Guest guest Posted July 20, 2004 Report Share Posted July 20, 2004 Bethany, First of all, I don't feel that you have to explain yourself. You have every right to feel whatever you feel. No one can tell you to feel differently. To everyone else, I think this has all gotten way out of hand and this isn't why I joined this group to hear everyone complaining about each other. So let it go already and lets move on. If Ray comes back then great, if he doesn't, then that is his choice. So, can we please get back to some normal conversation. Thanks : ) in Delaware Lap RNY 3/10/04 261/179/125 In a message dated 7/19/2004 7:30:16 PM Eastern Daylight Time, " jackrussellrunner " writes: >Dora, > I was trying to help another by letting them know how it feels to >be dating after gastric bypass with bm and gas. I was being honest >and spoke from my heart. I was upset because Ray made a joke and I >was offended that he made it at me, not to me (it seemed). I am over >it and he decided to leave for his own reasons. I do not attack >anyone and feel that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I >however think of other's feelings before I type or speak. That is >all that I was saying. Not bickering. I think that Ray learned >things here and he also taught others. I feel that the same goes for >me. I was expressing how I felt and yes, I do think that I was being >fair. > > >Bethany > >> Well, I felt that this group provided support for one another. I >> understand that everyone, including myself, has been missing Ray. >I >> only expressed how my feelings were hurt about one commment. I got >> over it and began to not care anymore. This has been dragged on >long >> enough. I am so disappointed that no one understood how I felt, >not >> stood up for me or even " babied " me, but just expressed sincerity. >> We are all emotional and uneasy after surgery. I felt hurt by >Ray's >> comment about my situation when I was simply spilling my emotions >> and trusting all of you. I have recently decided that I may be >> leaving the group. Since no one has cared up to this point or even >> expressed sympathy, I believe that I will soon be leaving. I have >> learned so much from everyone and enjoyed hearing stories, and yes >> even jokes. I understand that humor helps healing, but sometimes >we >> also need to think about others. I am sure that we have all been >> made fun of at some point or another and it has rolled off our >> shoulders or not. In this instance I felt that I am connected to >all >> of you by a bond that is so strong, I felt comfortable saying >> anything. When my comfort was broken slightly, I felt as if I was >> belittled and ridiculed for honesty. That is how I FELT. Now, I >> think that if Ray came across my path that I would extend my hand >> and have a truths. The only problem with this is that someone e- >> mailed him and asked him to leave. I have never even thought about >> saying this to anyone here, especially since that would break this >> special bond. I know how I would feel if someone came to me and >> asked me to leave this group. In essence, I feel that since no one >> expressed concern or sympathy for the way that I felt, as >expressed >> in previous posts, that no one would care if I decided to leave. I >> have looked for new support groups, other than the one with my >> surgeon, and have found none that compare with the sharing and >> feelings that are here. I will continue to read posts and help >those >> that need it, but I am now apprehensive. I do not feel as though I >> am welcomed here anymore. I am sorry that this happened with Ray >> when he was having a problem with others. Timing is beyond >anyone's >> control. I hope that Ray finds out how I feel now and that he >comes >> back for the sake of the group and for my benefit as well. I can >> only hope that in the next few days that I feel like part of my >> second family. >> >> >> >> Bethany >> 281/261/227/150 >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 , Congratulations on getting your date. I will keep you in my prayers as your date approaches and for a uneventful surgery and easy recovery. Take care and keep us posted. Laurette 4/23/04 open rny 309/290/238/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Dora, I know exactly how your feeling, I remember going through the same things just before my surgery. So many dinner dates with friends I couldn't keep up. I remember my surgery was a couple weeks before my birthday and my fiance's and my first anniversary, so we celebrated Mother's Day, my birthday and our anniversary all in the same evening...lol. My surgery actually ended up being on my anniversary, what a way to celebrate....lol. Well you take care and have a wonderful day and enjoy. Laurette 4/23/04 open rny 309/290/238/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 I just got my date also: September 20th. I'm excited, yet scared at the same time. Pray for me, please. deniseann311 wrote: I see your date is 9/20 not much longer for you . I am sure you are getting excited i would be as well. I will be praying for you i always see you are always very postitive in the group keep up the good work! in Southern NJ pre-op woo-hoo(wink)! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 oh lord yahoo just wants to use any one of my profile it feels like it..lol deniseann311 wrote:I see your date is 9/20 not much longer for you . I am sure you are getting excited i would be as well. I will be praying for you i always see you are always very postitive in the group keep up the good work! in Southern NJ pre-op woo-hoo(wink)! