Re: Re: I need to blow some steam off!!!!!!/JOE

[Guest guest]

Joe, I really liked your last post, and it is a reminder to me that these folks

who

must pollute the air of those around them, are not only cruel, self-centered, ir

responsible, etc. as well as uninformed: they are ADDICTS in more ways than

just smoking! I think you nailed the issue very well. Thank you, n Rojas

Re: I need to blow some steam off!!!!!!

Deb,

Don't let this slide because it'll be a missed opportunity to educate

him. While it's all fresh in yours and everyone else's mind go ahead

and address it head-on. Then maybe you didn't have a crappy

Christmas for no reason. Write him a letter, give him the video,

whatever. That'll probably work better than a face to face. Sounds

like he's kind of the " tush hog " or " king daddy " around the family

and everyone stays out of his way. Men like that have a way of

dominating the conversation or either pissing you off the way they

receive you and make you say things you shouldn't.

Hey, this is a big deal. I have a REAL domineering father also and

he and I almost come to blows (or we used to) before getting things

straight. I refuse to let him run over me. And in this situation

you and ESPECIALLY your husband are downright obligated to stand up

to him. He is begging for someone to set him straight. It may be

that he just doen't know how serious it is. He's probably used to

people ranting about his smoking and he thinks y'all are just going

overboard. Give him a " CF 101 " short course. Then after you've laid

it out there if he doesn't respect you then you need to tell him to

get lost. I don't think that'll be the case though. I think he's

just a hard-headed fool that doesn't want to face this disease and

let it change any of his rotten habits. Hey the gene on your

husband's side could have come from him anyway.

Really though, confront it NOW. Just don't be too mean right off the

bat. Do let him know you are upset, though. Good luck and keep us

posted.

Joe

> Deb,

>

> You said it so perfectly ...(below)... I'd repeat it to him, just

> like you wrote to us. I think that might get through to him.

>

>

> " I feel so bad for my girls they miss out on so

> > much because of CF. I don't know how many times I have had to

tell

> my oldest she

> > can't go to someone's house because she has to come home and do

her

> medicine.

> > IT JUST ISN'T FAIR!! Now this is just one more thing she will

miss

> out on!

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