Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 ~ Everything will be ok! My son has been wearing his helmet for almost 6 weeks and he has done great in it from day 1. We've been completely amazed at how he's done. I was also worried about how others would react to seeing him in his helmet, but found that I've used it as a way to educate people and it's not been bad at all. Life must go on as usual for both youself and your little one! Now I think I worry more about him getting it off than keeping it on because it's become so normal for us and with it on I know that his little noggin is protected and rounding out. Good luck with everything! > > Hello, My baby is getting fitted for the band next week. I am worried that after he is wearing it I will be afraid to go out and have people stare or feel sorry for him. I am looking for a support group of other mama's to reassure me that everything will be ok. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 honestly the most common comment we get about it is " oh my son/grandson/neice/friend's child/neighbor had one of those. " it really hasn't bothered me at all. i've had a couple kids ask what happened to his head. the best thing in my opinion is have a rehearsed response. for kids i say " since he was a twin he got all squished by his brother when i was pregnant and this is to help make his head not so smooshed looking " . of course i had 4 kids under 4 so we can be a bit of a show out in public regardless. i just smile and think about how nice it is that everyone is looking at my beautiful kids instead of the spit up on my shirt or my legs that need to be shaved. ;-) aja On Mon, Dec 14, 2009 at 9:56 AM, <susan_vannostrand@...> wrote: Hello, My baby is getting fitted for the band next week. I am worried that after he is wearing it I will be afraid to go out and have people stare or feel sorry for him. I am looking for a support group of other mama's to reassure me that everything will be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 , Everything WILL be OK. :-) When we started my son in his band at 5 1/2 months, I was relieved that we didn't have to worry anymore about his head shape getting worse. There was so much anxiety in those early months when we couldn't successfully keep him from favoring his right side when he was sleeping. So - the relief you will feel when his head is protected is a good thing! I was really eager to get going with our first band, but not too long into it, found myself struggling with some of the public response. I felt like I was hyper-aware of people looking at us...and had a hard time tuning them out. We were only in that first band 7 weeks but by the end of it, I could hardly wait to be finished with treatment. (Stay with me...this gets better, I promise!) We ended up doing a second band - which I really didn't want to do. Strangely, the second one ended up being a whole different experience for me. First thing you should plan to do is have fun making the band really fun...stickers, paint...vehicle wrap...whatever you choose. I didn't do much with the first band - and I am convinced that had at least something to do with public response. On the second band, I put his name across the front (I used stickers from the scrapbook store and from www.blingyourband.com). BlingYourBand.com had a set that was bulldozers, trucks, orange cones and "Under Construction" and "Hard Hat Area". VERY CUTE for boys! The "Under Construction" sticker generated lots of conversation about what the band was for. A great plagio icebreaker!! Everywhere we went, people commented on the cute stickers, called my son by name and were very friendly. This never happened in band #1. I don't think the people were all of a sudden friendlier...so leads me to believe there is a connection! Anyway, this went a long way in helping me feel better about his band. Within a couple of weeks, I was much more relaxed about everything -- and we found ourselves making lots of new friends and having the opportunity to educate a few along the way about plagio. I'm sure as my attitude became more positive and upbeat, I was more approachable. Another thing that seemed to help was - when people asked about the band - to say with enthusiasm "he only has to wear it a few more weeks". I said that from the very beginning, not having any idea how long he'd actually be in it. I sensed that put people at ease for some reason. Maybe it didn't seem so serious to them when they learned it was temporary. When it's all said and done, you'll be so glad you did the band for your son. Try to keep the end result in mind as you get started. Good luck to you and keep us posted on his progress! Jill Cade's mom (11 months, DOC band grad 12-11-09) Austin TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2009 Report Share Posted December 15, 2009 Hi susan . . . it will be fine. It will probably take you a few outings to get used to the stares . . but you will come to a point where you actually forget about it. Believe it or not! It just becomes part of life. I actually caught myself staring back at the people staring wondering what in the world they were staring at!! But yes, people stare, people ask a lot of questions. Some good, some crazy. But mostly, people are concerned and caring about the situation. Surprisingly, the attention my daughter receives is all positive. Thankfully. We've had the helmet for 16 weeks, 1 week to go. And this time has gone faster than I'd anticipated. Good luck to you . .. keep your chin up . . .you're doing the right thing. Dana > > Hello, My baby is getting fitted for the band next week. I am worried that after he is wearing it I will be afraid to go out and have people stare or feel sorry for him. I am looking for a support group of other mama's to reassure me that everything will be ok. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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