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 We will pray for you and congrats on the new you to come... in southern NJ. diCarlo wrote: I just got my date also: September 20th. I'm excited, yet scared at the same time. Pray for me, please. deniseann311 wrote: I see your date is 9/20 not much longer for you . I am sure you are getting excited i would be as well. I will be praying for you i always see you are always very postitive in the group keep up the good work! in Southern NJ pre-op woo-hoo(wink)! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 , Thank you for any prayers you can send my way. I am a firm believer in their power. And yes I am getting excited. I am getting a little overwhelmed too because I have so much to get done before then and of course all my friends and family want to go out with me that one last time before my ability to eat is altered. I am sure it will fly by. Thank you again. Dora in Tennessee Lap/Open RNY 9/20/2004 Vanderbilt Hospital Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 It certainly will time is just flying us all by in any situation and thats why we must live life everyday like it is our last. BIG SMILES! In care always, . Dora McCary wrote: , Thank you for any prayers you can send my way. I am a firm believer in their power. And yes I am getting excited. I am getting a little overwhelmed too because I have so much to get done before then and of course all my friends and family want to go out with me that one last time before my ability to eat is altered. I am sure it will fly by. Thank you again. Dora in Tennessee Lap/Open RNY 9/20/2004 Vanderbilt Hospital Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 and Dora, I am anxious to see how it goes i have scheuled surgery for Oct 6th, are you having laproscopic? I am in Ct.having surgery at Yale/New Haven hospital. Please let me know how you do. Patty Schroeder ===== Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 My surgery is what they call Hand-assisted Laproscopic. I will have 4 ports for the lap equipment and then a 3-4 " incision which is just large enough for him to get his hand in there to work also. He said that he gets better control that way and does all of his surgeries that way. I will keep you guys posted. That means that I have to get busy and get the room in my house cleared out that I want to hook my computer up in. Wish me luck on that. Dora in Tennessee Lap/Open RNY 9/20/2004 Vanderbilt Hospital Re: Dora and Dora, I am anxious to see how it goes i have scheuled surgery for Oct 6th, are you having laproscopic? I am in Ct.having surgery at Yale/New Haven hospital. Please let me know how you do. Patty Schroeder ===== Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Patty, I am having the laparoscopic. I'll keep you posted on my post surgery happenings. I told them I didn't want to be scheduled on 10/6 (my birthday), although, it definitely would be a sort of rebirth for me. Patty Schroeder wrote: and Dora, I am anxious to see how it goes i have scheuled surgery for Oct 6th, are you having laproscopic? I am in Ct.having surgery at Yale/New Haven hospital. Please let me know how you do. Patty Schroeder ===== Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2004 Report Share Posted August 26, 2004 , Good luck for your surgery! JJ -- Re: Dora Patty, I am having the laparoscopic. I'll keep you posted on my post surgery happenings. I told them I didn't want to be scheduled on 10/6 (my birthday) although, it definitely would be a sort of rebirth for me. Patty Schroeder wrote: and Dora, I am anxious to see how it goes i have scheuled surgery for Oct 6th, are you having laproscopic? I am in Ct.having surgery at Yale/New Haven hospital. Please let me know how you do. Patty Schroeder ===== Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2004 Report Share Posted September 15, 2004 Hey Dora, My Mom used to tell us all about the time's they had to carry water for all kinds of things on the farm. Used to help my G-ma out too when we'd visit. I had a few buckets at our back door when Don came home and just chuckled...what are you planning to do with these??? And I chuckled back wicked like..they are for you to go and haul water with!! Guess this surgery at this time is making me alittle bolder...LOL!!! He proceeded to fill all the buckets and leave them at the door...guess he wants a headstart...heehee!!! About being cold..I have always been like that skinny and overweight. But funny thing, I have to have a foot out of the covers to breathe...LOL!!! If not I feel smothered. Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2004 Report Share Posted September 15, 2004 I forgo the water when I sleep but do keep a glass by my bedside to sip on since I get " dry mouth " during the night. The timer...heehee...gave me a heartattack the first time it went off! No kidding...get a nice sounding one that one that rattles your brain when it goes off. Hugs, > I am glad you said that about your water. I am going to buy myself a > cheap kitchen timer to make sure that I get the liquids in every 15 > mins. I won't remember but the timer will. Do you just forego that > when you sleep? I know, stupid question. > > Dora in Tennessee > Open/Lap RNY 9/20/04 > Vanderbilt Hospital > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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