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I don't spend much more than I did before WLS *except* on clothes! I find

that I actually LIKE clothes, now, and I do spend lots on them. However,

since I'm still losing (although more slowly), I stick to the discount

catalogs and drastic sales. I'd be broke if I bought the same amoung of

clothes at regular retail!

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Surgery date June 3, 2002

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> I wonder if any of you have had this problem...or maybe a

blessings...since WLS...

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just

generally treat yourself with stuff....I find I am loving to buy things and

shop more than ever....I figure , that I spent so much money before WLS on

food , that it's really no difference, and now I'm doing something

constructive....I never have really spent much on myself for things, except

for food.

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In a message dated 09/05/2003 11:59:34 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

sms2001@... writes:

> Gosh the money I wasted. I bet I could have bought myself a castle on a

> hill with the money I spend on food. But, I am so grateful to be at goal and

> I've lost 221 lbs. Down from 347 to 126. Just wondering if anyone is feeling

the

> same way I do. Thanks for letting me ramble on...

>

Yes, I feel the same way. I do spend a lot of time in local consignment

shops. Good quality, classic clothing at inexpensive prices. I have done alot

of work to get myself down to this size and continue to work to maintain my

current weight. I feel as though I can treat myself to nice clothing. I no

longer spend large amounts of money at fast food windows!

O'Connell

Haverhill Ma

Open RNY 2/7/02

Pre op weight:248

Now: 134

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Yes, sorta. I found I'd replaced something with shopping. Didn't always have

to buy, had to shop, though. It was the high of my week.

Of course, when I realized that, I had to stop. It had control over me and

I wasn't going down that road! It was hard to stop, too. Like anything

else, it isn't like you can NEVER shop again and be ok. Gotta do it. But I

wait tl the last minute and have to rush, so there is no high in it. It's a

duty and now I an do it.

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Spending issues

> Hi, I know this is gonna sound silly, but I wonder if any of you have had

this problem...or maybe a blessings...since WLS...

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just

generally treat yourself with stuff....I find I am loving to buy things and

shop more than ever....I figure , that I spent so much money before WLS on

food , that it's really no difference, and now I'm doing something

constructive....I never have really spent much on myself for things, except

for food. I bet I averages 70-100 dollars a week on junk food, mostly drive

thrus...Gosh the money I wasted. I bet I could have bought myself a castle

on a hill with the money I spend on food. But, I am so grateful to be at

goal and I've lost 221 lbs. Down from 347 to 126. Just wondering if anyone

is feeling the same way I do. Thanks for letting me ramble on...

> Sherry S

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Oh yes Sherry, I can relate to that. But in a not-so-positive way too. To

me, I replaced one addiction with another. My addiction was buying make-up

(which I wore very little of before surgery) from HSN. I have enough

make-up, creams, etc to sink a battle ship and I have had to come to terms

with the money I have thrown away in the last year or so on beauty and skin

care products. I always end up buying more than I went to Wal-Mart for.

One way I do allow myself to " indulge " now and make it okay is to take $10

cash into the dollar store. It's still giving in to my shopping addiction.

But I am not wasting as much money.

from NJ

Spending issues

> Hi, I know this is gonna sound silly, but I wonder if any of you have had

this problem...or maybe a blessings...since WLS...

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just

generally treat yourself with stuff....I find I am loving to buy things and

shop more than ever....I figure , that I spent so much money before WLS on

food , that it's really no difference, and now I'm doing something

constructive....I never have really spent much on myself for things, except

for food. I bet I averages 70-100 dollars a week on junk food, mostly drive

thrus...Gosh the money I wasted. I bet I could have bought myself a castle

on a hill with the money I spend on food. But, I am so grateful to be at

goal and I've lost 221 lbs. Down from 347 to 126. Just wondering if anyone

is feeling the same way I do. Thanks for letting me ramble on...

> Sherry S

>

>

>

>

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> Hi, I know this is gonna sound silly, but I wonder if any of you have had this

problem...or maybe a blessings...since WLS...

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just generally

treat yourself with stuff....I find I am

> loving to buy things and shop more than ever

Sherry,

It's very common to pick up a new " addiction " or " obsession " after we let go of

food. But I also think the clothes shopping is sometimes a transitional thing

and is part of learning and embracing a new style or way of dressing for

ourselves. As I was losing, I tried many different ways of dressing and bought

things I had never tried to wear before.

