Re: What do I do if I have to take the meds

[Guest guest]

Hey Judith,

I wish you well...seriously! Sounds like you have a lot going on.

My husband would love me to be on pills to ease my black moods too.

I saw where you are in Alabama...so am I! Small world!

Hugs,

> I don't have any choice in the matter, my husband decided that I

> need to take Wellbutrin because " I have changed so much, I am not

> the woman he married).

> So I'm popping the pills....

> JJ

[Guest guest]

Judith,

You take Wellbutrin because your husband says so? Is that the best way to take

care of yourself?

I been married 30 yrs to the same man and I am DEFINITELY not the same woman he

married, nor is he the same man I married. We all change and grow together and

that is NORMAL. We don't have to take a pill for that and nothing EVER remains

the same.

Just my two cents Hon! Please do whatever you need to do for yourself and your

husband will reap the rewards of a healthy, happy wife. But don't think that

you have no choice in medicating yourself. It's a free world. We all have

choices.

Jolynn in NY

What do I do if I have to take the meds

I don't have any choice in the matter, my husband decided that I

need to take Wellbutrin because " I have changed so much, I am not

the woman he married).

So I'm popping the pills....

JJ

[Guest guest]

Jolynn,

thanx for the cheerer upper. My husband means only well. He believes the

doctors......

I have known him for 16 years and he means my mental changes not any other.

He told me that he loved every pound and ever inch on me, but then I had 6

miscarriages, lost a lot of my humor and became very depressed.

After the surgery for which I had to wait 11 months it got even worse: The

time when I'm supposed to get my period is extreme - I cry and cry without

knowing why!!!

JJ

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Judith,

You take Wellbutrin because your husband says so? Is that the best way to

take care of yourself?

I been married 30 yrs to the same man and I am DEFINITELY not the same woman

he married, nor is he the same man I married. We all change and grow

together and that is NORMAL. We don't have to take a pill for that and

nothing EVER remains the same.

Just my two cents Hon! Please do whatever you need to do for yourself and

your husband will reap the rewards of a healthy, happy wife. But don't

think that you have no choice in medicating yourself. It's a free world.

We all have choices.

Jolynn in NY

What do I do if I have to take the meds

I don't have any choice in the matter, my husband decided that I

need to take Wellbutrin because " I have changed so much, I am not

the woman he married).

So I'm popping the pills....

JJ

[Guest guest]

Believe me JJ, I understand. I've suffered with panic disorder, anxiety and

chronic depression since I was in my 20's (I'm 51). The time around my period

was AWFUL. I could cry at commercials on TV!! Ha! Ha! I have now entered

menopause and I take a supplement called Estroven which is soy based and it

seems to help. Did not want to do estrogen therapy.

I am wondering also how the surgery will affect my medications and the

conditions themselves. I'm hoping since I will be healthier I will also have a

lift in my depression. Just have to wait and see.

You have been through a lot and I'm sure you will get feeling better. Group

therapy helped me a lot. Are you in any kind of therapy? I also had to try a

few different medications before I found a combination that really helped.

Take care and know that I'm thinking of you. If you ever need an " ear " or eyes,

just reach out an email me. I work at home on the computer, so I check my email

regularly.

Take care and God bless.

Jolynn in NY - PreOp

368/???/140 (I can dream can't I? Hee! Hee!)

What do I do if I have to take the meds

I don't have any choice in the matter, my husband decided that I

need to take Wellbutrin because " I have changed so much, I am not

the woman he married).

So I'm popping the pills....

JJ

[Guest guest]

On other thing there are different types of depression, you can have

depression when your life makes a drastic change such as this surgery

and while you certainly feel bad it seems to have an end point when

the benefits of the surgery begin to out weigh what we are mourning

such as food, meals with family, social interactions, etc.

Ther there is chronic depression that may or may not be triggered by

life 's circumstances, certainly it can be exacerbated by them, but

this depression doesn't lift after a bit of time or exercise or what

ever. This is a physical disorder and needs treatment, medicine of

some sort and in some cases you will need to add talk therapy to help

you adjust. This is the depression I was referring to that someone

suffering from this might need to have a loved one or friend intercede

on their behalf and make them seek medical treatment because they

might be too incompacitated by depression to do this on their own.

anne

> anne i was reading on a site that depression after the surgery

in the beginning is very normal part of the recovery process.

