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I dont think anyone was calling names

fliphaven wrote:No question is a stupid question and in

fact the more you ask and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me <SEE :)

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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We'll, I can at least say that it is a known fact that Baylor University in

Dallas is te # 1 Hospital in the USA for the surgery.. That is true fact and

thats where i had my surgery,.. Not everyone can just up and go to the hospital

of there choice..

fliphaven wrote:Thus the title COLD HARD FACTS, not warm

and fuzzy fru fru ones...

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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Fliphaven,

I'm not out to play childish games only to learn as much as I can before I have

this surgery. Knowledge is something that should be shared. It's great that

you have been asked by our members to return to supply us with your knowledge

and it's greatly appreciated. Perhaps you have been hardened like you said

but.. PLEASE realise there are many new members here that do not know you &

therefore your approach could push someone away,

I'm not asking you to KILL people with kindness...only to be polite and keep in

mind when you respond to a email or decided to pass some advise on you are

speaking not just to the people who know you but to our new members too.

Out of respect to you and everyone else here... I will not bring this subject up

again... Thank you

fliphaven wrote:

No question is a stupid question and in fact the more you ask and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me <SEE :)

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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Flip Haven,

We are not asking for sugar coating - we are here to help each other and you

seem to be upsetting people. You think you know everything and are doubting

that some people had drains and some don't. One question: Who the heck do you

think you are? If you don't like it here - leave the site - I am sure it would

be a welcome to all. What are your medical credentials by the way (oops that

was two questions) . I wish you would stay and be more civil to people - lets

go back to god- do unto others as they do unto you? Would you like people

telling you negative things the whole time - especially if they are not proven

true in EVERY CASE. I hope your answer is no. I have about had enough of this

nonsense. Lighten up a bit will ya. Sounds like you are very bitter about

something - maybe you should seek professional help.

Ella

fliphaven wrote:

Thus the title COLD HARD FACTS, not warm and fuzzy fru fru ones...

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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Ah, my approach. Okay, sorry for all you truly sensitive types who

can't take things straight forward. I'll try to sugar coat my posts

so you feel better about what I have to say. Is dat otay fo awl you

little ones out dere?

Ray,

I tried to stay out of this because I don't want this to get back to where the

site was before. But what a rude .... you are being. Do not ever talk down to

any of us the way you just did. I am sorry if you are having a bad day, but do

not come on here and take it out on others. You have been rude and you need to

check yourself before you put asinine lines like that in your posts. I was on

your side last time, but the time away from here seems to have hardened you into

a bitter person who can't stand it when not everyone gushes all over you because

you give us information that you still have not give us article dates on where

you found it. If you are so willing to give us the information because you feel

you have done more research than we have then how about coming up with some

proof that we can read. You need to step back for a few minutes and take a

breath.

Dora in Tennessee

Lap/Open RNY 9/20/2004

Vanderbilt Hospital

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the last part of your statement is degrading those you made that statement to

.... you sound like - - - you can figure out what the dashes are for your so

educated until you made that statement i thought you were just an aggressive

person .. not no more we now know what you really are

fliphaven wrote:Ah, my approach. Okay, sorry for all you

truly sensitive types who

can't take things straight forward. I'll try to sugar coat my posts

so you feel better about what I have to say. Is dat otay fo awl you

little ones out dere?

-- In Gastric_Bypass_Family , brooke sheilds

wrote:

> No it wasnt you it was the approach

>

> wrote:I have not been in this

group long, perhaps not long enought to have heard from you before.

I was actually taken by your words. You are informative but your

approach is somewhat rude if you ask me. There are ways of getting

information across without having to come out rude!!! Have you had

this surgery before? Are you in the same boat as the rest of us? I

thought this group was a place to get information, share information

and ask questions to help educate us all by others experiences? I

thought no question was a stupid question?

>

> Please tell me I took this email message wrong! If I did I'm

sorry and if I didn't shame on you.

