Re: update on help...

[Guest guest]

Please don't stress about the little bit of time that she's sleeping on her back while she's got the red spots. The flat head didn't develop overnight so a night or two on her back isn't going to cause a major regression.

I don't know anything about the type of helmet you have so I can't help you there. As far as the stares go, try taking a look at the photos on this sight. I fell in love with the so many cute babies with helmets and decided that my looked absolutely adorable in hers. We didn't decorate it because it came with a design (like the STARbands do), but I loved how she looked in it. Try to think of the helmet as braces or even glasses. They don't change the beautiful baby inside.

You also don't need to explain it to anyone if you don't want to. I enjoyed doing so because I felt as though I was educating others as I did. At other times (when we were considering the helmet or had just gotten it), I found that other mothers at storytime and gymnastics were supportive. They told of other babies they knew who'd had it. I even had one who showed me her baby's mild flat spot and another adult who showed me her own flat spot. But, if you are tired of explaining, there are some t-shirts and onesies with cute sayings regarding the helmet and plagio (although I don't have the link). Or, rehearse a one-liner such as "she just has a little bit of a flat spot and the helmet is going to fix it" and move on.

In general, I just found that most people were curious. I was actually happier to have them ask directly rather than just stare, but most didn't really stare. It actually got more attention from others and they would speak to her or make some cute comment about riding a bike or playing football. Sometimes people would just comment on how cute she was.

I do remember how stressful it was to start, but I'm sure it would have been even harder if we'd had red spots (we didn't). I can reassure you that as you get a handle on the red spots and get used to her in the helmet, the time will go by quickly. Stick with it and try to keep your spirits up.

I hope that something I have said helped.

, mom to , 25 months

STARband grad May 2009 after 6 months

Chiro and CST

land

update on help...

I left it off last night. Tried to get her to sleep on her tummy and she either rolled to her back herself or screamed her head off till we picked her up. I tried getting her to be on her side and she kept rolling too, even with something proped behind her. I hate the thought that she was on her flat spot all night but there was nothing I could of done. Today I think we are going to get some foam to cut a square out to have on hand so if this happens again, or we might need it tonight we have it. So far the redness is still there. And no it does not feel warm to the touch, but it is super red and has been getting redder the last couple of days with the the helmet on. Tonight I will be putting her helmet back on for a few hours because we are having a babysitter (have really expensive non refundable tickets to a musical) and I dont want the babysitter to have to stress about not putting her on her back. On another notes, I need some suport from people who know how this feels. I was so stressed about getting a helmet but thought once she got it I would be calmer, but I am not. I am stressed that maybe we didnt get the right helmet (we have the newer danmar that is custom made for her) and I worry about what if it doesnt work and we might be waisting presious time. I worry about the sores. I get sick of having people stare at her and explaining what its for. My husband just doesnt worry about it and doesnt understand why I am stressing. I hate this!!! I wish we didnt have to go through any of this. She has adjusted fine with the helmet after the first few days. I am just surprised how hard its been on me. I have no one to talk to which doesnt help, I feel like I have all these feelings inside and am having to fake it on the outside. I keep checking her head and some days I think I see it changing other days doesnt look different. I am driving myself crazy and I dont know what to do. And now she has gotten these sores and the helmet needs to be off so no I am stressing about making sure her head is not touching anything cause if the last 2 weeks have actully done something I dont want to reverse it while its off.

[Guest guest]

I know how you feel about the stress factor. I seem to stress and worry all the while my hubby is cool as a cucumber. It frustrates me when he is like that some times, but on the other hand it is a good balance for me. I think as mothers we tend to over-stress ourselves over our children. I know I do. I know everything will be fine for her, it just takes time. I hope you can find a helmet that suits her little body.

On Sun, Oct 4, 2009 at 2:54 PM, l_peaches <L_peaches@...> wrote:

 

I left it off last night. Tried to get her to sleep on her tummy and she either rolled to her back herself or screamed her head off till we picked her up. I tried getting her to be on her side and she kept rolling too, even with something proped behind her. I hate the thought that she was on her flat spot all night but there was nothing I could of done. Today I think we are going to get some foam to cut a square out to have on hand so if this happens again, or we might need it tonight we have it. So far the redness is still there. And no it does not feel warm to the touch, but it is super red and has been getting redder the last couple of days with the the helmet on. Tonight I will be putting her helmet back on for a few hours because we are having a babysitter (have really expensive non refundable tickets to a musical) and I dont want the babysitter to have to stress about not putting her on her back.

On another notes, I need some suport from people who know how this feels. I was so stressed about getting a helmet but thought once she got it I would be calmer, but I am not. I am stressed that maybe we didnt get the right helmet (we have the newer danmar that is custom made for her) and I worry about what if it doesnt work and we might be waisting presious time. I worry about the sores. I get sick of having people stare at her and explaining what its for. My husband just doesnt worry about it and doesnt understand why I am stressing. I hate this!!! I wish we didnt have to go through any of this. She has adjusted fine with the helmet after the first few days. I am just surprised how hard its been on me. I have no one to talk to which doesnt help, I feel like I have all these feelings inside and am having to fake it on the outside. I keep checking her head and some days I think I see it changing other days doesnt look different. I am driving myself crazy and I dont know what to do. And now she has gotten these sores and the helmet needs to be off so no I am stressing about making sure her head is not touching anything cause if the last 2 weeks have actully done something I dont want to reverse it while its off.

[Guest guest]

Well - for support you hav e come to the right place... and even if

it's not too busy, you can search thru older messages and see that YOU

ARE NOT ALONE!!!!

We have all stressed and worried about our babies! I know that I

fretted over the band, but was so happy with the decision to band.

Any question you have you can post or search for the key word thru old

post... or just vent your feelings!!!

HUGS!

And let us know what the orthos says!

Jen

Mom to Luli - 3 yrs old

Torticollis, Plagio, Syringomyelia

update on help...

I left it off last night. Tried to get her to sleep on her tummy and

she either rolled to her back herself or screamed her head off till we

picked her up. I tried getting her to be on her side and she kept

rolling too, even with something proped behind her. I hate the thought

that she was on her flat spot all night but there was nothing I could

of done. Today I think we are going to get some foam to cut a square

out to have on hand so if this happens again, or we might need it

tonight we have it. So far the redness is still there. And no it does

not feel warm to the touch,=2

0but it is super red and has been getting

redder the last couple of days with the the helmet on. Tonight I will

be putting her helmet back on for a few hours because we are having a

babysitter (have really expensive non refundable tickets to a musical)

and I dont want the babysitter to have to stress about not putting her

on her back.

On another notes, I need some suport from people who know how this

feels. I was so stressed about getting a helmet but thought once she

got it I would be calmer, but I am not. I am stressed that maybe we

didnt get the right helmet (we have the newer danmar that is custom

made for her) and I worry about what if it doesnt work and we might be

waisting presious time. I worry about the sores. I get sick of

having people stare at her and explaining what its for. My husband

just doesnt worry about it and doesnt understand why I am stressing. I

hate this!!! I wish we didnt have to go through any of this. She has

adjusted fine with the helmet after the first few days. I am just

surprised how hard its been on me. I have no one to talk to which

doesnt help, I feel like I have all these feelings inside and am having

to fake it on the outside. I keep checking her head and some days I

think I see it changing other days doesnt look different. I am driving

myself crazy and I dont know what to do. =2

0And now she has gotten these

sores and the helmet needs to be off so no I am stressing about making

sure her head is not touching anything cause if the last 2 weeks have

actully done something I dont want to reverse it while its off.