Guest guest Posted October 31, 2003 Report Share Posted October 31, 2003 I know what you mean. A friend of mine recently asked me, " So what have you been up to? " The only things I have been up to are doctor appointments and pharmacy visits. Then, I remembered all of the fun things I used to do with this friend - bike rides, movies, wine tasting, etc. Our lives have changed so much. Luckily she is a friend that makes the effort to see Zach which I greatly appreciate, but she can't relate to my lifestyle. They take vacations to the beach and call us at least three times to tell us how great the water, sun, sand are. It is hard not to be jealous. No one can relate except all of you. Sara My lifestyle - I am always > HOME - I used to always be out. Now life revolves around treatments and the > Drug Store schedule. I never worried about health and other peoples kids health > - now I am the health police. If I hear a cough I interrogate the kids. If > a friend is sick a lot - well, maybe Timmy would rather play in the PARK with > you. > > I have done a 360 in my life - not bad - I know I am a better person. I have > met wonderful people (ALLYOU GUYS)...and many others - almost as many as the > people, friends, family I lost along the way. > > Last night when I was crying to my sister all she kept saying was " I don't > know the answer " . If she said it once she said it a thousand times. I just > needed to vent. Why does everyone feel they must answer. Just acknowledge and > be supportive. > > I have no idea why I am writing so much..........I guess because I am > AVOIDING studying. All my kids are at Halloween parties and I am home ALONE..I can > count on one hand the times I am home a lone in a year!!!! > > Thanks for listening to me ramble and feel sorry for myself. > > DON't EVER NOMINATE ME.................. > > I have red hair too n. > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2003 Report Share Posted November 1, 2003 Rosemary, Your sister may not have the answer but there are those who do. Could you attend an a meeting for families of alcoholics? I know it is not the Alcoholics Anonymous, but it is a similar group for families. They know what you are going through and may give you the tools you need to leave. As others have stated your husband must heal himself and unfortunately that leaves you to heal yourself and the kids. So unfair. An alcoholic cannot understand logic and reason because they are in a vacuum of irrational behavior. I don't know if you can ever get over the pain of a loved one choosing alcohol instead of holding on to the love they were given, but I hope the answers appear for you soon. Sara > > Last night when I was crying to my sister all she kept saying was " I don't > know the answer " . If she said it once she said it a thousand times. I just > needed to vent. Why does everyone feel they must answer. Just acknowledge and > be supportive. > > I have no idea why I am writing so much..........I guess because I am > AVOIDING studying. All my kids are at Halloween parties and I am home ALONE..I can > count on one hand the times I am home a lone in a year!!!! > > Thanks for listening to me ramble and feel sorry for myself. > > DON't EVER NOMINATE ME.................. > > I have red hair too n. > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2003 Report Share Posted November 2, 2003 Rosemary, That group is called ALANON and they are great. I have gone to a few meetings with my M-I-L because my bro-in-law was living with her and she needed some support. They also have ALATEEN for kids of alcoholics but I am not sure if that group is for kids as young as yours. I hope that you are able to find the support you need. Remember we are all here for you too! Re: RAVINGS OF A LUNATIC Rosemary, Your sister may not have the answer but there are those who do. Could you attend an a meeting for families of alcoholics? I know it is not the Alcoholics Anonymous, but it is a similar group for families. They know what you are going through and may give you the tools you need to leave. As others have stated your husband must heal himself and unfortunately that leaves you to heal yourself and the kids. So unfair. An alcoholic cannot understand logic and reason because they are in a vacuum of irrational behavior. I don't know if you can ever get over the pain of a loved one choosing alcohol instead of holding on to the love they were given, but I hope the answers appear for you soon. Sara > > Last night when I was crying to my sister all she kept saying was " I don't > know the answer " . If she said it once she said it a thousand times. I just > needed to vent. Why does everyone feel they must answer. Just acknowledge and > be supportive. > > I have no idea why I am writing so much..........I guess because I am > AVOIDING studying. All my kids are at Halloween parties and I am home ALONE..I can > count on one hand the times I am home a lone in a year!!!! > > Thanks for listening to me ramble and feel sorry for myself. > > DON't EVER NOMINATE ME.................. > > I have red hair too n. > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2003 Report Share Posted November 2, 2003 Rosemary Alanon attempts to teach YOU not to be a " co-alcoholic " by which they mean an " enabler. You could try it, but I wouldn't be sending any baloons up over it! Love, n, giving un-asked-for suggestion to favourite neice! Re: RAVINGS OF A LUNATIC Rosemary, Your sister may not have the answer but there are those who do. Could you attend an a meeting for families of alcoholics? I know it is not the Alcoholics Anonymous, but it is a similar group for families. They know what you are going through and may give you the tools you need to leave. As others have stated your husband must heal himself and unfortunately that leaves you to heal yourself and the kids. So unfair. An alcoholic cannot understand logic and reason because they are in a vacuum of irrational behavior. I don't know if you can ever get over the pain of a loved one choosing alcohol instead of holding on to the love they were given, but I hope the answers appear for you soon. Sara > > Last night when I was crying to my sister all she kept saying was " I don't > know the answer " . If she said it once she said it a thousand times. I just > needed to vent. Why does everyone feel they must answer. Just acknowledge and > be supportive. > > I have no idea why I am writing so much..........I guess because I am > AVOIDING studying. All my kids are at Halloween parties and I am home ALONE..I can > count on one hand the times I am home a lone in a year!!!! > > Thanks for listening to me ramble and feel sorry for myself. > > DON't EVER NOMINATE ME.................. > > I have red hair too n. > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2003 Report Share Posted November 2, 2003 I have looked up meetings - get this - they are mostly (95%) at night at 8:00! How pray tell can a spouse leave their children with their drunken husband? Hopefully I will locate a day one......... Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2003 Report Share Posted November 2, 2003 Its also hard cause he is usually drinking and I hate leaving the kids with him. i feel like I am being held hostage at night!!!!!! Thanks...........its nice to know someone cares. Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2003 Report Share Posted November 3, 2003 Rosemary, My mother took us with her to the meetings (30 years ago). It would be hard for you to fit in three treatments and go to an 8pm meeting. If I were closer, I'd babyset for you. Gale > I have looked up meetings - get this - they are mostly (95%) at night at > 8:00! How pray tell can a spouse leave their children with their drunken husband? > Hopefully I will locate a day one......... > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2003 Report Share Posted November 3, 2003 Dear Rosemary . I feel so badly that I or some of us aren't nearer to you to spell you or at least BE THERE for you. We are all here on the list for you , you know that, but I really do wish you have some hands on folks there to help as well. Will his mom or any of your help out at all. It would be so nice for you to see other folks for a break. If there is ANY way I might help -PLEASE call me. LOVE & HUGS, grandmomBEv Re: Re: RAVINGS OF A LUNATIC Its also hard cause he is usually drinking and I hate leaving the kids with him. i feel like I am being held hostage at night!!!!!! Thanks...........its nice to know someone cares. Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2003 Report Share Posted November 3, 2003 You are right. Daytime meetings make so much more sense. Good luck! Sara > I have looked up meetings - get this - they are mostly (95%) at night at > 8:00! How pray tell can a spouse leave their children with their drunken husband? > Hopefully I will locate a day one......... > > Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.11 and 7) > with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have > coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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