Re: New to Group...3 month old

[Guest guest]

Mel,

I felt the same way about thinking there was more that I could have done. My

doctor just kept telling me to do more tummy time and keep him up off his head,

but none of these things worked for us.

We spent the summer traveling to visit family and no one thought anything of his

head shape, except my husband's cousin. Because of her it wasn't such a shock.

Although when we ended up going to Cranial Tech we still couldn't believe that

Joe's head was really bad enough for the band. My dad still thinks that Joe

doesn't need the band and that he can just massage his head to be correct (of

course my father has no medical training!).

I absolutely think that some kids are predisposed and there's nothing you can

really do. We are just like you and did everything all the other parents did

and we are the only ones that had to band our baby. Joe's been in his band for

a little over a week and we're already seeing results, which is really starting

to make everything well worth it. I think the entire process is much harder on

the parents than the babies-my baby could care less he's got his band on:)

Good luck!

Mom to ph 5 monthes

DOC Band-1 1/2 weeks

>

> Hello all! It is so good to see others with the same situations and

struggles. I have a 2.5 year old girl and a 3.5 month old boy. My son has

been developing plagiocephaly since about 1.5 months. I really started trying

repositioning techniques at 2 months, but have not seen any major improvements

at all. Do you think some kids are just pre-disposed to this? I get mad

sometimes because I know that I haven't done much different from other moms and

wonder why I am the on dealing with the issue. I have tried to follow the

doctors orders and do 3 ten minute tummy times daily, but we usually just get in

two because he has never really gotten used to them, he might do well for 4

minutes but then spends the next 6 screaming murder into the pillow. Now that

he is a little stronger he won't even stay on his stomach for tummy time, he

tries everything he can including climbing over the pillow to roll over. It is

very frustrating.

>

> I have been doing the following for almost 2 months now:

> -using the boppy noggin nest when he is on his back playing or in the swing or

bouncy seat.

> -time in the bumbo

> -wear him in a moby wrap whenever possible

> -tummy time

> -switch ends of the crib everytime he goes down

> -nurse on both sides

>

> So I really feel like I have done a lot of try to fix this, so I have come to

the point that I think we are going to have to do a helmet. I was so depressed

about it this weekend, thinking that if I had of just tryed harder then we

wouldn't be here! But i have had to just give it up and realize it is what it

is.

>

> Do you all face a lot of people who are like, " Oh it doesn't look that bad! " ?

When you know that it is lopsided. Do you think people really don't notice or

are they just being nice. My doctor said it was definately noticable and

moderate.

>

> Anyways, enough rambling! Thanks for all your input and support as we

navigate this. We will be making the appointment with CT in a few weeks.

>

> Mel

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mel,

My husband and I grew concerned by the time our daughter was one month old, and

we also tried repositioning her head, more tummy time, I nursed on both sides,

and also made her teachers at the daycare center aware of the situation. We even

repositioned her head after she fell asleep, but it got worse anyway. Dr. said

we could have been " more aggressive " but I feel we all really tried. He also

said part of it is just her being stubborn!

We have an appt coming up with the specialist to find out more about her degree

of plagio and what the next step is. Thank you for sharing how you feel because

I am new to all of this too, and it's nice to hear some feedback! Wish us luck,

and good luck to you!

*Bean*

> >

> > Hello all! It is so good to see others with the same situations and

struggles. I have a 2.5 year old girl and a 3.5 month old boy. My son has

been developing plagiocephaly since about 1.5 months. I really started trying

repositioning techniques at 2 months, but have not seen any major improvements

at all. Do you think some kids are just pre-disposed to this? I get mad

sometimes because I know that I haven't done much different from other moms and

wonder why I am the on dealing with the issue. I have tried to follow the

doctors orders and do 3 ten minute tummy times daily, but we usually just get in

two because he has never really gotten used to them, he might do well for 4

minutes but then spends the next 6 screaming murder into the pillow. Now that

he is a little stronger he won't even stay on his stomach for tummy time, he

tries everything he can including climbing over the pillow to roll over. It is

very frustrating.

> >

> > I have been doing the following for almost 2 months now:

> > -using the boppy noggin nest when he is on his back playing or in the swing

or bouncy seat.

> > -time in the bumbo

> > -wear him in a moby wrap whenever possible

> > -tummy time

> > -switch ends of the crib everytime he goes down

> > -nurse on both sides

> >

> > So I really feel like I have done a lot of try to fix this, so I have come

to the point that I think we are going to have to do a helmet. I was so

depressed about it this weekend, thinking that if I had of just tryed harder

then we wouldn't be here! But i have had to just give it up and realize it is

what it is.

