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THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES (NO JOKE)

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> >The headlines in the news media today are centered

> >around the abductions and murders that have been going

> >on in Louisiana. A group of rapists and date rapists

> >in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a

> >potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

> >

> >The first thing men look for in a potential victim is

> >hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman

> >with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that

> >can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go

> >after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair

> >are not common targets.

> >

> >The second thing men look for is clothing. They will

> >look for women who's clothing is easy to remove

> >quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut

> >clothing.

> >

> >They also look for women on their cell phone,

> >searching through their purse or doing other

> >activities while walking because they are off guard

> >and can be easily overpowered.

> >

> >The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape

> >a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30

> >a.m.

> >

> >The number one place women are abducted from/attacked

> >at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office

> >parking lots/garages. Number three is public

> >restrooms.

> >

> >The thing about these men is that they are looking to

> >grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location

> >where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

> >

> >Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries

> >a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20

> >years.

> >

> >If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get

> >discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for

> >them to realize that going after you isn't worth it

> >because it will be time-consuming.

> >

> >These men said they would not pick on women who have

> >umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used

> >from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a

> >deterrent because you have to get really close to the

> >attacker to use them as a weapon.

> >

> >So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not

> >worth it. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:

> >

> >If someone is following behind you on a street or in a

> >garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look

> >them in the face and ask them a question, like what

> >time is it, or make general small talk, I can't

> >believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad

> >winter. Now you've seen their face and couldidentify

> >them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.

> >

> >If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands

> >in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of

> >the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a

> >woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not

> >be fraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an

> >EASY target.

> >

> >If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge

> >advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he

> >goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out

> >will be a deterrent.

> >

> >If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with

> >strength but you can by outsmarting them:

> >

> >If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch

> >the attacker either under the arm between the elbow

> >and armpit or in the upper inner thigh HARD. One woman

> >in a class this guy taught told him she used the

> >underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape

> >her and was so upset she broke through the skin and

> >tore out muscle strands on the guy needed stitches.

> >Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you

> >can stand it; it hurts.

> >

> >After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know

> >from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you

> >slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might

> >think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to

> >hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our

> >instructor is that they want a woman who will not

> >cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and

> >he's out of there.

> >

> >When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first

> >two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with

> >as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The

> >instructor did it to me without using much pressure,

> >and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

> >audibly. Of course the things we always hear still

> >apply.

> >

> >Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone

> >with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,

> >don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel

> >a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse

> >if the guy really was trouble.

> >

> >PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO ANY WOMAN YOU KNOW;

> >IT'S SIMPLE STUFF THAT COULD SAVE HER LIFE.

> >