Even though many of the items I bought then still fit, I don't wear alot of them

anymore as they are not the style I ended up embracing. It's like I had to work

through the elation of being able to wear " anything " in order to be at the place

where I could chose what I wanted to wear because it suited me best.

I did spend too much on clothes for a while there. But after I'd sort of calmed

down and decided on a style that was right for me, I found that I needed a lot

less clothing. I took alot of stuff (big and small!) to resale and was able to

rebuild a professional wardrobe with quality used clothing in my own style.

The other thing that is new is, of course, having clothes that continue to fit,

season after season. I don't need as much now because I have all these clothes

from last year and the year before that and the year before that and they ALL

FIT!

hugs,

Ann

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--On Friday, September 05, 2003 5:33 PM +0000 Graduate-OSSG

wrote:

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just

> generally treat yourself with stuff....I find I am loving to buy things

> and shop more than ever....

YES! Mine is definitely at the problem stage - and I get cranky if I want

to go shopping and there's no money (I cannot have credit cards because I

just go overboard with them). But after years and years of just lusting

after all the cool shoes and neat clothes in all those stores that were

" off limits " - I just want to keep getting stuff. I find that shopping at

Goodwill frequently has quenched some of that urge - I can get a LOT of

stuff for really cheap (especially if I go on 1/2 price days), and I've

found some really great things there (my biggest find was a like-new Ralph

skirt I got for a whopping $2).

As far as replacing meals out and junk food, I think I use that up each

month now with my supplements, protein powders and other " specialty " foods

and bars each month.

I think it's like any other addiction - finding a way to manage it because

this one can be just as destructive as any other if it gets out of hand.

Just ask my poor checkbook...

Sally

298 (BMI 49)/-136/162

Goal: 145-150ish

lap RNY 7/10/02

Dr. Quinlin/Pittsburgh

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I'm definitely a shopaholic with clothes, but thankfully my latest

passion is consignment clothes shopping so I am spending less money

then the regular department stores. This is the first year-this

winter- where I will have an entire wardrobe from last year that

still fits! I bought so many summer clothes though that I didn't get

to wear them enough! Now the big problem is CLOSET SPACE.

Cindy

lap RNY 2/8/02

> Hi, I know this is gonna sound silly, but I wonder if any of you

have had this problem...or maybe a blessings...since WLS...

> Do you find that you like to buy things and spend money , and just

generally treat yourself with stuff....I find I am loving to buy

things and shop more than ever....I figure , that I spent so much

money before WLS on food , that it's really no difference, and now

I'm doing something constructive....I never have really spent much on

myself for things, except for food. I bet I averages 70-100 dollars

a week on junk food, mostly drive thrus...Gosh the money I wasted. I

bet I could have bought myself a castle on a hill with the money I

spend on food. But, I am so grateful to be at goal and I've lost 221

lbs. Down from 347 to 126. Just wondering if anyone is feeling the

same way I do. Thanks for letting me ramble on...

> Sherry S

>

>

>

>

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In a message dated 9/6/2003 7:10:05 AM Eastern Standard Time, watnext@...

writes:

I've become a shopaholic, too.

We are using the term a bit loosely here. It like saying you have a sugar

addiction because you have a scoop of ice cream every night.

We have true shopaholics here who have had to mortgage their homes to the

hilt to cover their habit.

I feel the shopping thrill but do not consider it an addiction just something

I can and do control. I just love to shop and get a great deal. I enjoy the

thrill of having choices.

Fay Bayuk

**300/166

10/23/01

Dr.

Open RNY 150 cm

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I suppose that I use the term in comparison to the way I used to be. I used

to hate shopping. Now, I love it, and sometimes just feel the need to hit the

stores.

Thankfully, it's not gone to the extreme of having to mortgage the house or

maxing out my credit cards, but it's a new experience for me, and I find that I

will shop just to shop, and not because I'm looking for something specific.

I do control it, pretty much, but have been known to buy something and return

it later because I felt I " settled " for the item and didn't " just love it, "

just like the old days when we had to buy whatever fit, as long as we didn't

hate it.

in NJ

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In a message dated 9/6/2003 7:38:52 AM Eastern Daylight Time, FBayuk writes:

> We are using the term a bit loosely here. It like saying you have a sugar

> addiction because you have a scoop of ice cream every night.

