Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Great news!! Good luck on getting you packet completed and in soon!! Cindy Hullings BMI 40 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Hi , I know what you mean! I have been really hyper, too. I know that I have to be driving the people around me crazy, too. I can't eat, sleep, or think straight since I started getting everything together. I am so excited ... not even the least bit scared. I think it is because for the first time in my life I can really truly see the light at the end of the tunnel. I now know that I will be " normal " soon. Congratulations on getting stuff together and Good Luck! Terri K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Hi Tara, My name is Judy and I am still in the looking phase. ( I am really much more close to a decision than that, just afraid that my insurance will give me a hard time. If I act as tho I haven't made a decision, and they fight me, then I'll not be so disappointed. How about that for a lesson in fantasy and denial?) I am writing to you to tell you what a delightful writer you are! Funny and clever and all-together human. And you're dancing in 16 days!!!! You must be thrilled. I would be. You mentioned that you're not a spring chicken, and that is interesting to me because neither am I, and I wonder if my skin will ever recover? Probably not. I'm going to need angelo the surgeon when all is said and done!!!! But I'd rather be thin with droopy skin, than fat and taut! You're going to breeze on through this. Are you going to Durham or having it locally? How long from when you had your papers together until insurance approval came? Or are you a self pay? Keep up the marvelous attitude and humor, and all will be grand! Thanks for spreading your joy. . Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Dear , You are not alone! Even though my body is willing, my brain refuses to gear down. My husband has just started calling me the night prowler. I'm tired. I lay down. I pretend to fall asleep for an hour or so. I get back up. I read the patient manual again. I lurk on the site. I dream of what I'll be able to do without all this extra weight. I lay back down. The whole cycle starts all over again the next night no matter how many promises I make to myself that I will be asleep at a decent hour. I go to work at 6 in the morning (and I'm no spring chicken) so this is getting silly. Last night he asked if he needed to handcuff me to the bedpost to stay in bed. While the offer was appealing (in other respects - hehe) I told him I had made up my mind not to prowl. Wouldn't you know, we had a horrific storm (the first rain in a over a month) that knocked out the electricity !! No reading, no computer, no prowling. I guess God was telling me to get some rest for this fantastic journey. Best Wishes, Tarri in Missouri Dancing in 16 Days Hyper in Atlanta > Hi gang, > I just realized (at 6am this morning!) that I have all 10 of my > contacts, my insurance letter has been sent in, I finally finished my > patient letter and the only thing I have left to do is get my pap > smear and mammogram!!!! I'm hoping I can get it as fast as got > his tests. I haven't worked this hard since my senior thesis in > college and I think that was at the turn of the last century. I'm > totally obsessed with all this. I feel like a zombie at work as I > can't think of anything else. Talk about compulsion! And now I've got > my mother obsessed too. I think she reads your posts as much as I do. > > Thanks for everyone's wonderful support. I'm going over to Durham > next week for work and will have my first meeting with Dr. R. I'm > also going to Cattleman's to meet everyone. I can't wait. Please keep > your fingers crossed for me. > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 - I felt the same way when I was working on my packet! Writing the patient letter was like a really personal term paper for me! Whew, was relieved to turn it in!! Good luck and I hope to see you at Calttleman's!! Dana Tart Hyper in Atlanta > Hi gang, > I just realized (at 6am this morning!) that I have all 10 of my > contacts, my insurance letter has been sent in, I finally finished my > patient letter and the only thing I have left to do is get my pap > smear and mammogram!!!! I'm hoping I can get it as fast as got > his tests. I haven't worked this hard since my senior thesis in > college and I think that was at the turn of the last century. I'm > totally obsessed with all this. I feel like a zombie at work as I > can't think of anything else. Talk about compulsion! And now I've got > my mother obsessed too. I think she reads your posts as much as I do. > > Thanks for everyone's wonderful support. I'm going over to Durham > next week for work and will have my first meeting with Dr. R. I'm > also going to Cattleman's to meet everyone. I can't wait. Please keep > your fingers crossed for me. > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 In a message dated 9/12/00 9:08:25 AM Eastern Daylight Time, rsrchcoord@... writes: << Dear , You are not alone! >> I'm 's mother and I'm also doing the 3 AM visit to the website! This is absolutely addictive. . .I am so excited for her. Good luck to you. . .I know you will come through with flying colors. . . Joan Spector Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Dear Judy, By no spring chicken I meant that I am 38 - I've spent half of my life in clothing that has an X in the label. My main motivation (besides being so depressed about myself that even the antidepressants need to come with X on the label) is so that my teenagers won't be embarrassed to have friends over to the house or for me to be at their extracurricular functions. They don't feel that way - but I sure do. My husband (who has weighed 230 since we were married 20 years ago) has never been cruel or malicious regarding my weight gain but I am twice the size I was when we married and I feel our relationship suffers. I am traveling to Durham from southwest Missouri to have this procedure done. I got all my reservations made yesterday and that was relieving. I am a self pay (fighting with insurance to recoup costs is a secondary issue at this point.) I took