Re: Re: Mean Moms/help

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> He is 12 now and almost as tall as me but has his Dad's body shape

> (love handles, full stomach & heavy legs). I worry about every

> pound he puts on and try to keep my mouth shut because I remember

> how sensitive I was if anyone made comments about how I ate. .... The

fact is, for his height, his weight is in the normal range.

When my son was 12, he was getting very heavy. No longer proportional. By

the time he was 14, he was seriously getting into the range of obesity. We

talked about it ONE TIME, and I said I would not bring it up again until or

unless he did. I told him my experiences at his age and beyond, and told him

that if he ever felt the need to do something about it, I'd be here for him.

Then at 15 he fell in love. He's 16 now, and has lost nearly all the excess

on his own. He always knew what to do (less Coke, more protein), and he

finally started doing it, with no prompting from me. The girlfriend told him

she'd love him whatever his weight, so it wasn't an issue from her point of

view, but he wanted to look nicer and feel better about himself, so he took

matters into his own hands.

I'd say, we need to let our kids know that the dangers are out there, and

then leave it alone. They've seen us, they know where we've been. When they

need to talk about it, they'll come to us.

Hope that helps.

~~ Lyn G