Re: [MiniGastricBypass]Sherry

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Sherry, That post took guts,and it was well said and polite.Which we

could use more of on this list(IMHO).I hate that this surgery has not work

for you.I am trying to maintain objectivity about the MGB.It seems as if by

the time you struggle a lifetime with the weight and its stresses,both

physical and mental,then you have surgery that works for you,it as if you

have been saved,literally,from death,despair,humiliation,prejudice,poor

health and immobility.You can't help but believe that it is the best thing

going for anyone and everyone obese.But the MGB is not for everyone and

there are those it won't work on.It is reasonable that those,whom have been

saved,have a hard time believing it would not work for others,if only they

would somehow CHANGE what they eat or if they'd just exercise.(Wait a

minute,isn't that how non-obese people treat me now.)The bottomline is DrR

SAYS this will not work for everyone,that some will have leaks,and that you

may die,and that you may have some side affects pretty devastating to your

general health for the rest of your life.So WHY,for goodness sake,can the

SAVED not seem to have compassion for the ones who REALLY tried,risked it

and for whatever reason the procedure failed.Is 'WELL,YOU KNEW THE RISKS'a

compassionate response for someone who must be DEVASTATED and does not know

what they did to have it not work.Sherry you have done NOTHING WRONG.I for

one am sorry that the MGB has not worked for you.If ever you need someone

who will listen without PREJUDICE,feel free.I would like to see a little

compassion from a group that seems to pride themselves in their

comraderie.Whatever happened to " there but for the grace of God,go I " .If

you really think about it,I think that is the most appropriate response

anyone post-op could have.Or at least I will pray that you seek that level

of response. Janet

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Janet:

What a kind and generous person you must be.... Thank you for responding to

Sherry, in such a compassionate manner.

[Guest guest]

Janet,

While I agree with most of what you said, I do take exception with

your concern about where the compassion of the group is. There was a

great deal of compassion when all this first started. I'm not sure

how long you've been reading posts here but a lot of well meaning

people were abused and humiliated just for trying to be sympathetic.

I don't think there is anything wrong with getting all the

information out there. But sometimes the message is disregarded

because of the way it is delivered. That's a shame but reality.

> Sherry, That post took guts,and it was well said and

polite.Which we

> could use more of on this list(IMHO).I hate that this surgery has

not work

> for you.I am trying to maintain objectivity about the MGB.It seems

as if by

> the time you struggle a lifetime with the weight and its

stresses,both

> physical and mental,then you have surgery that works for you,it as

if you

> have been saved,literally,from

death,despair,humiliation,prejudice,poor

> health and immobility.You can't help but believe that it is the

best thing

> going for anyone and everyone obese.But the MGB is not for everyone

and

> there are those it won't work on.It is reasonable that those,whom

have been

> saved,have a hard time believing it would not work for others,if

only they

> would somehow CHANGE what they eat or if they'd just exercise.(Wait

a

> minute,isn't that how non-obese people treat me now.)The bottomline

is DrR

> SAYS this will not work for everyone,that some will have leaks,and

that you

> may die,and that you may have some side affects pretty devastating

to your

> general health for the rest of your life.So WHY,for goodness

sake,can the

> SAVED not seem to have compassion for the ones who REALLY

tried,risked it

> and for whatever reason the procedure failed.Is 'WELL,YOU KNEW THE

RISKS'a

> compassionate response for someone who must be DEVASTATED and does

not know

> what they did to have it not work.Sherry you have done NOTHING

WRONG.I for

> one am sorry that the MGB has not worked for you.If ever you need

someone

> who will listen without PREJUDICE,feel free.I would like to see a

little

> compassion from a group that seems to pride themselves in their

> comraderie.Whatever happened to " there but for the grace of God,go

I " .If

> you really think about it,I think that is the most appropriate

response

> anyone post-op could have.Or at least I will pray that you seek

that level

> of response. Janet

>

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