RE: Correct me if I am wrong

[Guest guest]

Hi Jenn,

You've done a fantastic job on your weight loss. Maybe that person was just

encouraging her/him self in that what they have lost isn't anything to sneeze

at. I know I have to do that to myself all the time. I'm 4-1/2 months out

and only lost 58 since surgery. But darn it that's 58 lbs lost forever and i'm

darn proud of it too, just as you are in losing 100 lbs. We all lose at

different paces and that doesn't make any of us wrong or not doing things right.

I'M PROUD OF ALL OF OUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS!!!!! Just my opinions. Take care all

and God bless!

Laurette

4/23/04 open rny

309/290/232/150

St. Charity

Cleveland, Ohio

[Guest guest]

Hi Jenn,

I'm sure whoever said that didn't mean for it to come across like

that. I can see where you would think its a negative comment towards

you but I'm sure it wasn't intended like that. Besides how would

anyone know if your skin is " saggy " or not? So like Bridget said in

that email this morning be proud of your weightloss and your

accomplishment! Your worth it! Have you tried fitday.com for keeping

track of your weight? Its got a great exercise counter on there too.

> Hello Family,

> I was wondering if anyone could clear something up for me. Is this

> site for us to post or problems AND our ACCOMPLISHMENTS, or is it

> not? I ask because there was a post that upset me. I posted a few

> days ago on my 100 pound goal in 3 1/2 months. This is a goal I am

> DAMN proud of and thought that my gastric bypass family would be

> proud to. I was not trying to gloat or anything of that nature. I

am

> just proud. A message was posted after my post. I will not say who

> posted it, as that is not important. What bothered me about the

post

> was at the end, it read... " I would rather lose slow so I can tone

my

> skin than to lose 100 pounds in 3 1/2 months and have a bunch of

> sagging, loose skin. " Now maybe I took it the wrong way, but it

made

> me feel like this person was putting me down on my accomplishment.

> We are not all going to lose the same way and in the same amount of

> time. We are all DIFFERENT. Isn't the purpose of this online

support

> group to support each other rather than rain on someones parade.

> Sorry to go on, but this has been bothering me and I just had to

say

> my piece. Thanks for listening.

>

> Jenn

> Open RNY 5/26/04

> 339/239/140

> DOWN 100 POUNDS!!!! WOO HOO!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

You have done great I'm proud of you.

Marge

Tobyhanna PA

>

>Reply-To: Gastric_Bypass_Family

>To: Gastric_Bypass_Family

>Subject: Correct me if I am wrong

>Date: Thu, 09 Sep 2004 19:50:54 -0000

>

>Hello Family,

>I was wondering if anyone could clear something up for me. Is this

>site for us to post or problems AND our ACCOMPLISHMENTS, or is it

>not? I ask because there was a post that upset me. I posted a few

>days ago on my 100 pound goal in 3 1/2 months. This is a goal I am

>DAMN proud of and thought that my gastric bypass family would be

>proud to. I was not trying to gloat or anything of that nature. I am

>just proud. A message was posted after my post. I will not say who

>posted it, as that is not important. What bothered me about the post

>was at the end, it read... " I would rather lose slow so I can tone my

>skin than to lose 100 pounds in 3 1/2 months and have a bunch of

>sagging, loose skin. " Now maybe I took it the wrong way, but it made

>me feel like this person was putting me down on my accomplishment.

>We are not all going to lose the same way and in the same amount of

>time. We are all DIFFERENT. Isn't the purpose of this online support

>group to support each other rather than rain on someones parade.

>Sorry to go on, but this has been bothering me and I just had to say

>my piece. Thanks for listening.

>

>Jenn

>Open RNY 5/26/04

>339/239/140

>DOWN 100 POUNDS!!!! WOO HOO!!!

>

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[Guest guest]

Jenn,

It is a place for problems and accomplishments. And I think that you

have accomplished a lot. It was not taken as gloating. And in my

opinion after years of struggling to get some weight off if you want to

gloat or brag or whatever you call if for loosing a 100 pounds then by

all means go ahead, because you better believe that I will. I think you

deserve the right to brag.

I read the same post, and don't remember who wrote it, but I did not

take it as them putting your accomplishment down. That is how they look

at their weight loss which doesn't have any bearing on you. You are

right, we are all different and we are not going to loose at the same

rate. Some of us might loose 100 pounds in a year with skin hanging and

others might loose 200 pounds in a year and have no skin hanging. In

that count each person is different too. We don't know what we are

going to get until we get into this weight loss. And I think that from

years of not being able to brag about our weight we are more sensitive

than someone else might be. You have to be proud of what you have done.

You never know if you might catch someone in a bad mood and they respond

in a way that they might not have otherwise. Or they could be in a

perfectly good mood and just come across to someone else in a way that

they did not intend. So many times written words just don't carry the

true intention like a spoken word does. If you feel that someone was

putting you down or lessening your accomplishments, I am sorry, but I am

sure that is not what was intended. Be proud of yourself and don't

worry about what anyone else has to say about it. We are all very proud

of you.

