Guest guest Posted October 26, 2003 Report Share Posted October 26, 2003 Jim, I think one thing it takes to adjust that we have *no* control over is time. It just takes time to adjust to a new way of life. There is no way in the world we'll ever feel as if we never were obese. I just don't believe it can happen. A little respect for the demons is probably good; too much is paralyzing. The things I did that have helped me adjust to a new non-obese life were having an obscene amount of reconstructive surgery so that I don't have a lot of outward signs of having been obese. I don't know whose voice it is talking in my head, but I got a trainer and I look forward to working out hard three times a week. If I didn't have a trainer, I would not even show up at the gym to tan. I row because I really enjoy being on the water. I try to act " as if " I was normal and had never been fat when scary personal situations come up. This is all really slippery psychological stuff that we can do a little at a time. Some days are better than others. Food-wise, I eat 2 strips of bacon and 2 scrambled eggs with cheese on non-gym days. On gym days, I have " GU " , which is a high-carb low-sugar energy thing before I workout, then something really yummy that combines carbs and proteins afterwards....like a croissant with ham and cheese. Lunch and dinner revolve around a protein item like fish, chicken or sometimes beef and a non-carby vegetable. I snack an awful lot on pistachios for some reason, but I just buy a little bag at a time. Every afternoon, at least 6 times a week, I go to a gym with a " protein bar " and have a 45 gram protein shake that tastes like a great milkshake. It does the protein stuff and substitutes for the cookie I used to have every afternoon. In my house, I use " environmental " control and just don't bring stuff I don't want to be eating home, because I'm too lazy to go back out to get it. What I do try to keep at home is some really complex carb crackers made with 100% whole wheat, like triscuits. There are different varieties. I avoid the ones that say wheat flour, etc., because they're just brown-colored white flour. I keep something to spread on the crackers like pimiento cheese, hummus, and I may try tuna salad this week. The crackers kind of satisfy the crunchy, salty urge. I drink lots of water, never with meals and always wait at least an hour after I eat. The things I wish I didn't do are have a coffee with lots of half and half every single day, uncontrollably reach for candy and wonder why I did it. Every now and then, like when I'm sick or something bad has happened, I just go ahead and have an all-carb meal.....like a loaded baked potato. Anyway, that's kind of what I do. Everyone's different for whatever reason. Just my $.02 and personal experience. in Austin RNY April 1998 ----- Original Message ----- > Hi Dave, > > Can you share with us some of the things that have helped you adjust. I > would really be interested in hearing this. I am starting to struggle with > demons again and need a little motiviation. > > Thanks, > > Jim K. > > Open RNY 5/14/02 > Start - 319 > Goal - 174 > Current - 171 > Total Lost - 148 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2003 Report Share Posted October 27, 2003 Jim, You mentioned gaining 11 pounds back. While this is scary, it is not at all uncommon. A lot of us sail past our goal, and then adjust a bit. 20 pounds I'd worry, 11 pounds I'd just be brave and try to keep doing the right things. It's fairly common to bounce at the bottom a little. As far as affording a personal trainer, if my circumstances change and I cannot afford one, I realized that a training " buddy " would have the same effect of getting me to the gym.......If I miss personal training, I throw $50 away. If I was supposed to meet someone at 7am and didn't show up, I'd feel really bad. The trainer is better, but the accountability and showing up regularly is the bigger part of the whole thing. I'd still try to train once in a while, like once a month, to get instructions and shake things up. in Austin RNY April 1998 Re: Failing miserably > > > Right now I'm struggling with my demons and find its getting harder to keep > with the good habits I've developed over the last year. Its only a little > slide here and a small concession there, but it all adds up. I told myself > I would never go back to my old way of eating and dealing with my problems > by overeating, but lately I have been getting lax in my discipline and > allowing little things (like carbs, skipping exercise, etc.) back into my > life. I've put on about 11# from my lowest weight and I can feel it in my > clothes. I know what I have to do (especially the exercise), its just > getting myself to do it. :-) > > > Thanks so much for the advice and letting me know what you do to keep a > handle on things. Sounds like you are doing great. Keep up the good work! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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