Guest guest Posted September 1, 2004 Report Share Posted September 1, 2004 If you can't tell them the truth, then maybe you can tell them a " white lie : You could have gallbladder surgery?? Happens fast, takes about 3 weeks to heal, leaves a little scar (not like mine).??? JJ -- Don't Ask Don't Tell Hi Everyone, I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has tried to keep their surgery a secret from all but their most immediate family. I am having surgery September 27 and don't want everyone to know. Does anyone have any advice for me? Also, my sister keeps asking me how I will handle Thanksgiving, Christmas, and other holidays centered around food. She is supportive of my decision to have the surgery but is worried I will suffter some type of emotional crisis during the holidays. Is it depressing? Do you have regrets then? Another thing is that I keep hearing everyone talk about the nausea. My surgeon has given me a patch to put on the night before surgery that should even help get the magnesium citrate down plus it will last for three days to help with the initial nausea. I also have prescription suppositories for nausea for after I get home. I feel that my doctor has been much more thorough in anticipating the meds I might need than a lot of people I read about online. Please try asking your doctor to be more proactive in prefenting the nausea. I am learning so much from reading all of your experiences. Those of you who talk about your weight loss, riding a bicycle for the first time, playing more with your children - you have all been such inspirations. I can't wait to have my own story to tell. Ronda in Alabama (hi in AL!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 , I feel like you do. I've told almost everyone that has asked. I told those I work close to and others in the office I'm sure have no clue. Family and close friends I've told and for the most part they have all been very supportive. Your right the more you talk to people the more you find they either have a relative of their own or a friend or two that have also had the surgery. I think those that aren't supportive are more uneducated about the process and benefits the surgery gives us than anything. Having the WLS surgery is a personal decision only one can really make for themselves. I personally have not regretted one moment and would do it again in a heartbeat. I just have to remember patience, this weight didn't come on overnight and it won't go off overnight and that the surgery is only a tool, we have to do the rest. Wishing all those with surgery dates approaching the best of luck, God's speed in an uneventful surgery and a quick and easy recovery. Everyone have a wonderful blessed day. Hugs, Laurette 4/23/04 open rny 309/290/236/150 St. Charity Cleveland, Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 I have heard other's using that " white lie " before. Like you said its a similiar surgery...and it just happen to cause weightloss too! Hugs, > If you can't tell them the truth, then maybe you can tell them a " white lie > : You could have gallbladder surgery?? Happens fast, takes about 3 weeks to > heal, leaves a little scar (not like mine).??? > JJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Congrats !!! Way to go. And my 2 cents on what you shared. In my experience, almost every one of the people who have tried to tell me a horror story it has either been my friends friend or someone knew someone at work. It is never someone that they personally know. But most of the success stories that I have been told are people that they actually know and can give me a name. Bad word travels rapidly and can sometimes be not completely true because the person telling it has just heard it somewhere. Don't get me wrong, I know that there are horrible stories out there and the danger is absolutely real, but there are many more good outcomes. Just my 2 cents. Dora in Tennessee Lap/Open RNY 9/20/2004 Vanderbilt Hospital Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Helena (papa11h@...) just be prepared to fend off the " are you deathly ill " questions when you begin to melt away. Everyone knew about my surgery--and people STILL asked me if I was sick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 I wanted to add something and what you said Amy is true...its a form of support for all of us...especially if its good friends. But what I was going to add is, I chose not to tell anyone but my husband during the waiting for the appt to the approval cause I didn't want other's later on coming back and saying...oh the surgery didn't work? Its just easier for me to keep quiet for a time then I just let those close to me and other's as I see fit. You don't have to wear a sign diplicting your surgery either. If they ask you can say whatever you please...its simply who you feel comfortable telling them and what you say. Hope that came across okay...dog is pulling my arm and needing to go outside...quickly!! Hugs, in AL. > I understand that some people want to keep it private, but as for me, I dont mind people knowing.. That is just another form of support for me... I dont mind talking about it, because it is an accomplishement that i did for myself, and i am not ashamed of myself for doing it, i am rather proud of myself, so i dont mind telling the world.. > just me though. > amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 The only one in my family know about my sugery is my sister, kid and b/f. The rest of my family thought I was in the hospital getting my gall bladder which was true I just didnt tell them the rest. They have noticed I am losing weight but I tell them I am doing Adkins which I am trying to stick to. So really im not lying to them Im just not telling them everything. I had my surgery on 6/23/04 starting at 287 and weighted in yesterday at 229. I dont think there is anything wrong with not telling your family. My sister is my biggest support. She is having the surgery approx Feb/March her insurance made her diet for 6 mths. We wanted to do this together. She has told everyone about her surgery but has kept mine a total secret. Tammy In PA Open 6/23/04 287/229/135 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 , Thanks for the support. I am glad that others do feel the same as me. I choose to keep it my lil secret and am very glad for the support in this group. I know what you mean about the compliments. Its strange, really strange. I ran into an old friend today whom I havent seen for about 3 yrs and she just stared at me like I was a freak, then told me how nice I looked. Im not sure how to take the compliments yet either. Tammy In PA Open 6/23/04 287/229/135 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 It must be great to have those type of friends. Tammy In PA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 I didn't tell many people, not out of shame or the fear of some kind of stigma, but basically because I am not the type to share much information and whole heartedly believe when people ask how are you or how do you feel they really only want to hear fine, not the details. anne > I on the other hand have done the exact opposite. There again, every > person is different. Everyone that I know knows I am having this > surgery. I have come across a little bit of opposition, but for the > most part they are very supportive. My friends at work are so > supportive in fact, that last night they threw me a party. They wanted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 I didn't tell many people, not out of shame or the fear of some kind of stigma, but basically because I am not the type to share much information and whole heartedly believe when people ask how are you or how do you feel they really only want to hear fine, not the details. anne > I on the other hand have done the exact opposite. There again, every > person is different. Everyone that I know knows I am having this > surgery. I have come across a little bit of opposition, but for the > most part they are very supportive. My friends at work are so > supportive in fact, that last night they threw me a party. They wanted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2004 Report Share Posted September 3, 2004 It is very good to have them. We have all gone to lunch every Friday for the 7 years that I have been in this office. They are about like family. Well, 2 of them are my sisters-in-law so I guess they are family, but have only been for the last 11 months. Dora in Tennessee Open/Lap RNY 9/20/04 Vanderbilt Hospital Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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