RE: Re: Any Singles Having Dating Issues?

[Guest guest]

I don't have many men interested in me now that I have lost 98 lbs. I can't

figure it out either. I look allot better, but they just aren't interested.

[Guest guest]

You are very lucky . I keep an air freshner in every room and still

walk outside when I get the chance. Its not pretty at all. ITS NASTY !!!!!!

Tammy In PA

282/240/135

[Guest guest]

Have you talked to your doctor about this? I have not experienced any

of this, though that's not to say it won't happen down the line.

Lap RNY April 9, 2004

348/283/140 (begin/current/goal)

www.carrieburns.net

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> > At what point in dating someone do you tell the person about your

> > WLS? I had surgery 10 years ago, and believe it or not, I had more

> > dates at 258 lbs than I do now at 149 lbs...a lot of it has to do

> > with my shyness when it comes to telling men (who would most likely

> > have never have given me a 2nd glance when I was heavy)about my

> > obesity and WLS. Most people think WLS is the easy way out, esp. if

> > they've never had a weight problem before. They see obese people as

> > lazy people with no self-discipline. That's the harsh reality. Well

> > I am currently dating someone for the past 6 months now who works

> > out, is physically fit and health conscious, and would be shocked

> to

> > know that I was once obese and had WLS. He would have never dated

> me

> > if I was still my pre-surgery size. A second component to this is

> > when it comes to spending a long time with someone, I am so

> concerned

> > with the frequent gas and awful-smelling bowels that I find excuses

> > to end the date early. I dread sleeping over my boyfriend's house

> > for this reason...he thinks I'm just losing interest, but it's more

> > that I'm really embarressed and afraid to tell him. I know what you

> > all will say, " If he really cares about you it won't matter; if

> > rejects you he wasn't worth it anyway " , but I have 6 months and

> > emotions invested into this man. I told him a while back (when we

> > became intimate) that the scar was from gall bladder surgery and

> that

> > I have IBS, explaining the frequent need to go to the bathroom. I

> > get anxiety when he talks about wanting to go on trips together for

> > fear of having to share a bathroom together in a hotel room. The

> odor

> > is HORRIFIC! It's really sad... I don't know how to proceed from

> here.

> >

> > I appreciate any input from other singles in this kind of

> situation,

> > and how you address the surgery with a potential significant other.

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[Guest guest]

Well the best thing is just wait until they come to...and then tell

them there was a gas leak in the house and you saved them?

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You are way too funny. I needed that chuckle this morning.

Thanks,

Dora

Awaiting approval in TN