Guest guest Posted November 18, 2003 Report Share Posted November 18, 2003 Just gotta jump in here a little bit. My dh and I were high school sweethearts. He came into our relationship with open eyes and a big heart (he weighted about 170 @ 6'2 " ). I wore a size 26 wedding gown. In March it will be 30 yrs that we have been together. He loved me then (at my highest) and loves me now (at my lowest). I got lucky and found MY gem very early. When you find one...hang on tight cause they are rare gems indeed! I never let the weight stop me from doing anything that I wanted to. I have two beautiful boys (grown) and have done pretty good in the job market. Yes, I get treated different now, but pre WLS I refused to let people treat me " bad " because I weighed over 300 lbs. I feel that much of it is due to how I saw myself. Maybe it was because I had always been big? Never knew anything else until this surgery. One of the best compliments I ever had (pre surgery) was from a lady in our corporate headquarters. I had to go to a meeting and training that she was also in. She wrote me a note when I got back to my job and said that she was very pleased to meet me and that she only wished that she had as much confidence and self assurance as I did. Made me feel really good. Love, Reba > Jen, sometimes you find a gem in the pile of rubbish. I did. My DH is so > proud of me. He didn't know me Pre-WLS. Heck I was 15 years down that road > before he even met me. But, he doesn't hesitate to step in and take care of > me. He understands completely, and says, " she can't have that. It will make > her sick. " He takes care of all my restaurant orders, he has them packaged > up, he takes complete care of me. And he has seen pictures of me " before. " > And he gloats. He loves me, and I am spoiled rotten. When you find your gem > in the rubbish, grab him. They are very rare and should be cherished. > BTW I am a retired cop, and have a degree in journalism/broadcasting. I > don't trust anyone. Sometime you just have to follow your heart. > > Jac > http://www.pictureitdigitaldesigns.com/ > http://members.cox.net/XXXFARMPAINTS > mail to: jholdaway@c... > > Order a BRAT 2004 calendar today at: > http://www.basenjirescue.org/calendarcontest/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2003 Report Share Posted November 18, 2003 Oh Gosh, don't our SO/boyfriends/hubbies all have to sit through the funniest things? Most of the time when a group of us get together we show our RNY scar if we have one...or our new belly button...if we have one....or there are twenty of us sitting in Olive Garden waving our arm FLAPS!!!! AND ROARING in laughter. I know the REST of the restaurant was bug eyed! just laughs with us. Like Jac's sweetie....he protects me, takes care of me, spoils me rotten. Just the way it should be. Debbie & in Gig Harbor (170cm medial) ladybostons@... http://www.cafeshops.com/copsstore http://www.marykay.com/debbiemcneice -----Original Message----- From: Terry Mayers Jen's boyfriend is a really nice guy. And she's not kidding about the discussion that he sat through after that meeting. The person who said that his panni looked like a butt and I were talking about TTs and we were specifically discussing Jen and how she'll look after her TT (all complimentary of course). I think I even stood up and showed my TT scar. ---------------------------------------- Terry Mayers 5DollarHosting.com http://www.5dollarhosting.com .... because it shouldn't cost a fortune to make a fortune! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 2003 Report Share Posted November 19, 2003 Oh Debbie, I am so looking forward to this " laughing along " stage, but it's not around the corner for us just yet. My baby is having a hard time, and has been having a hard time since I started this journey. YES, he was 100% in support of the wls. We had a bunch of post-surgical problems (small compared to some others have suffered, so I won't complain) and he was THERE with me every step, but it was VERY hard on him emotionally. As I am sure that is true for many of our babies, right? To this day he has an irrational hatred of my surgeon. He blamed surgeon for post-surgical problems, and now he blames surgeon for every wince and gas pain I have. There's no arguing with him about it either. And this is despite the fact that he will admit I am a million times healthier now than I was 2 years ago. And despite the fact that he freely admits this surgery likely saved my life. Now that I am 2 years out and started PS adventure this past September, this has just deepened his inability to " laugh along " . I can flap my excess arm skin till I lift off, and it wouldn't crack him a grin, even a mournful one. Of course, he hates my plastic surgeon now too. Problem: I had my bladder shut down for a bit post BL due to swelling in mons area, and hubs was LIVID that PS didn't psychically anticipate this happening -- more irrationality, okay? Big deal, I had to go home with Foley catheter for a few days. No injury just inconvenience. If it wasn't the negligible bladder issue, trust me, he would have found something else to hate PS over. So, I just let him vent and hope that helps. Now we have the boob/arm thing coming up 12/22. He is miserable. He is also supporting me in this, but it doesn't have the same air of life/or/death urgency that the wls had. He understands why I want the PS, and he is there for me on it, BUT if it were up to him, it wouldn't be happening. He could care less if I am tripping on my ta-tas -- doesn't matter to him one iota. He understands, however, that it matters a whole pile to me. So Santa is leaving me some wonderful gifts this year, but put some stinky coal in hubs' Xmas stocking! Bottom line: I feel a little guilty about this PS stuff, as far as the strain it is placing on him. However, perhaps selfishly (perhpas NOT selfishly), I am going ahead. I keep hoping at some point we will arrive at the " laughing along " stage. But his personality is such that I anticipate it will be decades, if NEVER, that he will get comfortable enough with things. Just last night, in anticipation of the second annual checkup I am having later this afternoon at WLS surgeon's office, he was reviewing all the potential medical catastrophes I can (theoretically) have down the line, and of course he was working up a pretty good animosity towards the doctor. ly, any time we leave any of my doctors' offices where hubs hasn't choked anyone, I am always happy! ROFLMAO! Well, just venting here everyone, thanks for listening. All this stuff has been " weighing " on my mind recently, for obvious reasons. My beloved husband, with whom I have been together for 27 years now, is only a mutant when it comes to his food pecularities, but in every other way, he is the only diety in my life. In a message dated 11/19/2003 6:49:15 AM Eastern Standard Time, Graduate-OSSG writes: > Oh Gosh, don't our SO/boyfriends/hubbies all have to sit through the > funniest things? Most of the time when a group of us get together we show > our RNY scar if we have one...or our new belly button...if we have one....or > there are twenty of us sitting in Olive Garden waving our arm FLAPS!!!! AND > ROARING in laughter. I know the REST of the restaurant was bug eyed! > just laughs with us. Like Jac's sweetie....he protects me, takes care of me, > spoils me rotten. Just the way it should be. > > Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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