out a second mortgage on our home - this is that important to me. I have never sued anyone in my life but the discrimination I have endured at Premiere's hands has put the thought into my mind. Keep looking. . . I did for nearly a year. The procedure, the post-ops, Dr. R., - they are unparalled. But it has to be the right decision for you. Like my husband says, you have to make yourself happy with the decisions you make and then at least one person will be happy with the outcome. From the time I sent my packet in until I had approval from Dr. R it was 8 days. Of course, I didn't get insurance approval and that process could drag on for years. By the time they come through I could be down right skinny!! I don't have the post-op wisdom but I have found so much information on this sight and everyone that gives a piece of their experience has helped my process along. I can hardly wait to get to clinic to put some names with some faces. I don't mind sharing anything about my history or my preoperative process to this point - just ask. Look forward to hearing from you soon. Tarri in Missouri Dancing in 16 Days !! Re: Hyper in Atlanta > Hi Tara, My name is Judy and I am still in the looking phase. ( I am really > much more close to a decision than that, just afraid that my insurance will > give me a hard time. If I act as tho I haven't made a decision, and they > fight me, then I'll not be so disappointed. How about that for a lesson in > fantasy and denial?) > I am writing to you to tell you what a delightful writer you are! Funny and > clever and all-together human. And you're dancing in 16 days!!!! You must be > thrilled. I would be. You mentioned that you're not a spring chicken, and > that is interesting to me because neither am I, and I wonder if my skin will > ever recover? Probably not. I'm going to need angelo the surgeon when > all is said and done!!!! But I'd rather be thin with droopy skin, than fat > and taut! You're going to breeze on through this. Are you going to Durham > or having it locally? How long from when you had your papers together until > insurance approval came? Or are you a self pay? Keep up the marvelous > attitude and humor, and all will be grand! Thanks for spreading your joy. .. > Judy > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Dear Tarri, I have just been there done that. I am now day 13 post-op and am sleeping like a baby. My husband was not happy about my obsession with the computer and although we very rarely argue, the day before we left for NC we had a very tense day. I think that what we fail to realize is that since they love us, they are also going through a tough time with worrying about us. My mistake and I am sure it is not uncommon, is not giving my husband enough attention and reassurance during this exciting but stressful time. I am not so obsessed now, but he realizes that I need the support from all of you to do this. He understands that I can't do this as well on my own. We need to talk to our family and not have them feeling so excluded from the process. Hang in there it does get much better real fast. Warm Regards Marjory 8/30/00 285/268 > Dear , > You are not alone! Even though my body is willing, my brain refuses to gear > down. My husband has just started calling me the night prowler. I'm tired. > I lay down. I pretend to fall asleep for an hour or so. I get back up. I > read the patient manual again. I lurk on the site. I dream of what I'll be > able to do without all this extra weight. I lay back down. The whole cycle > starts all over again the next night no matter how many promises I make to > myself that I will be asleep at a decent hour. I go to work at 6 in the > morning (and I'm no spring chicken) so this is getting silly. Last night he > asked if he needed to handcuff me to the bedpost to stay in bed. While the > offer was appealing (in other respects - hehe) I told him I had made up my > mind not to prowl. Wouldn't you know, we had a horrific storm (the first > rain in a over a month) that knocked out the electricity !! No reading, no > computer, no prowling. I guess God was telling me to get some rest for this > fantastic journey. > Best Wishes, > Tarri in Missouri > Dancing in 16 Days > Hyper in Atlanta > > > > Hi gang, > > I just realized (at 6am this morning!) that I have all 10 of my > > contacts, my insurance letter has been sent in, I finally finished my > > patient letter and the only thing I have left to do is get my pap > > smear and mammogram!!!! I'm hoping I can get it as fast as got > > his tests. I haven't worked this hard since my senior thesis in > > college and I think that was at the turn of the last century. I'm > > totally obsessed with all this. I feel like a zombie at work as I > > can't think of anything else. Talk about compulsion! And now I've got > > my mother obsessed too. I think she reads your posts as much as I do. > > > > Thanks for everyone's wonderful support. I'm going over to Durham > > next week for work and will have my first meeting with Dr. R. I'm > > also going to Cattleman's to meet everyone. I can't wait. Please keep > > your fingers crossed for me. > > > > > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: > MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Dear Marjory, What a godsend your message was. Last evening was a good example too. We sat down with our children (ages 10, 12, and 14) and explained that I would be going to North Carolina, the procedure, why I felt it was a good decision for me, some of the complications and the arrangements we would need to make for them in my absence. The 10 and 14 year old were curious but comfortable. The 12 year old ( a boy) burst into tears and then was unwilling to share with us what his concerns were. Twice later that night (once alone with my husband and then at bedtime alone with me)we tried to coax the cause for his tears but to no avail. It's hard to remember others worry about me at the same time. I'm guilty of putting everything ahead of myself (family, work, community activities)and I am having some guilt (not enough to stop) about taking the time and financial resources from those directions to focus on myself. I know I need to be health to participate