Re: Not Feeling Good Enough

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I've always had that " not good enough " feeling. I still have it (even

though, deep down, I *KNOW* I'm worthy, dammit!!!!!). I guess it's just

something we fight forever?

pandy

generally believed that becuz of my weight, I had to try harder, work

longer,

be smarter, more creative, productive, whatever. Deep down inside, I never

felt

that I was quite good enuf. For anyone or anything.

Carol A

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In a message dated 9/19/2003 11:34:49 AM Central Daylight Time,

pandy2003@... writes:

> I've always had that " not good enough " feeling. I still have it (even

> though, deep down, I *KNOW* I'm worthy, dammit!!!!!). I guess it's just

something

> we fight forever?

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Well, I'm not sure about forever. I think it can maybe be licked IF -and it's

a big IF -

you are not surrounded by people (like I am) who continue to support that

attitude, who contribute to making you feel unworthy, ignorant, unpretty, just

" not good enuf " in whatever way it's their bag to harp on. I can get to feeling

sorta decent about myself for a bit, and then WHAM, my mother or husband or

one of my kids will say or do something really negative and I'm right back down

there, lower'n a snake's belly. I have been standing up for myself more and

more, and calling people on it when they attack me unfairly. It causes big

fights, sometimes. At others, I just get told I'm " too sensitive. " Okay, so if I

am, then ACKNOWLEDGE that I am, and get off my back! It's amazing sometimes what

people can find to criticize. Totally petty things that don't even affect

them in any way. You'd think that if I can see THAT, I should be able not to let

myself be brought down by it. Workin' on it. Workin'.

Carol A

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In a message dated 9/19/2003 10:37:45 PM Eastern Standard Time,

tuesdynite@... writes:

At others, I just get told I'm " too sensitive. " Okay, so if I

am, then ACKNOWLEDGE that I am, and get off my back! It's amazing sometimes

what

people can find to criticize

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Carol: Some folks are always at the ready to give it to those of us willing

to receive. Your problem is my problem, the difference being that my family

does not stand at the ready to criticize. In fact since my mother died quite a

few years ago, the only one standing at the ready is me and my mother in my

head.

Fay Bayuk

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you are not surrounded by people (like I am) who continue to support that

attitude, who contribute to making you feel unworthy, ignorant, unpretty,

just " not good enuf " in whatever way it's their bag to harp on. I can get to

feeling sorta decent

Carol:

This is something that I've been working on for a while. I've had to cut a

few people out of my life, because they were not supportive, and they were

destructive to my life force (yes, some of them were family). I don't care

whether someone is family, friend, foe, or the pope. I will no longer allow

them to destroy ANY of what I've built for myself. I can do that well enough

on my own. ;-) Good for you for standing up for yourself. It can be painful,

but it's worthwhile to stand up for yourself. You deserve to be treated well

and respected.

pandy