Re: lifting question/

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Caryn, when I had my surgery in May this year, my little boy, , was

17 mos old, so I can understand your concerns. My doctor allowed me to

lift 15 lbs at 2 weeks, but basically told me to let my pain be by guide.

I found that he really liked and was able to climb MUCH more than I thought

he could. For his crib I lowered the railing and, with some guidance, he

would put his leg over the rail and get onto the kitchen chair I had next

to the crib. To change his diaper, I just sat on the floor (before careful

about getting up/down-twisting around to get up hurt, so I made sure to get

up/down from a kneeling position). I used a booster seat for meals, the

ones that strap to the chair, and he climbed up into his seat with no

problem. The same was for his carseat-he would climb up from the garage

floor into the van, and then need just a little boost to get him into the

seat. Coming down from all these positions was really easy-he just

shimmied down. I might add that at all times he was making these

maneuavers, he had the biggest grin on his face-he loved doing all the

things I never let him try before. I'm 9 weeks post-op and don't have to,

but I let him get himself where he needs to be as much as possible. It

sounds like you have a lot of support with your husband, so I am sure you

will be fine. I'm single and got through it OK, so I'm sure you will, too!

If I could speak to the question: I too enjoyed his posts, but the

fact that he doesn't do them anymore hasn't changed my life all that much.

By the way, he did not leave because someone asked him to, he left because

he was getting annoyed with the questions people were asking that he veiwed

as being irresponsible, i.e., someone asking if they could have pizza

seemed to him as an unthinkable option, and one that would be contrary to

the new way of life we are all working towards. While I understand his

concerns, having a piece of pizza every once in a while doesn't seem all

that rash to me. viewed himself as an expert on GBS, having

" researched it for 20 years " , and although his posts were helpful, he was

learning how to eat after the surgery just like the rest of us. Given the

fact that he touted his expertise in psychology, and informed us all of his

degrees fairly regularly, his going off in a huff was pretty immature. .

I view everyone's e-mails from work, so I have to be pretty selective about

which ones I answer, the time I spend reading, etc., so there are a lot of

times I want to respond but just don't because of time restrictions. If

there are other people like me, JackRussel, it may be that you did not get

any response for that reason. I personally did not even read anything that

sounded offenseive, but then Ray's posts were pretty long and sometimes I

would just scan them.

I think the bottom line is that we are all here to help each other. Just

like anything else in life, if you are not offered what you need, then

think about asking for the help directly. If the help offered from this

site stops being helpful, then try to find the help you need from a

different source. For me, I appreciate the honesty and information that we

all share, and wish I had starting reading before my surgery. I would have

known that sleeping in a recliner for a week after surgery was perfectly

normal, and gotten all the stuff I need to try 's cheesecake recipe

right away!

Everyone have a great day.

Kelley

Lap RNY 5/12/04

374/310/175

cnadelberg wrote:

> Have a question for you all.

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> Do you know or remember how long you were told to not lift anything

> over say 5 lbs?

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> I have a toddler and am just thinking about how much help I might

> need after surgery. He is about 26lbs and needs to be lifted into

> and out of his crib for naps and in and out of the car.

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> My husband will be home for the first week and can come home at

> lunch time, but I know there will be other times that come up that I

> will need or want to lift up my little guy.

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> I'll be having lap RNY hopefully in August.

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> Waiting on ins pre-auth.

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> Caryn

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