Re: grieving and update/Sharon

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Oh Sharon, I have been at this same place in grieving

and it's o.k. It will get better eventually. I took

care of my dad for 3 years before he died, and my mom

for an additional 5 years after that. It is SO hard

when they leave us. I remember the first Mother's Day

and Father's Day without them. I remember my first

birthday without them! Coming down on pred can make

you more emotional, but I think it is just normal to

go through these times. My dad always used to call

the person having the birthday first thing in the

morning and be the first to say happy birthday. It

was terrible without hearing his dear voice that first

year. Even tho' he has been dead for 14 years, I

still miss hearing his voice first thing on my

birthday. It doesn't tear me apart anymore, but I

still miss that.

For me grieving came in stages. It would be VERY

intense for awhile, then it would lighten up some,

then another period of intensity. What I didn't

realize that the intensity must of lessened just a bit

with each stage. For me, it was also harder losing

that second parent. When my mom died, I grieved all

over again for my dad also. It is not easy, but it

does get better. Now, I can think of the happy times,

miss them, but deal with it without grief.

Maybe you being so sick lately has something to do

with the intensity of your grief also. Sorry to hear

that you are still having problems. Please take care

of yourself!

Love, squeek

--- Lee27a@... wrote:

> I have been having a hard time dealing with my dad's

> passing away. Can

> someone tell me what a birthday and grieving have in

> common. Tomorrow is my

> birthday and my father was here last year for it.

> Now, all of a sudden I am

> realizing he's not going to be here I'm feel

> like the grieving is just

> beginning?? My Mom too, she always had a beautiful

> card for me and the

> memories are very vivid.

>

> I saw the surgeon yesterday and my forehead and head

> are still swollen. My

> head hurts so much. He said it's soft though??

> Also he gave me two long

> shots in my nose because it was swollen and remember

> he replaced the

> cartridge in it. Also was very red the day before

> so he injected a steroid

> right through it. Also, I see the Rheumy tomorrow.

> He might want to culture

> me again. Could going down on Pred make a person

> more emotional?

>

> My thoughts and Prayers are with everyone.

>

>

> Love,

> Sharon

>

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