Re: Rethinking my recommendations

[Guest guest]

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Thank you for having such good character. I am sure when I get close to

my surgery date I will be just as tense.

preop

selfpay

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wrote:

> Hello again,

> Rethinking my earlier post...... some of you have written me with

> your comments about some of my recommendations. Thank you - I

> appreciate your comments. Looking back on what I wrote, I see how

> intolerant I sounded - I didn't mean to be. I am sorry. As Dr. R has

> said, these are highly emotional times - and they certainly are for

> me

> - my surgery date is next week and the hard issues being discussed on

> this and other websites are important and provocative and challenge

> my

> resolve. My real concerns are about that - not the way people

> post......I can see that my need to post my " recommendations " came

> from pure anxiety which would be better channeled elsewhere; some

> were

> stated unkindly and ignores that people need different

> things...living

> and learning....best regards,

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I am so proud of you for having the courage to " rethink " . I really

respect that!

Here is a startling quote about the value of support groups (which is

what I think this list serves as):

<<<<In his noted research, Dr. Spiegel of Stanford University,

noted that women with BREAST CANCER in a professionally run support

group, where one of the professional facilitators had breast cancer,

the group members had a survival rate double that of the control

group. ( " Effect of Psychosocial Treatment on Survival of Patients

with Metastatic Breast Cancer by Speigel, D, J. R. Bloom, H. C.

Kraemer, & Gottheil, E., " The Lancet, " 8668, 2, 1989, pp. 888-891).

>>>>

DOUBLE the survival rate! Amazing!

You are right we all need different things from this group. And

today, I am here to offer you support and to commend you for stepping

back and taking a fresh look!

By The Way: My spelling SUCKS! and these #%$*^ Egroups don't have

spellcheck! So please forgive me any mistakes. lololol

Warmly,

Beth in Florida

MGB 8/10/00

357/320

[Guest guest]

> Hello again,

> Rethinking my earlier post...... some of you have written me with

> your comments about some of my recommendations. Thank you - I

> appreciate your comments. Looking back on what I wrote, I see how

> intolerant I sounded - I didn't mean to be. I am sorry

> living

> and learning....best regards,

Hi ,

I was one of those who thought your earlier post was a little

intolerant, even though I didn't respond. But I have to respond now.

I want you to know that it takes a " very " courageous person to post

an apology like you did to this egroup. It's hard for any of us to

admit we might have made a mistake. What I'm trying to say, and not

very well I'm afraid, is your second post shows what a caring and

gracious person you are. I'm glad you are a part of this group.

Suzanne in NC

MGB 7/17/00

254/214

[Guest guest]

i agreed with some of what you said, although concurred that some of

it was unnecessarily harsh. but somebody who is able to actually re-

evaluate their own thoughts/words and maturely make adjustments

without a huge emotional to-do, that's a rare find! congrats! i think

you are doing a lot better emotionally than you think.

good luck next week.

> Hello again,

> Rethinking my earlier post...... some of you have written me with

> your comments about some of my recommendations. Thank you - I

> appreciate your comments. Looking back on what I wrote, I see how

> intolerant I sounded - I didn't mean to be. I am sorry. As Dr. R

has

> said, these are highly emotional times - and they certainly are for

> me

> - my surgery date is next week and the hard issues being discussed

on

> this and other websites are important and provocative and challenge

> my

> resolve. My real concerns are about that - not the way people

> post......I can see that my need to post my " recommendations " came

> from pure anxiety which would be better channeled elsewhere; some

> were

> stated unkindly and ignores that people need different

> things...living

> and learning....best regards,

[Guest guest]

I posted earlier this weekend about the loss of my dear friend and my sons

2nd grade teacher. I feel as though your recomendation #4 was directed

staight to me.

I am extremely emotional right now. Not only has my husband (with heart

trouble) been under the weather, I have had the extra trauma of losing

someone close to our family in the blink of an eye and last but not least my

" formal appeal " with BCBS for the MGB is Wednesday. I am extremely sorry

for venting or seeking support. I turned to people that I thought would

understand and possibly help me through this devastating time. I want to

thank all of you who did just that. The love and concern I felt for not

only me but Ryker as well has helped tremendously. I appologize for " taking

up space " with a personal issue not relavent to the MGB. If we can't turn

to one another this may not be the place for me.

I do want to commend you for having the courage to post about rethinking

your recomendations. I do not send this post to stir up trouble, I too am

highly emotional. I did want to let you know that your first post truly

hurt my feelings and I can only hope you did not intend for it to have that

effect.

I wish you the best of luck next week, who knows we could actually wind up

littermates (BCBS willing!) If we do you won't be able to resist me- you

would luv me I promise!!

Take care and good luck.

Dana Tart

Rethinking my recommendations

> Hello again,

> Rethinking my earlier post...... some of you have written me with

> your comments about some of my recommendations. Thank you - I

> appreciate your comments. Looking back on what I wrote, I see how

> intolerant I sounded - I didn't mean to be. I am sorry. As Dr. R has

> said, these are highly emotional times - and they certainly are for

> me

> - my surgery date is next week and the hard issues being discussed on

> this and other websites are important and provocative and challenge

> my

> resolve. My real concerns are about that - not the way people

> post......I can see that my need to post my " recommendations " came

> from pure anxiety which would be better channeled elsewhere; some

> were

> stated unkindly and ignores that people need different

> things...living

> and learning....best regards,

>

>

>

>