2003 Report Share Posted November 14, 2003 I just had my baby girl I have a two yr old with cf a one yr old and now a 2 month old. I chose not to have any testing done b/c I wanted to enjoy being pregnant I always feel like people judge me b/c i took a chance with my children having cf.. I just knew i would feel even worse if i knew the baby had cf i figured id enjoy being pregnant b/c if the baby did have cf I probably wouldnt be happy for a long time so I had at least my nine months of being happy.....as it turns out Sara does have cf and I do feel so guilty but God doesnt create babies for nothing I just am so sad lately I dont understand this...Im 21 I was married but he couldnt cope with the cf and left I now have 3 kids and it doesnt look like Adam even cares Im in college fulltime basicly survivng on madison ssi check and financial aid and all i can say is why? why my girls? ive tried being possitive I just cant anymore Sara was diagnosed 3 days ago and it all takes me back to the day maddie was born...im tired im sad i hate this i dont understand how something so wonderful and pure has to go through this horrible disease i never imgined my life this way i always pictured the happy marriage healthy kids and now im divorced pratically it doesnt look like ill ever be off welfare and healthy kids what a dream... cfmommy21@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2003 Report Share Posted November 14, 2003 Ditto! I think it's a great idea. Tina Mom to Christian 12 yowcf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 you know maddie was on tobi when i was preg and nobody told me not to be around it cfmommy21@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 I suspect that your are just a little stressed right now. What with 3 children 2 and under. That in itself would be a chore not to mention the added fun of CF. It is not to late to change the way your life is going. What do you want realistically? Decide what it is and go after it. Good things do not happen overnight. You have come this far and you are still young. If you love your husband, concentrate on helping him to cope with the cf. Some of us just need a little more time than others. At least then you will have another person to help out with whatever might come your way. I wish the best for you and know that it is not easy to be a wife, mother and all other things involved. We just do it because we are MOM's. And I know you are a great Mom. Hug your babies and get to whatever it is you want to do. Best wishes, Tina W., mother of Steph, 18yo wcf Re: Tobi question/baby stuff I just had my baby girl I have a two yr old with cf a one yr old and now a 2 month old. I chose not to have any testing done b/c I wanted to enjoy being pregnant I always feel like people judge me b/c i took a chance with my children having cf.. I just knew i would feel even worse if i knew the baby had cf i figured id enjoy being pregnant b/c if the baby did have cf I probably wouldnt be happy for a long time so I had at least my nine months of being happy.....as it turns out Sara does have cf and I do feel so guilty but God doesnt create babies for nothing I just am so sad lately I dont understand this...Im 21 I was married but he couldnt cope with the cf and left I now have 3 kids and it doesnt look like Adam even cares Im in college fulltime basicly survivng on madison ssi check and financial aid and all i can say is why? why my girls? ive tried being possitive I just cant anymore Sara was diagnosed 3 days ago and it all takes me back to the day maddie was born...im tired im sad i hate this i dont understand how something so wonderful and pure has to go through this horrible disease i never imgined my life this way i always pictured the happy marriage healthy kids and now im divorced pratically it doesnt look like ill ever be off welfare and healthy kids what a dream... cfmommy21@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 Wow! I don't even know how to reply. Times are definately hard for you right now. I really believe that if you keep peddling, you and your babies will be okay. It's hard enough that two of your babies have CF, but I know that it is even much harder that your husband has decided to leave you alone to deal with everything alone. I hope that you have family close by to help. I had Toni, my daughter, when I was just sixteen. I got married because of it. He was abusive, unemployed and frequesntly in trouble with the law. I guess that I was too young to think that there could ever be anyone else for me. Well, eventually I got a divorce, a G.E.D. and a two yr. degree in electronics (with the help of public aid). Now (almost 30 years later) can hardly remember those days. Just keep peddling. You are obviuosly a loving mommy. Your children are your reward!!! Good luck and please keep in touch with us. Gale Grandma to Abby (23 months wcf) > I just had my baby girl I have a two yr old with cf a one yr old and now a 2 > month old. I chose not to have any testing done b/c I wanted to enjoy being > pregnant I always feel like people judge me b/c i took a chance with my children > having cf.. I just knew i would feel even worse if i knew the baby had cf i > figured id enjoy being pregnant b/c if the baby did have cf I probably wouldnt > be happy for a long time so I had at least my nine months of being > happy.....as it turns out Sara does have cf and I do feel so guilty but God doesnt create > babies for nothing I just am so sad lately I dont understand this...Im 21 I > was married but he couldnt cope with the cf and left I now have 3 kids and it > doesnt look like Adam even cares Im in college fulltime basicly survivng on > madison ssi check and financial aid and all i can say is why? why my girls? ive > tried being possitive I just cant anymore Sara was diagnosed 3 days ago and it > all takes me back to the day maddie was born...im tired im sad i hate this i > dont understand how something so wonderful and pure has to go through this > horrible disease i never imgined my life this way i always pictured the happy > marriage healthy kids and now im divorced pratically it doesnt look like ill ever > be off welfare and healthy kids what a dream... > cfmommy21@a... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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