Worried friends and family

[Guest guest]

Hey Tammie,

I know what your going through, I've had the same remarks from some

family members and of course those thats never had a weight problem.

Hang in there and don't worry about what they say, its your life, and your

decision. You've got to do what is good for you.

Joyce

Still waiting in Indiana

[Guest guest]

Tammy,

My husbnad is a physician...and believe ME...with 5...almost 6 kids...he

wouldn't have let ME have this surgery....nor would my Dr.....if he felt it

wasn't in my best interest. We both researched this a lot...and then meeting

and talking to Dr R...helped...

Hope this helps!

Dede...

leaving Friday to pick up new daughter Sophie from Romania!

[Guest guest]

> > He doesn't have

> a weight problem and thinks this is the EASY way out. GEEZ!!!!

Hi Tammy,

It's not unusual for people to initially think this is an easy way

out.... How ignorant of them. Some easy way out... we are risking

our life and changing our life style forever. Ask them if they would

be willing to not have coffee or alcohol ever again. Ask them if

they would be willing to not eat their favorite fried foods or

desserts again. This is far from easy. We all have finally reached

this decision because we have already tried everything else. People

need to realize that morbid obesity is a medical condition and not

all our fault. I think a lot of people will also tell about

opposition from their husbands saying it is the easy way out when in

reality they are really concerned for your safety and also how it may

change the relationship. Tammy, you know what is best for you, don't

let other people's ignorance knock you off center.

Jane McShane

MGB 3/20/00

250 / 179

[Guest guest]

Tammy,

I have told everyone I know and haven't had one

negative thing said. Wasn't sure why, but someone

enlightened me. I tell them what I am GOING TO DO, I

do not ask their opinion and if they want to discuss

it I say, " Go to the website, study and research it

all and when you can carry on a conversation about it

with me, then we will talk. " That pretty much changes

their tune. How can they tell us what we are doing is

not good until they research it for themselves? I

don't care what anyone thinks, I am just sharing my

happy news, no need for their opinions.

Hope this helps!

=====

Kristi in AL

BMI49

current 288

surgery date 9/21

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/16/2000 3:40:18 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

Bblueeyes1968@... writes:

<< Congratulations ldavis4014 on such a great weight loss!!! way to

go!!

Tammy in Wisconsin

BMI 50 >>

Tammy I wish I had lots of advice for you. people who have never had a weight

problem just don't get it. They think it should just be easy to lose, but

because they've never had to do it they just can't realize. I've told my

husband more than one time to try and comprehend tying a 100 lb. weight on

his back and lug it around 24 hrs. a day for a week and then he might

understand how tired I feel all the time. I'm lucky he is totally supportive

of me. Just try to get your hubby to read the manuel, read at Dr. R's web

site and read some of the post here and hopefully that will help him realize.

Most of the times our husbands less than enthusiastic reactions are just from

loving us and being afraid of something going wrong. Just try to make him see

that in life there are always risks, everytime you drive a car you take a

risk. I don't know if this helps, I got started rambling. Sorry!!!

Cathy Morrow in Lenoir, NC

BMI 42

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step