> >

> > Do you all face a lot of people who are like, " Oh it doesn't look that

bad! " ? When you know that it is lopsided. Do you think people really don't

notice or are they just being nice. My doctor said it was definately noticable

and moderate.

> >

> > Anyways, enough rambling! Thanks for all your input and support as we

navigate this. We will be making the appointment with CT in a few weeks.

> >

> > Mel

> >

>

[Guest guest]

We were the same way. My pedi would just say " lots more tummy time! " and look

at me like I left her lying around on her back all day long, whereas in reality

I tried to keep her off her back any time she was awake and even had her napping

on her side or tummy (if I could stay in the room with her), and it just didn't

help. I'd go in at night and try to move her head or prop her off of her flat

spot, but she'd just wiggle until she was comfortable again. Because she has

torticollis, every time she went to sleep her head would go into the exact same

position. That's just what was comfortable for her. All the doc said about

that was " she can't turn her head to the right, " so I dropped the exercises

after a few days because she *could* turn her head to the right (and eventually

changed doctors -- I need more than sound bites for medical advice). I was

doing everything I could, but it wasn't making any difference. Maybe more neck

exercises earlier would have helped, but maybe not. But two months of constant

diligence and worry got me nowhere. In fact, it was just getting progressively

worse.

I probably was a lot more aware of the shape of her head than others. Most

people were telling me not to worry, that it would round out when she started

sitting up more. But I was already starting to feel like people were wondering

what was wrong with her head before we got the helmet, so I figured if I was

going to be a little self-conscious about it anyway, she might as well be

wearing the helmet. The funny thing was, I got used to her wearing it right

away and never thought to look around and see how other people were reacting to

it. If anything, I get more people telling me she's cute because if they stare

at her, she'll flirt with them. Some people ask, but most don't, and a lot of

people say that their niece or nephew needed a helmet, too. Also, after the

evaluation, when it became clear that it was something she needed and not

something she might need, I suddenly would have done just about anything to get

it for her instead of trying to do just about anything to keep her out of it.

It's amazing how your focus shifts. But the best part of it is, I can stop

worrying. We do her exercises and lots of tummy time still, but I can lay her

on her back or put her in the carseat and go somewhere without feeling like I'm

making it worse. It is such a relief.

> >

> > Hello all! It is so good to see others with the same situations and

struggles. I have a 2.5 year old girl and a 3.5 month old boy. My son has

been developing plagiocephaly since about 1.5 months. I really started trying

repositioning techniques at 2 months, but have not seen any major improvements

at all. Do you think some kids are just pre-disposed to this? I get mad

sometimes because I know that I haven't done much different from other moms and

wonder why I am the on dealing with the issue. I have tried to follow the

doctors orders and do 3 ten minute tummy times daily, but we usually just get in

two because he has never really gotten used to them, he might do well for 4

minutes but then spends the next 6 screaming murder into the pillow. Now that

he is a little stronger he won't even stay on his stomach for tummy time, he

tries everything he can including climbing over the pillow to roll over. It is

very frustrating.

> >

> > I have been doing the following for almost 2 months now:

> > -using the boppy noggin nest when he is on his back playing or in the swing

or bouncy seat.

> > -time in the bumbo

> > -wear him in a moby wrap whenever possible

> > -tummy time

> > -switch ends of the crib everytime he goes down

> > -nurse on both sides

> >

> > So I really feel like I have done a lot of try to fix this, so I have come

to the point that I think we are going to have to do a helmet. I was so

depressed about it this weekend, thinking that if I had of just tryed harder

then we wouldn't be here! But i have had to just give it up and realize it is

what it is.

> >

> > Do you all face a lot of people who are like, " Oh it doesn't look that

bad! " ? When you know that it is lopsided. Do you think people really don't

notice or are they just being nice. My doctor said it was definately noticable

and moderate.

> >

> > Anyways, enough rambling! Thanks for all your input and support as we

navigate this. We will be making the appointment with CT in a few weeks.

> >

> > Mel

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much ladies for sharing your similar thoughts...sometime I feel so

obsessed about it all, and that no one really understands. I wanted to say

that I totally agree with the last reply about worrying all the time while they

are on their back. I try not to have him laying down much other than to sleep,

but Saturday for instance we went on a short local road trip and the whole time

I have this guilt in the back of my mind that he is on the back of his head! I

can't wait to get the band so that i can stop feeling that way!

