Re: Our Stories, Our Lives

August 11, 2004

Heidi,

you made me cry with your story. It wasn't always good terms with the 1st ex.

We divorced back in 92 when the kids were 2 and 5. When I married my 2nd

husband there was still a struggle over the kids. I guess as we get older we

grow up a little. We were young when we married. I was 19 and he was 23.

Anyway when Todd and I were having problems Steve told me how the kids could not

stand being around Todd for the way he treated me and talked to them and me. I

eventually called and asked if he would take temporary custody of them until I

could get things straightened out. This is a switch....I had to pay him child

support. Talk about stressfull. I totally understood now how hard it was to

make sure the check got to him on time. I had to mail it to the clerks office

and they would in turn write a check to him. Steve never complained if it was

late all he would say is " now you know how hard it is " I just laughed.

I guess I am lucky to have this relationship. Steve adopted my son when we got

married. Chris's real father didn't want to have anything to do with him so I

had been with Steve from the time was 6 months old and he wanted to be his

father. He has been a great father. , my 14 year old, didn't like it at

first when we all went together one time. She doesn't remember her father and I

together since she was only 2.

My job is not as hard as your job. I am a physician's secretary at Norton

Cancer Center in Louisville, KY. I love my job. He is a GYN oncologist and I

also do the FMLA papers on his patients. With me having the disease I do I try

my hardest to help these patients and their families with their needs. I have

even went online to help a patient get assistence with her monthly meds she

needed. She actually paid more out of pocket then what she had comming in.

Anything I feel I would like to be treated I do for our patients. I love my job

and I know some people think of it as just that a job but it is more than that.

We are treating patients with cancer. Most are terminal and if I can do the

smallest thing to make their day better, easier by golly I will find a way to do

that.

I'm glad the doctor was able to continue you on the same dose. All we can do is

take it one day at a time and if today is bad tommorrow may be better.

Hugs,

Patty Duley

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