Re: From Lily to Chrissy

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Chrissy,

Thanks for the email. Just getting around to checking Email and getting my

bearings again.I feel weird not taking care of my dad , as I took care of him

almost every night for 14 years. I actually cleaned out some closets tonight.

Went back to work this week, work was piled up,,, you would of thought someone

would of done some of my work,,, no such luck. So now I am really stressed !

I have been lurking now and then on the board, really haven't had a chance to

post till tonight. I am thinking of you every day. I can feel the fear in your

emails about your surgery. That is perfectly understandable. I think you are

just plum afraid. Afraid of not having any control of the outcome. Afraid of not

knowing what the future brings. Rest assurred that is all normal. I don't think

they would of recommended the procedure unless they really thought it was in

your brest intertest. Dr. Cotton has a really solid reputation. And if it will

buy you time,, that is great. In addition, once they get in there they can

really look around. Plus if you end up needing the total,, then at least you

know Sutherland is available. So you still have options. You are a healthy young

woman aside from your pancreas. Your body will pull you thru this. Sure you will

have post op pain but ou can control that. You will be OK. I will pray for your

peace of mind Chrissy. Don't feel bad about crying,, it needs to come out. You

will pull thru, you will, just wait and see !

If I don't speak with you by the 26th, please know my heart is with you.

Lily

Lily

I hope you and your family are doing ok in the wake of your fathers

death. My heart goes out to you now and I understand and emphathise

with you entirely. Please let me know if there is anything I can

help you with. Your mother will need to change many things and

ya'll will need a lawyer. I planned my mother's estate after my dad

died perfectly and I went the easy route. Saved a bundle in probate

after her passing and didn't have to pay one penny on inheritance

tax. You mother will have many things to do but she doesn't have to

spend $1200 on a lawyer to do it all. Just to change the will and

the title of the house and that should cost less then $200. All the

other changes she can do easiely on her own. Please let me know if

there is any thing I can do to help. As a matter of fact, my

mother's estate worked out so well (except for those asshole

siblings of mine) that several of my friends have been asking for

advice as all our parents are getting older now.

Well I know it is a difficult time but she is going to be slammed by

all sorts of folks offering to do her legal stuff, Lily, they will

rip her off. So be careful, those people read the obits and look

for old widows to pounce upon.

With all my love, do you have my home phone number. Email me at

cdrrn@... if you need to talk.

Chrissy

Heys' where , she was just teasing us with her warm presence on

here or what. Tell her I said to get her bonkee back on the board!~

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