Re: Worst thing you have done post op.

[Guest guest]

The worst thing post op is to believe that any of us is perfect.

Fay Bayuk

**300/166

10/23/01

Dr.

Open RNY 150 cm

Click for My Profile

http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=Bayuk951061008

Coping with the emotional aspects of craving food, one day at a time.

[Guest guest]

Protein shakes. Freeze them, blend them with ice. Divert your attention to

something that will help you, not hurt you.

Good guilt eraser.

Thanks,

Vitalady, Inc. T

www.vitalady.com

If you are interested in PayPal, please click here:

https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com

Worst thing you have done post op.

> I am going to be 300 Lbs again if I am not carefull. I totally scared

myself

> yesterday and I need some input here so I don;t think I am a freak. I,

> STUPIDLY, brought a half gallon of Dreyers Sugar Free ice cream into the

house. I

> was kinda down all weekend, hadn;t excersised, and though I am ashamed to

> admit it, I ate the whole dang thing over the course of the day. This is

the

> ABSOLUTE worst thing I have done since surgery. I am normally a really

good girl.

> I mean I have lost over 170 Lbs and am now an athlete. But the ice cream

> went down so well and it tasted so good and it didn;t make me dump and I

could

> EAT. I am depressed. I was the poster of Confused sometimes how doers

food

> fit in my life. I am going through a serious mental stage here. Is this

normal

> at a year out. Weight loss slows or stops, you can eat more, I finally

> relize that it is totally up to me now and that scares the HELL OUT OF

ME~!! I

> don;t want to screw this up like I did all the other things I tried. That

ice

> cream was to good and I don;t want to ever do it again! HELP ME!

>

> Missie

> 334-164

> SCARED!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is what helps me when I have done some of those stupid things:

1. Forgive myself. I made a mistake. I am human. I will learn from my

mistake.

2. Pat myself on the back for admitting to myself and the group what

happened. Gosh that is hard for me.

3. Forgive myself some more

4. Ask myself ...what can I learn from this lesson?

5. If I don't want to pick up the food again ... then I start today by not

picking up the guilt today. Because guilt about eating can lead me to eat

again. Overeating for me is not a moral issue.

6. Stick with the winners... that means this list. No matter what is going

on how much I have fallen. (I also get a lot of help from the Back on Track

list)

7. Listen to the winners ... or the losers when it comes to WLS.

8. Plan for success. What can I do differently next time?

In fact, Missie, I did the same darn thing you did with a half gallon of

sugar free ice cream this summer. I kept hearing all this stuff about low

carb sugar free. So what can I do differently? I don't buy it again.

I find what works for me. I use that and I share it on these lists because

the more I say it the more I practice it. Like a biggie for me this summer

was coming to terms with not drinking while eating. I say it a lot because

I need to keep reminding myself that it works for me. THAT's how I learned

how small my pouch really is, and that I didn't stretch it.

A scoop of patience with myself goes a long way.

I would like to tell you that doing all this I have lost tons of weight.

But that would be a lie. I can tell you this.

I was headed back up the scales ... in fact, I was so far in denial of it

that I don't know how far back up I truly had gone. I was grazing and

ignoring other pouch rules. I came on these lists again at the end of June.

I can't even tell you exactly how much weight I lost because my scale was

messed up when I started. It was weighing under and that's when I really

knew I was in big trouble ...

But I know that for the first time in over 17 years I am finally under 200

lbs.

We are all different and what works for some doesn't work for others. But I

think catching ourselves when we make the mistakes and staying active on the

lists helps keep us from gaining weight.

Good luck sweetie.

from NJ

---

Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.

Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).

Version: 6.0.522 / Virus Database: 320 - Release Date: 9/29/2003

[Guest guest]

AMEN!

Thanks,

Vitalady, Inc. T

www.vitalady.com

If you are interested in PayPal, please click here:

https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com

Re: Worst thing you have done post op.

> The worst thing post op is to believe that any of us is perfect.

>

>

> Fay Bayuk

> **300/166

> 10/23/01

> Dr.

> Open RNY 150 cm

> Click for My Profile

> http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=Bayuk951061008

>

>

> Coping with the emotional aspects of craving food, one day at a time.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

While believing you are " perfect " is setting yourself up for failure,

the desire to strive for perfection is an admirable thing. Of

course, you have to determine what your personal definition of

perfection is and be willing to accept that this will be a life-long

journey.

I can definitely understand doing things that we did before surgery

that were bad for us and having incredible fear that this means we

will completely revert to all of those old habits and get back to the

terrible place we were before. I think this is a healthy fear. That

fear is what is going to keep us from getting there.

Self-forgiveness is definitely key. Just yesterday I had to accept

that I can no longer buy a package of cookies and know that I can

make them last the better part of a month. I had to forgive myself

for buying cookies last week and powering through them quicker than I

have in the 2 1/2 years since my surgery. I have had to tell myself

that I can't even think about buying cookies at this point with the

stress that I have -- if they're not in the house, I can't eat them,

and I'm too lazy at the moment to go to the store just for cookies

(and luckily there's not a 7-11 nearby!).

I applaud you for recognizing that you have an issue that you need to

look at. I think the longer that we are out from surgery and have

lost the majority of our weight, the more the emotional issues come

up and the more we need to create or find new alternatives for us to

deal with our stresses (other than eating ice cream! :>).

Over the past year or so I've really been trying to look at what made

me eat in the first place because I have a strong fear that if I

don't identify it and deal with it that it will show up in another

way.

Remember...we're all in this together!

-