just griping

[Guest guest]

Hello all,

I guess I am going to finish up this year with a bang. I guess it is not

really cf related, my husbands daughter is pregnant again. This is #4 before

she is 19. She has had a baby every year, since she left to live with her mom.

Anyway, its not the babies fault, the only problem I have with it is that these

kids keep getting thrown on me. No, I am not saying I dont want them. I have

taken them repeatedly, until they get a notion to come take them back again.

Heres the deal, my husband only brings home $427 a week, thats not alot when I

have 3 boys at home. So, I help my sister in law clean houses to kind of

supplement our income, meds, etc.... Every time I get the kids thrown on me, I

cant work. Trying to keep up with 3 kids (6mo. , 1 yr., 2yr.) really takes away

from the boys who really need me. I can just imagine whats gonna happen when

there is 4.

Anyway, I'll shut up. I know this isnt really anything to get upset about. I

cant change it. Dont know why its getting to me.

Vondie

[Guest guest]

Vondie,

You MUST be pulling your hair out.I have 3 children of my own and i

tend to want to go psycho once in a awile, lol!

Has anyone talked to this young girl about BIRTH CONTROL?!?!Its not

fair that they keep getting put on you.Of course you'll help those

children when you can, YOU are responsible as an individual, but at

what point do you draw the line?!I wish I had some good solid advice,

but all I can think of is to take that girl to the health dept

yourself for B.C. even if it means you have to pay foir it.(its

cheaper than raising morfe of her kids).

OMG, I wish you the best of luck.

P.S. Maybe you could have your husband talk to her about this

situation.

I'm thinking of you and wishing the best for those children also.

Patty, mom to Ty, 8wcf and 2 lil ones wocf

> Hello all,

> I guess I am going to finish up this year with a bang. I guess

it is not really cf related, my husbands daughter is pregnant again.

This is #4 before she is 19. She has had a baby every year, since

she left to live with her mom. Anyway, its not the babies fault, the

only problem I have with it is that these kids keep getting thrown on

me. No, I am not saying I dont want them. I have taken them

repeatedly, until they get a notion to come take them back again.

> Heres the deal, my husband only brings home $427 a week, thats

not alot when I have 3 boys at home. So, I help my sister in law

clean houses to kind of supplement our income, meds, etc.... Every

time I get the kids thrown on me, I cant work. Trying to keep up

with 3 kids (6mo. , 1 yr., 2yr.) really takes away from the boys who

really need me. I can just imagine whats gonna happen when there is

4.

> Anyway, I'll shut up. I know this isnt really anything to get

upset about. I cant change it. Dont know why its getting to me.

> Vondie

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[Guest guest]

Vondie,

Wow, it sounds like you should write a letter to Dr. Phil or call

Dr. ! More than likely they would tell you that you are

enabling your husbands daughter. If she wants to dump the kids on

you and you can't take the time from work, you need to say no. Force

her to be responsible for her own children as you have your children

to take care of. It was her choice to get pregnant and have babies

without having the means to take care of them. If you stand up for

yourself and tell her that you cannot take care of her children then

you will force her to grow up and take responsibility for her

actions. It may be hard for you to stand by and watch what she and

those babies are going to have to go through but the best way for

you to help is not by taking care of the babies, but by offering her

information on adoptions or perhaps by looking into what kind of

help she could get from state assistance etc...

I don't mean to cross any boundaries or step on any toes, I just

wanted to give you another perspective

Try and have a Happy New Year!

e, mom to Ian 13 nocf and , 10 wcf