Re: Newbies

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In a message dated 10/11/03 1:18:51 PM Central Daylight Time,

rinnclja@... writes:

> I currently weigh about 225 and am afraid to get on the scale.

>

Your struggle scares me to death and probably does to a lot of us on

the list. The fear that it will " come back. " Can you help us learn about how

it happens? I understand the basic thermodynamics of it, obviously, more

calories are going in than the body is burning for fuel. And I know that bad

habits, a bit of this, a little more of that, etc. are likely culprits. What

I'm

trying to figure out is how it goes from 5 pounds gained to 45 pounds. Please

don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to be critical of you at all and don't

want to compound your feelings of distress over this gain. You mention that you

don't want to get on the scale. Is that a new experience for you, were you

weighing all along and watching the gain? Or was weighing not part of your

routine? When you found that you had regained " some " weight were you actively

working on trying to get rid of it, or was it something that you accepted and

decided was not significant enough to worry about?

I suppose where I'm at is trying to convince myself that this is

something that I can control in myself; that I won't just wake up one day and

find

that I have gained significant weight. I worry about this daily. I talk

about it with my shrink. Hell, every time I see the guy I tell him how much I

weigh! I jokingly refer to it as the " weight report. " I weigh myself every

morning and when the number is up more than 3 pounds I try to walk the straight

and narrow until it is back down again. I have it in my head that the day I

don't get on the scale will be the beginning of the end.

I know that I'm rambling here, and making this more about me than

helping you with your concerns, and for that, I apologize.

Please share with me / us you insights. I know that everyone here

wants to help you, but like me, most of us would rather not to have to walk in

your shoes.

Beth

Houston, TX

VBG - Dr. Srungaram

05/31/00 - 314 lbs.

11/01/02 - Abdominoplasty

11/29/02 - 160 lbs.

5'10 "

[Guest guest]

Can I be the comic relief butt-in-sky and inject (or attempt to inject) a

little levity into this particular topic? Some years back I was at a point in

my life where I was weighing myself SEVERAL times a day, no exaggeration.

It was insane. You can imagine every time there wasn't a change, or (god

forbid) there was a change but it wasn't LOWER, I would flip out. My poor

husband, a man with usually a limitless amount of patience, finally got so

frustrated one day he yelled at me: " LUCY! Why don't you just strap the

scale to

your ass, this way every time you sit down you can take a reading! " Well of

course I laughed but at that juncture it didn't stop me from weighing myself

ad nauseum until the obsession played itself out " naturally. "

Anyway, weighing in in still something I struggle with. I do weigh in

every morning, and on one hand I think it is very important to " keep things

real "

but on the other hand, I see the value in not being tied into a number and in

relying instead on good eating and exercise habits, and being able to maintain

my weight " naturally " (does this exist?) Right now I need to weigh in

daily. Maybe someday I won't because everything will have fallen into place.

That's what I hope for.

I feel for you. I have been there a million times, and it sucks.

Hang in there.

Lucille

In a message dated 10/12/2003 10:12:28 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Graduate-OSSG writes:

> Message: 2

> Date: Sat, 11 Oct 2003 21:00:18 EDT

> From: BethVBG@...

> Subject: Re: Newbies

>

> In a message dated 10/11/03 1:18:51 PM Central Daylight Time,

> rinnclja@... writes:

>

> > I currently weigh about 225 and am afraid to get on the scale.

> >

>

>

> Your struggle scares me to death and probably does to a lot of us on

> the list. The fear that it will " come back. " Can you help us learn about

> how

> it happens? I understand the basic thermodynamics of it, obviously, more

> calories are going in than the body is burning for fuel. And I know that

> bad

> habits, a bit of this, a little more of that, etc. are likely culprits.

> What I'm

> trying to figure out is how it goes from 5 pounds gained to 45 pounds.

> Please

> don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to be critical of you at all and don't

> want to compound your feelings of distress over this gain. You mention that

> you

> don't want to get on the scale. Is that a new experience for you, were you

> weighing all along and watching the gain? Or was weighing not part of your

> routine? When you found that you had regained " some " weight were you

> actively

> working on trying to get rid of it, or was it something that you accepted

> and

> decided was not significant enough to worry about?

> I suppose where I'm at is trying to convince myself that this is

> something that I can control in myself; that I won't just wake up one day

> and find

> that I have gained significant weight. I worry about this daily. I talk

> about it with my shrink. Hell, every time I see the guy I tell him how much

> I

> weigh! I jokingly refer to it as the " weight report. " I weigh myself every

> morning and when the number is up more than 3 pounds I try to walk the

> straight

> and narrow until it is back down again. I have it in my head that the day I

> don't get on the scale will be the beginning of the end.

> I know that I'm rambling here, and making this more about me than

> helping you with your concerns, and for that, I apologize.

> Please share with me / us you insights. I know that everyone here

> wants to help you, but like me, most of us would rather not to have to walk

> in

> your shoes.

>

> Beth