>

> We have true shopaholics here who have had to mortgage their homes to the

> hilt to cover their habit.

>

> I feel the shopping thrill but do not consider it an addiction just

> something I can and do control. I just love to shop and get a great deal. I

enjoy

> the thrill of having choices.

>

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In a message dated 9/6/2003 7:52:36 AM Eastern Standard Time, WATNEXT writes:

but have been known to buy something and return it later because I felt I

" settled " for the item and didn't " just love it, " just like the old days when we

had to buy whatever fit, as long as we didn't hate it.

I have to learn to do that. I also sometimes settle. When I grow up, I want

to think like that.

Fay Bayuk

**300/166

10/23/01

Dr.

Open RNY 150 cm

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LOL Fay, not to worry...I'll never grow up!

in NJ

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In a message dated 9/6/2003 7:54:43 AM Eastern Daylight Time, FBayuk writes:

> I have to learn to do that. I also sometimes settle. When I grow up, I

> want to think like that.

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I've become a shopaholic, too. I waited until after all my plastics

for a lot of stuff, but I also find my style changing somewhat. I

used to love the Ralph sort-of collegiate, tailored look, and

now I find that I'm leaning towards a slightly sexier look,

especially now that I can go braless. :o

Buying off the rack is a whole new experience, and way too much fun!

in NJ

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I shop now....BECAUSE I CAN! LOL - what I mean is I was absolutely

unable to physically do shopping. Too much back pain, windedness,

fatigue, leg pain, etc. I even used web van (when it was around) for

groceries. I mostly shopped online. I hated to stop at the cleaners,

drug store, - I never saw the inside of Target, the malls, home

depot, etc. Getting in & out of the car was a chore, let alone

wealking from the parking lot to the entrance.

Now I virtually live in the mall, home depot, target, old navy, macys

nordstroms - ANY where -I am always in the grocery store because it

facsinates me. Crazy, cause I can only eat a little, my hubby's a

vegetarian & works out of town 5 days a week & the kids don't live

here. Needless to say - my freezer is always full. Why???!!! -

CAUSE I CAN!!! I can physically do it.

Yes, I am now a shopaholic - a " natural " by product of wls for me.

Not the kind to spend the mortgage, just the kind that spends,

spends, spends. <VBG>

Lorraine

> I suppose that I use the term in comparison to the way I used to

be. I used

> to hate shopping. Now, I love it, and sometimes just feel the need

to hit the

> stores.

>

> Thankfully, it's not gone to the extreme of having to mortgage the

house or

> maxing out my credit cards, but it's a new experience for me, and I

find that I

> will shop just to shop, and not because I'm looking for something

specific.

> I do control it, pretty much, but have been known to buy something

and return

> it later because I felt I " settled " for the item and didn't " just

love it, "

> just like the old days when we had to buy whatever fit, as long as

we didn't

> hate it.

>

> in NJ

> ********************************

>

> In a message dated 9/6/2003 7:38:52 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

FBayuk writes:

>

>

> > We are using the term a bit loosely here. It like saying you

have a sugar

> > addiction because you have a scoop of ice cream every night.

> >

> > We have true shopaholics here who have had to mortgage their

homes to the

> > hilt to cover their habit.

> >

> > I feel the shopping thrill but do not consider it an addiction

just

> > something I can and do control. I just love to shop and get a

great deal. I enjoy

> > the thrill of having choices.

> >

>

>

>

>

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--On Saturday, September 06, 2003 8:04 PM +0000

Graduate-OSSG wrote:

> but have been known to buy something and return

> it later because I felt I " settled " for the item and didn't " just love

> it, " just like the old days when we had to buy whatever fit, as long as

> we didn't hate it.

Wow - I can relate to that! It's taken me some time to learn to be

" choosy " and not just buty the first thing I find. I have to keep

reminding myself I have to absolutely LOVE it in order to get it -

otherwise I end up with WAY too much stuff I don't want or need.

Sally

298 (BMI 49)/-136/162

Goal: 145-150ish

lap RNY 7/10/02

Dr. Quinlin/Pittsburgh

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