>

> Hello all! It is so good to see others with the same situations and

struggles. I have a 2.5 year old girl and a 3.5 month old boy. My son has

been developing plagiocephaly since about 1.5 months. I really started trying

repositioning techniques at 2 months, but have not seen any major improvements

at all. Do you think some kids are just pre-disposed to this? I get mad

sometimes because I know that I haven't done much different from other moms and

wonder why I am the on dealing with the issue. I have tried to follow the

doctors orders and do 3 ten minute tummy times daily, but we usually just get in

two because he has never really gotten used to them, he might do well for 4

minutes but then spends the next 6 screaming murder into the pillow. Now that

he is a little stronger he won't even stay on his stomach for tummy time, he

tries everything he can including climbing over the pillow to roll over. It is

very frustrating.

>

> I have been doing the following for almost 2 months now:

> -using the boppy noggin nest when he is on his back playing or in the swing or

bouncy seat.

> -time in the bumbo

> -wear him in a moby wrap whenever possible

> -tummy time

> -switch ends of the crib everytime he goes down

> -nurse on both sides

>

> So I really feel like I have done a lot of try to fix this, so I have come to

the point that I think we are going to have to do a helmet. I was so depressed

about it this weekend, thinking that if I had of just tryed harder then we

wouldn't be here! But i have had to just give it up and realize it is what it

is.

>

> Do you all face a lot of people who are like, " Oh it doesn't look that bad! " ?

When you know that it is lopsided. Do you think people really don't notice or

are they just being nice. My doctor said it was definately noticable and

moderate.

>

> Anyways, enough rambling! Thanks for all your input and support as we

navigate this. We will be making the appointment with CT in a few weeks.

>

> Mel

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mel, I think exactly the same thing: What did I do differently or didn't do

to cause or not prevent this? I do think some kids are predisposed: tort, in

utero position or lack of space, weight, swaddling, etc. I have 2 friends who

have babies around the same age and their heads are so perfect. And I clearly

remember them leaving them in their car seats and strollers and bouncy seats

just as much as I did, if not more frequently. All we can do is be thankful

that we have been given the choice to do something. I have met many

parents/grandparents who saw Luke's helmet and after explaining to them what it

was for, they said, " My son/granchild has a flat/lopsided head. I didn't know

there was anything that could be done. "

It sounds to me like you are doing everything you possibly could be doing to

help your son. There was not one person I knew or met that said my son had a

problem. However, after seeing the results from banding, numerous people

said, " He definitely needed that helmet! "

Luke, 10 months old

STARband grad

NYC

>

> Hello all! It is so good to see others with the same situations and

struggles. I have a 2.5 year old girl and a 3.5 month old boy. My son has

been developing plagiocephaly since about 1.5 months. I really started trying

repositioning techniques at 2 months, but have not seen any major improvements

at all. Do you think some kids are just pre-disposed to this? I get mad

sometimes because I know that I haven't done much different from other moms and

wonder why I am the on dealing with the issue. I have tried to follow the

doctors orders and do 3 ten minute tummy times daily, but we usually just get in

two because he has never really gotten used to them, he might do well for 4

minutes but then spends the next 6 screaming murder into the pillow. Now that

he is a little stronger he won't even stay on his stomach for tummy time, he

tries everything he can including climbing over the pillow to roll over. It is

very frustrating.

>

> I have been doing the following for almost 2 months now:

> -using the boppy noggin nest when he is on his back playing or in the swing or

bouncy seat.

> -time in the bumbo

> -wear him in a moby wrap whenever possible

> -tummy time

> -switch ends of the crib everytime he goes down

> -nurse on both sides

>

> So I really feel like I have done a lot of try to fix this, so I have come to

the point that I think we are going to have to do a helmet. I was so depressed

about it this weekend, thinking that if I had of just tryed harder then we

wouldn't be here! But i have had to just give it up and realize it is what it

is.

>

> Do you all face a lot of people who are like, " Oh it doesn't look that bad! " ?

When you know that it is lopsided. Do you think people really don't notice or

are they just being nice. My doctor said it was definately noticable and

moderate.

>

> Anyways, enough rambling! Thanks for all your input and support as we

navigate this. We will be making the appointment with CT in a few weeks.

>

> Mel

>