>

> .

>

>

[Guest guest]

The doctor cannot call the husband and discuss his wife's treatment,

but it certainly is not against the law for a husband to call the

doctor and voice his concern. The doctor is then allowed to bring up

this concern with his patient.

Good lord it seems like you would rather be severely depressed than

have your husband seek help for you. Because this some how diminishes

your independence. I am as independent as the next person, but if my

husband noticed a dangerous change in me and called my doctor I would

appreciate his concern and the doctors concern also. After I got over

being p*****d off probably :-)

Some spouses would carp and complain about your bad moods and crying

and tell you to get a grip, personally I would prefer JJ's husbands

reaction.

> Unless you allow your doctor to talk to your husband about you he

should not be able to do it. My husband asks me every time I return

from the doctor what he said about him (we have the same pcp). And

every time I have to tell him that we do not discuss him. We can't

discuss him unless he asks the doctor to explain something to me or

something of that nature.

[Guest guest]

Yeah, I cry at commercials and just cannot help myself. Then my Dr said

that I'm still mourning the food, and the meals with family and friends, and

of course the cooking (I loooooove to cook).

Hopefully time will help, I am willing to listen to my " lovebug " because he

would never willingly hurt me.

I did get some shots for 7 months (instead of a hystorectamy - they said I

wouldn't make it of the table alive), and they put me into menopause, but

now everything started to get back to the " old ways " (I didn't know that the

shots would wear off). Just lately (2x) my period wouldn't come.....

Oh well, thank you for the ear and the eye. It feels so good to be able to

talk to somebody other than my husband and since I don't drive (never

learned how) I'm pretty stuck at home - so no, I have no group support but

the one ya'll are providing me with!!!!

Thank you again, and ditto to the ear and eye!

JJ

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Believe me JJ, I understand. I've suffered with panic disorder, anxiety and

chronic depression since I was in my 20's (I'm 51). The time around my

period was AWFUL. I could cry at commercials on TV!! Ha! Ha! I have now

entered menopause and I take a supplement called Estroven which is soy based

and it seems to help. Did not want to do estrogen therapy.

I am wondering also how the surgery will affect my medications and the

conditions themselves. I'm hoping since I will be healthier I will also

have a lift in my depression. Just have to wait and see.

You have been through a lot and I'm sure you will get feeling better. Group

therapy helped me a lot. Are you in any kind of therapy? I also had to try

a few different medications before I found a combination that really helped.

Take care and know that I'm thinking of you. If you ever need an " ear " or

eyes, just reach out an email me. I work at home on the computer, so I

check my email regularly.

Take care and God bless.

Jolynn in NY - PreOp

368/???/140 (I can dream can't I? Hee! Hee!)

What do I do if I have to take the meds

I don't have any choice in the matter, my husband decided that I

need to take Wellbutrin because " I have changed so much, I am not

the woman he married).

So I'm popping the pills....

JJ

[Guest guest]

My husband is my ride to the Dr, and I like him to come as moral support.

Just when he talked about my " moods " I felt betrayed. Now I feel better

about it.

THANK YOU EVERYBODY

JJ

-- Re: What do I do if I have to take the meds

The doctor cannot call the husband and discuss his wife's treatment,

but it certainly is not against the law for a husband to call the

doctor and voice his concern. The doctor is then allowed to bring up

this concern with his patient.

Good lord it seems like you would rather be severely depressed than

have your husband seek help for you. Because this some how diminishes

your independence. I am as independent as the next person, but if my

husband noticed a dangerous change in me and called my doctor I would

appreciate his concern and the doctors concern also. After I got over

being p*****d off probably :-)

Some spouses would carp and complain about your bad moods and crying

and tell you to get a grip, personally I would prefer JJ's husbands

reaction.

> Unless you allow your doctor to talk to your husband about you he

should not be able to do it. My husband asks me every time I return

from the doctor what he said about him (we have the same pcp). And

every time I have to tell him that we do not discuss him. We can't

discuss him unless he asks the doctor to explain something to me or

something of that nature.