Who's fault is it that you aren't losing weight?

[Guest guest]

Hi Sherry...

Figured if I would have kept the original subject line, no one would

read it... When we as pre-ops or sometimes those as post-ops ask those of

you who are not losing weight if you are exercising or eating " what you

should " , I honestly don't think it's someone trying to " blame " you..

Actually, the blame lies in your body itself.. It's nothing you can really

control but, you could maybe help it along with a little exercise and maybe

some " power " foods... Exercise and some foods are known to boost your

metabolism.. It may just be the thing you need.. I have always known I have

a low metabolism.. I will most likely be one of the " slow losers " after I

finally have my surgery.. But, I am willing to work with my body in every

way possible to get healthy.. NOT saying that you aren't helping your body!

Just trying to explain that we aren't *mean*... :)

In my thoughts and prayers,

Terri

> Dear Janet,

>

> I couldn't agree with you more. I think people (and naturally so) want to

> believe that this will work for them, so they have to find fault

elsewhere.

> And it does work for the majority of people. However, if like me it

doesn't,

> then it is a really devastating loss.

>

> I had surgery 8/10/00 and at 5 weeks had lost only 16 lbs - and was not a

> " light weight. (334 at surgery). I have been afraid to to weight again.

I

> can tell that I have lost a little more - but it is very slow. Alot of

> people are asking whether I am exercising and what I am eating - as if I

am

> to blame. Thankfully, my blood sugar readings have made a dramatic

> improvement, however.

>

> Good luck to you. Sherry in NC

[Guest guest]

Dear Terri,

Thanks for your post. I don't think anyone is blaming me or anyone else for

losing slowly. And of course, it is common sense to exercise and eat well to

maximize weightloss. What I was referring to about " blame " is that when I am

losing slowly, I already blame myself, and to have someone start asking

questions about what I am or am not doing - causes me to infer that they are

trying to find the cause/blame for the condition. I am sure no one means for

their questions to do this, and I certainly don't think anyone who is asking

is being mean. Just thought that after reading several similar posts, I

would point out how it makes some of us slow losers feel - when we already

feel responsible for our predicament.

Thanks for being concerned and posting. Feeling more optimistic everyday -

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherry, how slow are you losing? I'm still preop and hoping to go soon, but have

always had a very slow metabolism, and I'm worried that I won't loose as quickly

as everyone else seems to be doin.. Trudy Strong

Re: Who's fault is it that you aren't losing

weight?

Dear Terri,

Thanks for your post. I don't think anyone is blaming me or anyone else for

losing slowly. And of course, it is common sense to exercise and eat well to

maximize weightloss. What I was referring to about " blame " is that when I am

losing slowly, I already blame myself, and to have someone start asking

questions about what I am or am not doing - causes me to infer that they are

trying to find the cause/blame for the condition. I am sure no one means for

their questions to do this, and I certainly don't think anyone who is asking

is being mean. Just thought that after reading several similar posts, I

would point out how it makes some of us slow losers feel - when we already

feel responsible for our predicament.

Thanks for being concerned and posting. Feeling more optimistic everyday -

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherri: Thanks for such an insightful post.

Judith in Seattle

> Dear Terri,

> Thanks for your post. I don't think anyone is blaming me or anyone else

for

> losing slowly. And of course, it is common sense to exercise and eat

well to

> maximize weightloss. What I was referring to about " blame " is that when

I am

> losing slowly, I already blame myself, and to have someone start asking

> questions about what I am or am not doing - causes me to infer that they

are

> trying to find the cause/blame for the condition. I am sure no one

means for

> their questions to do this, and I certainly don't think anyone who is

asking

> is being mean. Just thought that after reading several similar posts, I

> would point out how it makes some of us slow losers feel - when we

already

> feel responsible for our predicament.

> Thanks for being concerned and posting. Feeling more optimistic

everyday -

> Sherry

[Guest guest]

Dear Trudy,

My weight loss rate - 16 pounds at 5 weeks. My surgery was Aug. 10 and I

can tell that I have lost more since then - just haven't weighed yet. I am

waiting to do so at my next Dr. appt. on oct. 10 - but I may drop by and do

it sooner just to find out.

Although I have complained alot about the slow loss (I am attending a wedding

in mid-Dec. and had hoped to have lost the average 70 lbs. by then), my blood

sugar is nearly normal. That in itself is a lifesaving benefit of the

surgery. Good luck. Sherry

P.S. I am 44 years old, which may contribute to the slow metabolism.