Re: anyone adopted a child?Adoption/n's family's experience

[Guest guest]

One of my children (adult and married) is a cf carrier and is unable to

conceive;

they found after much research, an excellent agency, and adopted two children

from Mexico, twins, whose mother had died, and who had been abandoned by their

biological father. They did several things to protect the children and them and

the

family, especially, should a naturally-conceived child arrive later: they had

the boys

tested for HIV (direct viral count), for all forms of hepatitis, and for

parasites. The

children had been beautfully cared for by a maternal aunt and were in excellent

health. They have been my grandchildren now for seven years, and as my children

all speak Spanish, as does my son-in-law, their being bi-lingual just fits right

in.

Granny n, who is very proud of her adult children! (This may be a

multiple

blessing as G6PD runs in our family, and we are all carriers of Thalassemia

Alpha II--adoption has seemed wise.) My eldest child had a different father,

and

is nonetheless a cf carrier, but no known other contra-indications, and made up

for it all by having four very healthy children, none of whom is a cf carrier.

My son

gave up and adopted, with his wife, a son from Guatemala, and they promptly

had two girls. The whole family speaks at least two languages--it all seems to

be working out well--well, you can tell which granny here is happy! My husband,

upon proposing to me on Valentine's day, also proposed adopting my first child,

a product of collegiate idiocy on my part--but a great person--from the

beginning!

Obviously, the man won me over--and kid #1. I have never explained all of this

to anyone before--ever, but the post to which it is a reply sort of drew it out

of me!

I am definitely pro-adoption, and have seen it work out so very well.

Love and good fortune in reaching a decision right for you, J.

n Rojas, wcf, mom of 3 mature adults, youngest of which has cf, too!

All are carriers if the mother has cystic fibrosis!

anyone adopted a child?

Our 2nd round of In Vitro didn't work. For some reason, although I

am normally fertile, the little embryos just didn't want to stick.

We were using IVF using pre implantation genetic diagnosis to avoid

having another child with cf. We spent nearly $30,000 and have

NOTHING to show for it except for a bruised butt from injections.

Anyway, we have 2 choices left to provide a sibling for our 2 and 1/2

yr old son wcf. 1. Get pregnant naturally and do a CVS test. We did

that over the summer and the test results indicated an even more rare

chromosomal problem (1 in 5000) so we chose not to continue with the

pregnancy. I likely would have miscarried anyway. 2. Adopt. I

don't know if I am real excited about adopting. We have been through

so much with our son that I don't think I could love another child as

much. And what birthmother would want to give their child to a

couple who has to spend so much time attending to their biological

child. They would also be frightened of the words " Cystic Fibrosis " .

They'd probably think it was contagious.

So any advice? Anyone have a biological child and then adopted and

infant domestically? We are at a total loss. Very devastated by the

negative pregnancy test results and still desperately want a healthy

child. Why does this all have to be so hard? Damn damn damn CF.

mom to Ashton 2 1/2 wcf

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