tantrums/pen pals

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is 11 in Feb going on 18. He seems to want to fight me in all

directions homework, brushing teeth, keeping his things away from his 3 year old

brother, teasing Jake, helping around the house a little i.e. putting his

washing

in the laundry basket.

Then there's the emotional stuff - He seems to think that he is my partner

not my child - I't's my fault the way I have brought him up - I always thought

that you should give kids as much confidence as you can - let them ask you any

question they want - let them tell you everything even though you may not

want to hear it - but I feel I did not give him enough boundaries.

I could put up with all this and more but I can't stand that he will not do

his treatments properly I know it's boring, I know he has " better " things to

do, I know he feels he doesn't need them - I have told him that if he does not

do them properly he runs the risk of dying younger, you all know that's a

hard thing to think about let alone say, but it seems to make no difference - I

am responsible for him - I love him so much I can't bear the thought of him not

making it further because he's being " stroppy " with his treatments.

I have also come to realise upon reading this e-mail through that I have

become very selfish it seems to be all about me and my feelings I'm sorry - my

heart goes out to each and every one of you that has to deal with CF especially

those who have it. Maybe if an older lad with CF wouldn't mind e-mailing

, he may not reply but he will read it.

Love to you and yours

Sheila

xxxxx

[Guest guest]

Sheila,

You are not being selfish. Your number one priority is your son. It is in

his best interest for you to be the heavy when it comes to him doing his

treatments. Especially now, he is on the beginning end of the teenage thing

and it only gets more difficult. Stick to your guns. Remember, you are the

mom and he is the child. My daughter used to think the same thing until she

began to get sick and had to have her first tune-up. Now she does her meds

and treatments like clock work.

Good luck. Stick to your guns and all will be well.

Tina W., mother of Steph, 18 yo wcf

tantrums/pen pals

is 11 in Feb going on 18. He seems to want to fight me in all

directions homework, brushing teeth, keeping his things away from his 3 year

old

brother, teasing Jake, helping around the house a little i.e. putting his

washing

in the laundry basket.

Then there's the emotional stuff - He seems to think that he is my partner

not my child - I't's my fault the way I have brought him up - I always

thought

that you should give kids as much confidence as you can - let them ask you

any

question they want - let them tell you everything even though you may not

want to hear it - but I feel I did not give him enough boundaries.

I could put up with all this and more but I can't stand that he will not do

his treatments properly I know it's boring, I know he has " better " things

to

do, I know he feels he doesn't need them - I have told him that if he does

not

do them properly he runs the risk of dying younger, you all know that's a

hard thing to think about let alone say, but it seems to make no difference

- I

am responsible for him - I love him so much I can't bear the thought of him

not

making it further because he's being " stroppy " with his treatments.

I have also come to realise upon reading this e-mail through that I have

become very selfish it seems to be all about me and my feelings I'm sorry -

my

heart goes out to each and every one of you that has to deal with CF

especially

those who have it. Maybe if an older lad with CF wouldn't mind e-mailing

, he may not reply but he will read it.

Love to you and yours

Sheila

xxxxx