Dora in Tennessee

Open/Lap RNY 9/20/04

Vanderbilt Hospital

[Guest guest]

I do recall the post Jenn and I, along with MANY others praised you on your

accomplishment (and what an accomplishment it is )! Don¹t worry about

what one person says, or more importantly, what they say in email-form,

because it will never come across correctly. I¹m sure there was nothing

meant by it, no one on this board intends on being critical of others. Fast

or slow we¹re all losers! You didn¹t reply to my question though, that I

would love to know your secret . Everyone¹s different though, previous

diets, environment, habits, lifestyles, everything comes into play and

therefore comparing really can¹t be a part of this, but I have to say,

you¹re doing one heluva job !

--

Sagel Burns

Lap RNY April 9, 2004 (-83 lbs.)

348/265/140 (begin/current/goal)

carrie@... - www.carrieburns.net

> Hello Family,

> I was wondering if anyone could clear something up for me. Is this

> site for us to post or problems AND our ACCOMPLISHMENTS, or is it

> not? I ask because there was a post that upset me. I posted a few

> days ago on my 100 pound goal in 3 1/2 months. This is a goal I am

> DAMN proud of and thought that my gastric bypass family would be

> proud to. I was not trying to gloat or anything of that nature. I am

> just proud. A message was posted after my post. I will not say who

> posted it, as that is not important. What bothered me about the post

> was at the end, it read... " I would rather lose slow so I can tone my

> skin than to lose 100 pounds in 3 1/2 months and have a bunch of

> sagging, loose skin. " Now maybe I took it the wrong way, but it made

> me feel like this person was putting me down on my accomplishment.

> We are not all going to lose the same way and in the same amount of

> time. We are all DIFFERENT. Isn't the purpose of this online support

> group to support each other rather than rain on someones parade.

> Sorry to go on, but this has been bothering me and I just had to say

> my piece. Thanks for listening.

>

> Jenn

> Open RNY 5/26/04

> 339/239/140

> DOWN 100 POUNDS!!!! WOO HOO!!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jenn

that coment was kinda rude. I don't know you too well but I'm proud and I

can just hope and pray that after my surgery I lose weight like that. I for 1

think 100lbs in 3 months is fantastic and a dream come true. (I'm not saying

this is how it is or it's how this person feels) BUT mabey just mabey they are

jelous and thats why they made that type of comment. I for 1 am very happy

for you and anyone that loses the weght. I haven't had my surgery yet but I

can't wait cause I'm soooooo unfomforable. they are telling me between

december and febuary and I have my physc eval this coming monday. I'm kinda

nervous so wish me luck and pray for me k

Love Debbie

[Guest guest]

> We don't know what we are going to get until we get into this

> weight loss. And I think that from years of not being able to

> brag about our weight we are more sensitive than someone else

> might be. You have to be proud of what you have done.

What a great post Dora!

You must be getting excited, right? Try to be more excited then

nervous, okay? Remember the next chapter in your " new " life is just

about to begin!

Kathy

[Guest guest]

Jenn,

You should be very proud of yourself and I am proud of you as well. Everyone is

different and thinks differently. That's what makes the world go round of

course. But no matter what other people say or think, you should be PROUD

because you are doing a great job! Keep up the good work.

in Delaware

Lap RNY 3/10/04

261/165.5/120

[Guest guest]

Hey Jenn, You know you were bragging girl!!! I am just kidding. For

all of those who don't know, Jenn and I live on the same Air Force

Base and we attend the same support group meetings and she looks

AWESOME!!! I am jealous...haha. This group is great and we should

support each other. Jenn was a member here first and when I posted

here, she emailed me to let me know that we were on base together.

We emailed back and forth and she even visited me twice when I had

my open rny in July!!! This is a great place to meet new friends and

she is truely a great one!! Thanks Jenn and you know how proud of

you I am!! I am following behind you

You GO GIRL!!!

Tina

> Hello Family,

> I was wondering if anyone could clear something up for me. Is this

> site for us to post or problems AND our ACCOMPLISHMENTS, or is it

> not? I ask because there was a post that upset me. I posted a few

> days ago on my 100 pound goal in 3 1/2 months. This is a goal I am

> DAMN proud of and thought that my gastric bypass family would be

> proud to. I was not trying to gloat or anything of that nature. I

am

> just proud. A message was posted after my post. I will not say who

> posted it, as that is not important. What bothered me about the

post

> was at the end, it read... " I would rather lose slow so I can tone

my

> skin than to lose 100 pounds in 3 1/2 months and have a bunch of

> sagging, loose skin. " Now maybe I took it the wrong way, but it

made

> me feel like this person was putting me down on my accomplishment.

> We are not all going to lose the same way and in the same amount

of

> time. We are all DIFFERENT. Isn't the purpose of this online

support

> group to support each other rather than rain on someones parade.

> Sorry to go on, but this has been bothering me and I just had to

say

> my piece. Thanks for listening.

>

> Jenn

> Open RNY 5/26/04

> 339/239/140

> DOWN 100 POUNDS!!!! WOO HOO!!!