>

> fliphaven wrote:

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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i did not realize that that was the ray who left because he was misunderstood

and ya a few and i mean very few not 1oo people begged him to not leave boy i

can't understand that if this is the wasy he was then

shirley

jackrussellrunner wrote:

Nevermind... I read farther through the e-mails and found someone

else had mentioned your name. I want you to know Ray that afer you

left LAST time that some people were upset. That was before you

pulled this shenanigan. You are being ridiculous. Have you had this

surgery? you danced around that question pretty well. I understand

that you read those medical journals although my uncle is an ER

surgeon and has told me numerous times that they are not always

factual and 100% correct. He would know too. I studied and read my

heart out when my parents first approached me about this surgery. I

was against it from the beginning but after reading the statistics

and getting info from my uncle and other family members that are

doctors I changed my mind. Living obese is far worse than having

gastric bypass. The other night I was watching the news and there

was a local story of a woman in Cleveland that had the surgery over

a year ago. She got down to 150 and from then on lost a lb a day.

She was very fragile lookings and very sickly. I freaked out, like

many do after reading your insane posts, and called my family

members. They asked if the news segment revealed who her surgeon

was, where she had the surgery done, and what her lifestyle and

regime was like. I told them no. They told me that for all I knew

some Joe Schmo did the surgery and she didn't follow postop

instructions. Just remember that we are ALL different. What is best

for some is not for others, doctors are different, surgeries are

different and you may be one with a cold heart online while we are

all open, warm, and friendly. I am honestly and bluntly going to

tell you how I FEEL. Last time I felt bad for you that someone had

asked you to leave, even after you made a joke about me. I still

felt bad and thought that it was unfair. I now understand where that

person, or those people, had their idea(s). I feel that if you

contribute to the group rather than insult and hurt this group than

by all means keep contributing. However, if you are going to tell me

and all my " family " on this site that we are bad, horrible,

miseducated people than you have got another thing coming. Enough

said, I think you get all of our opinions.

Bethany

281/261/215/150

may 27, 2004

> > > Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> > > Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are

> actually

> > > qualified.

> > > Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post

> surgical

> > > procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up

> with

> > > all of the above etc.

> > > That means that according to the New England Journal of

Medicine

> > > only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe

> bet

> > to

> > > work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started

> about

> > > those of you who would be willing to go to some third world

> country

> > > for something this serious, SHEESH!

> > > Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER

precare

> > and

> > > post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or

how

> > you

> > > act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> > > This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's

on

> an

> > > experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

> > there

> > > is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> > > healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't

give

> > > answers, only facts!

> > > If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> > > common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

> > surgeon

> > > will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm

your

> > > worries or advise you medically.

> > > and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> > > written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it

is

> > > me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

> > >

> > >

> > >

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FLIPHAVEN--I AM LISTENING--REALITY BITES....MIMI

fliphaven wrote:No question is a stupid question and in

fact the more you ask and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me <SEE :)

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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there might be over 100 members in this group but there is not nowhere that

amout that post ... so how did 1oo members ask you to come back .. i remeber

only a couple of members asking ..... i was not one of them...

you are wecome to post here but please watch you attitude..

shirley

" MIMI R. " wrote:

FLIPHAVEN--I AM LISTENING--REALITY BITES....MIMI

fliphaven wrote:No question is a stupid question and in fact the more you ask

and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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come on people.. this has been squashed.. lets not get it started again.

amy

" MIMI R. " wrote:

FLIPHAVEN--I AM LISTENING--REALITY BITES....MIMI

fliphaven wrote:No question is a stupid question and in

fact the more you ask and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me <SEE :)

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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Filphaven

I too am a doctor and I make it clear I do not know it all, nor do I beat

others on top of their heads about what the New England Journal of Medicine

quotes " .

I have also been doing Clinical Research for over 10 years and find I if a

doctor does not have a bedside manor then he or she should be in a lab or x-ray

for a profession. This is medicine and we treat humans not laboratory animals.

There are many ways to give bad news or medicine but with a COLD and Bitter

attitude is not well received. Maybe you did not realize that your manor is

poor, and your attitude is " acting superior " but it was and I was offended in

the way you responded to people here.

Yes, many of us here do not want to hear the bad news nor accept our faults,

but this is something each and everyone of us must deal with on our own. If we

fail or win this battle hearincondescendingng attitudes only make is fall into

bad and old habits. This is one of the reasons that this is a tool not

thdivinene answer to our prayers in losing weight.

