Thanks for the welcome!

[Guest guest]

Dear Leisa,

For your dad, how about asking him if he wold keep dating anyone who failed

him 98% of the time? That's the stats for our friend Mr. Diet. Ask your

loving dad if he would want you to keep seeing 'him' with that kind of

rapport? I believe with all my being that one day medicine will understand

why some people save their food while others burn theirs. It isn't what

we've done, it's who we are. It isn't a choice, it's a biological

imperative. We can fight it, but 98% of the time, it wins. I'm tired of

spending my energy chasing my tail. I can not catch it. I know it. I've

been trying since I turned 13. But the really cool thing I now know that I

didn't before is that I was programmed this way. If medicine didn't believe

that they had the guilty party, and instead considered for just one moment

that they were blaming the victim, they might figure this out... With the

genome developments, they will one day say " Look. There's that fat gene.

No wonder they couldn't lose weight! " But I am 55, I can not wait for them

to get wise. I've got to take the best available option. And I will. You

will too, dear Leisa. Give up the notion of your blame. Ain't so. I swear.

I am certain! Phillyjude

[Guest guest]

Hi gang!

As I told Judy, my computer at work today wasn't acting right but I

couldn't wait to get on this AM and read the post that I knew you all

would respond with regarding convicing my family. Thanks for all the

wonderful suggestions and the warm welcome.

Dad comes for a visit this weekend and he wants to " talk about my

weight problem " He always asks me what he can do to help me get the

weight off, however the second I say... I want to look into surgery,

he shuts the door. Well, having his support, as well as my sister's,

means a lot to me but I have decided that with them or without them I

am going for it. Judy is right...I will need my energy for other

things. I have the feeling the insurance co. will be the biggest

battle. I get more and more excited with every post that I see with a

post-op update or the scheduling of another dance date. I have all

of my stats and medical reports and the patient manual...ready to go

for a last ditch effort to win him over this weekend. But if he is

not with me then he is against me, So... ya'll keep you finger's

crossed.

Thanks again to all of you who sent me my first responses... on-list

and off. I hope I will be able to give others that kind of support

as well.

Have a wonderful Friday!!!

Leisa in SC

BMI 42

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