Re: CF in Familes/Rosemary/Deb-Long rambling

[Guest guest]

Rosemary,

Have you ever thought of having someone watch the kids and the two of you

have a day or night to just talk about what you both want. I know how hard it

can

be when the kids are around and tell him exactly how you feel because you

don't want to hurt the kids but he really need a reality check! Let him know

that

it has come to the end and it is time to move on because the only person that

can help him is him and it is obvious that he doesn't want to change. You

need to let him know that he has changed for the worse and he is bring you down

and you don't need that with everything there is with the kids you don't have

the time or the energy to help him the only person that can do that is himself!

Tell him you want to know NOW how things are going to be so you can start

making change because like my Dad always said there are more fish in the sea!! I

am sorry things are this way I just wish I could be there to give you a hug

because you need it right now and I just wish I could be the one to give it to

you. You just need something nice to happen to you because you are a wonderful

person and deserve the very best! And when I heard that on Good Morning

America I thought of you!! Hang in there and doing what is best for you!!!!!!

Deb A

[Guest guest]

Rosemary,

I really feel for you and your children. I grew up with an alcoholic

father. He was abusive when he drank. I used to pray that he would

die. I know that sounds terrible, but as a kid I couldn't see any

other way for the terror to end. My mother was afraid of him and

wouldn't leave. Alcohol can do terrible things to a family. I wish

that I could give you some great advise, but there is no " one right

answer " . What ever you do, will be the correct decision. I just

wish that I lived closer so that I could help out with the kids once

and a while.

Gale

> You are so sweet...I am having a very hard time with school. My

husband has

> been drinking like a fish, thus I have not been studying. I have

to go a

> business trip this week but I am hoping that when I come back to

tell him to

> leave.

>

> Last night was horrible. He was drinking and screaming so I

quietly took the

> kids and we all went to my friends and returned when he was out

cold and

> drooling. In the car my son (10) said... " You and Dad will get

divorced when Dylan

> goes to College " . I was like WHAT?? Apparently his teacher said

that

> parents that fight now usually divorce when their kids go to

college. (13)

> chimes in " Why don't you divorce him already...enough is

enough " ....My guidance

> counselor said Alholics are happy one minute crazy the next just

like DAD....

>

> added - " its not like Dad does anything with

us " ................

>

> I am so freaked out. I know what I must do for my children's sake

but am

> totally terrified of him and being broke and the kids getting sick

and being

> spread too thin. I Know he does NOTHING anyway - he doesn't even

know their damn

> treatments.............

>

>

> Rambling.............

>

> Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7)

> with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have

> coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT "

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