If you were aStrongng and more superior than us here you would not have needed

the surgery either. Each of us are humans with all the human failings that comes

with being a human being. If you can not have your say without beating people

over the heads maybe then you should start your own group there cold hard

feelings, facts and attitude are the standard and the norm. This is not the

group to do this and I for one will not accept nor allow this to continue.

Each and everyone (including yourself) fights daily to overcome bad feelings,

habits and old shadows. To learn how to become the best person we can be.

Knowing we will lose one battle and hopefully not the war on our weight. We are

learning we are not comfortable in our new skin and battle each and everyday to

accept the new person we have become. Take pride in what we have accomplished

each and everyday. Its the small victories that will help us make it through the

new learning curve of ourselves.

It takes so little to give me a thrill when it comes to " the new me " . I am

knowledgeable in medicine and treating patients, but being one really sucks!!!!

I laid in the hospital and the physicians and nurses talked without talking when

I had problems without the information. Finally I made a statement and their

heads turned and realized that I knew exactly what was going on and I did not

like the feeling that I didn't need the information or that it was too much for

me to handle. All they had to do was speak to me in a human manor and I

could accept this even if I didn't have a medical background.

So I ask you, if you want to be a part of this group please do it in a

kinder manor. I am not asking you to sugar coat anything, just take off the

" brass balls " to do it as I do not like being hit in the head with it. Or

don't say a word...

OK, I had my say finally and if I offended anyone, please except my apology.

It was not intended to be directed to anyone but the person who has offended

many here.

Cherie Rivard

Bakersfield, CA

" MIMI R. " wrote:

FLIPHAVEN--I AM LISTENING--REALITY BITES....MIMI

fliphaven wrote:No question is a stupid question and in

fact the more you ask and

even if that question has been asked before and answered before over

and over it is still a good idea to ask your question. I am not an

answer man. I researched my surgery for 3 years before getting it

done and am a physician myself on the enquiry board for this surgery

in D.C. and I was here before. Rude? I didn't know this was a Dear

Abby forum. I am not here to kill ANYBODY with kindness but will

offer the truth to anybody who wants to listen. I had over 100

members ask me to come back to this list and I have. If anybody

needs qualification they should go to the National Medical Archives

and New England Journal of Medicine and research the history of

actual bypass surgery OF WHICH LAP BAND IS NOT! Laproscopic banding

of the stomach compared to RNY or the like is like comparing a

manicure to having an limb re-attached. Last time I left because of

childish attitudes and name calling. I've been hardened since then

because of the growing number of people dying from the silliness

they engage in after they have this type of surgery and the poor pre

and post op care by so called physicians. I am straight forward and

if that seems rude then perhaps you've led a too sheltered life. I

love you all, kisses n hugz, me <SEE :)

> Let me give you all some cold hard facts:

> Out of 1000 Dr's that may perform this surgery EIGHTY are actually

> qualified.

> Out of that 80 only 20% do the proper presurgical and post surgical

> procedures ie Psych evaluations, dieticians, 2 year follow up with

> all of the above etc.

> That means that according to the New England Journal of Medicine

> only SIXTEEN surgeons out of ONE THOUSAND are actually a safe bet

to

> work with for any type of GPS...and don't even get me started about

> those of you who would be willing to go to some third world country

> for something this serious, SHEESH!

> Just because the TRUTH about this surgery and the PROPER precare

and

> post care may not agree with who you used or what you eat or how

you

> act does not make it any less TRUTH!

> This type of surgery has been performed since the early 60's on an

> experimental basis and then regularly as of the early 70's and

there

> is PLENTY of evidence to support all of what is and what is NOT

> healthy habits post surgery. Any questions? Too bad, I don't give

> answers, only facts!

> If ANY of you have any problems post op whether you hear it is

> common or not CALL YOUR DOCTOR and don't waste time. A good

surgeon

> will be happy you called and happy to take a moment to calm your

> worries or advise you medically.

> and of those of you who are wondering and the hundreds who have

> written me asking me to come back here, the answer is YES, it is

> me...or rather, I. Sorry for the grammar.

>

>

>

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