in all those other issues and I need to feel better about myself but right now I'm feeling down right self-centered. I can't focus on anything but the DANCE. To be health is reason #432 for this surgery. If I prowl around in the night again tonight I'll clue you in on the other 431 reasons. Tarri in Missouri Dancing in 16 days Hyper in Atlanta > > > > > > > Hi gang, > > > I just realized (at 6am this morning!) that I have all 10 of my > > > contacts, my insurance letter has been sent in, I finally > finished my > > > patient letter and the only thing I have left to do is get my pap > > > smear and mammogram!!!! I'm hoping I can get it as fast as > got > > > his tests. I haven't worked this hard since my senior thesis in > > > college and I think that was at the turn of the last century. I'm > > > totally obsessed with all this. I feel like a zombie at work as I > > > can't think of anything else. Talk about compulsion! And now I've > got > > > my mother obsessed too. I think she reads your posts as much as I > do. > > > > > > Thanks for everyone's wonderful support. I'm going over to Durham > > > next week for work and will have my first meeting with Dr. R. I'm > > > also going to Cattleman's to meet everyone. I can't wait. Please > keep > > > your fingers crossed for me. > > > > > > > > > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at > Onelist.com > > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > > > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > > > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > > > > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: > > MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > > > > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Thank you all so much for the support. If my " normal (weight-wise) " friends knew how wonderful everyone involved in Rutledgeville is they would be very jealous. I was very fearful that I have no family in Atlanta and few friends here for post-op support since I only recently moved here but now I feal like I don't have to worry. I have the egroupies!!!! In addition, Maggi sent me a wonderful email today that she and three others are starting a support group in Atlanta. I feel so much better! You all might have seen that my mother (who is more obsessed with reading mail here than even I am) posted a note of encouragement to me. We have had our differences at times but the minute she realized this is what I wanted to do, she became my biggest cheerleader. This for a daughter who is a 48 year old pain in the *** most of the time. Lara....I don't know you yet but I also cried reading your email. I have been where you are so many times!!!!I am praying for you. " looking forward to dancing " in Atlanta > > > Dear , > > > You are not alone! Even though my body is willing, my brain > > refuses to gear > > > down. My husband has just started calling me the night prowler. > > I'm tired. > > > I lay down. I pretend to fall asleep for an hour or so. I get > > back up. I > > > read the patient manual again. I lurk on the site. I dream of > > what I'll be > > > able to do without all this extra weight. I lay back down. The > > whole cycle > > > starts all over again the next night no matter how many promises I > > make to > > > myself that I will be asleep at a decent hour. I go to work at 6 > > in the > > > morning (and I'm no spring chicken) so this is getting silly. Last > > night he > > > asked if he needed to handcuff me to the bedpost to stay in bed. > > While the > > > offer was appealing (in other respects - hehe) I told him I had > > made up my > > > mind not to prowl. Wouldn't you know, we had a horrific storm (the > > first > > > rain in a over a month) that knocked out the electricity !! No > > reading, no > > > computer, no prowling. I guess God was telling me to get some rest > > for this > > > fantastic journey. > > > Best Wishes, > > > Tarri in Missouri > > > Dancing in 16 Days > > > Hyper in Atlanta > > > > > > > > > > Hi gang, > > > > I just realized (at 6am this morning!) that I have all 10 of my > > > > contacts, my insurance letter has been sent in, I finally > > finished my > > > > patient letter and the only thing I have left to do is get my pap > > > > smear and mammogram!!!! I'm hoping I can get it as fast as > > got > > > > his tests. I haven't worked this hard since my senior thesis in > > > > college and I think that was at the turn of the last century. I'm > > > > totally obsessed with all this. I feel like a zombie at work as I > > > > can't think of anything else. Talk about compulsion! And now I've > > got > > > > my mother obsessed too. I think she reads your posts as much as I > > do. > > > > > > > > Thanks for everyone's wonderful support. I'm going over to Durham > > > > next week for work and will have my first meeting with Dr. R. I'm > > > > also going to Cattleman's to meet everyone. I can't wait. Please > > keep > > > > your fingers crossed for me. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at > > Onelist.com > > > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > > > > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > > > > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > > > > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > > > > > > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: > > > MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > > > > > > > > > > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: > MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2000 Report Share Posted September 12, 2000 Way to go 's mother, Joan Spector!!! Such support! Judith in Seattle Re: Hyper in Atlanta > In a message dated 9/12/00 9:08:25 AM Eastern Daylight Time, > rsrchcoord@... writes: > > << Dear , > You are not alone! >> > > I'm 's mother and I'm also doing the 3 AM visit to the website! This > is absolutely addictive. . .I am so excited for her. Good luck to you. . ..I > know you will come through with flying colors. . . > > Joan Spector > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > and for more on the MGB,Don't miss : > http://www.fourlane.com/mgb > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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