Being treated differently post-op.

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In a message dated 10/4/00 11:53:04 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

<< I also fear that if all goes well and I get approved for the surgery and

the

weight starts to come off, how I will feel when my friends and family start

treating me different. I know that this is one of things we all want is to

be treated better and respected, but how do you deal with knowing that these

people really have changed based upon how much weight I have surronding my

personality. >>

I work with alot of men. Some would treat me like a pal,or slap my back(like

I was a horse) when they saw me. Some said " don't have the surgery,you're

fine the way you are " , some would act like I disgusted them. Now,the ones

that acted like I disgusted them,hold the door for me.....and you know what,I

go through sooooooooooooo slow and smile. Hope their arms hurt! The ones that

used to compliment me at my heaviest are the ones I would do anything

for(well almost,I'm happily married). My point being -take notice of who

treats you well now. Be selective about who you'll date. Find the one who

likes you for you. You will be the same person. Their reactions may change

,but that's their problem. Focus on yourself-give yourself permission to be

beautiful,and love it! Totally enjoy the transformation!

My 2 cents,

Osler