Guest guest Posted September 13, 2004 Report Share Posted September 13, 2004 Hey , I agree but it seems it keeps happening over and over. We can only pray this group can stay together and get on with life. Hugs, in AL. > THIS HAS GOTTEN WAY OUT OF HAND LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT FOR ALL THIS BICKERING NON-SENSE PLEASE. LETS GET BACK TO WHATS IMPORTANT OK LADIES.LETS NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF OK BECAUSE IF YOU DO WHEN THE BIG STUFF COMES HOW YOU GOING TO DEAL WITH IT? I MEAN AFTER ALL YOU BOTH MADE IT THRU FREAK MAJOR WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY SO STOP IT NOW THANK YOU. THATS IT NOW I SAID ALL I HAD TO SAY. 1 MORE THING YOU MAY NEVER KNOW YOU MAY BE GONE TOMORROW LIVE IT TODAY LIKE IT IS YOUR LAST. > > THANKS , DENISE IN NJ ALWAYS IN CARE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 Yes I am new here and haven't got a surgery date yet, but one thing I can say is that this stuff happens at most boards, (unfortunately) one thing I have seen work is that the " bickering " is deleted and if 2 or more members have real " issues " they start an E-mail with all involved and don't hang the dirty laundry out to effect EVERYONE. If it's ignored it tends to lessen! Yet being a support board there will be certain members who need extra TLC from time to time. I hope no one leaves the board and in time I am sure everyone will realize, the post was seen as a boulder to some and a pebble to others and if that's understood it makes it easier. Keep up all the good work guys… ~v > > THIS HAS GOTTEN WAY OUT OF HAND LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT FOR ALL THIS > BICKERING NON-SENSE PLEASE. LETS GET BACK TO WHATS IMPORTANT OK > LADIES.LETS NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF OK BECAUSE IF YOU DO WHEN THE > BIG STUFF COMES HOW YOU GOING TO DEAL WITH IT? I MEAN AFTER ALL YOU > BOTH MADE IT THRU FREAK MAJOR WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY SO STOP IT NOW > THANK YOU. THATS IT NOW I SAID ALL I HAD TO SAY. 1 MORE THING YOU > MAY NEVER KNOW YOU MAY BE GONE TOMORROW LIVE IT TODAY LIKE IT IS > YOUR LAST. > > > > THANKS , DENISE IN NJ ALWAYS IN CARE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 Very well said v. I think as humans we just are a little more sensitive at imes and a little less sensitive at times. It just depends on what day it hits us. And the written word never conveys the same meaning as if it were being said in person. Just always try to think the best until you determine the true meaning of something. And sometimes I think that some of us need more attention that day than our messages convey and we get upset when we don't get it or get the wrong kind of response. It is not because the others don't care, it is because they don't read our true need in our message. Not saying that is what happened with this post, just speaking from myself. We all have our bad and good days. But for the most part we are a great group that I would hate to see fall apart. I know I need you guys. Dora in Tennessee Open/Lap RNY 9/20/04 Vanderbilt Hospital ________________________________ From: mydadsbuddy Sent: Tuesday, September 14, 2004 8:35 AM To: Gastric_Bypass_Family Subject: Re: i miss fried foods--- Yes I am new here and haven't got a surgery date yet, but one thing I can say is that this stuff happens at most boards, (unfortunately) one thing I have seen work is that the " bickering " is deleted and if 2 or more members have real " issues " they start an E-mail with all involved and don't hang the dirty laundry out to effect EVERYONE. If it's ignored it tends to lessen! Yet being a support board there will be certain members who need extra TLC from time to time. I hope no one leaves the board and in time I am sure everyone will realize, the post was seen as a boulder to some and a pebble to others and if that's understood it makes it easier. Keep up all the good work guys... ~v > > THIS HAS GOTTEN WAY OUT OF HAND LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT FOR ALL THIS > BICKERING NON-SENSE PLEASE. LETS GET BACK TO WHATS IMPORTANT OK > LADIES.LETS NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF OK BECAUSE IF YOU DO WHEN THE > BIG STUFF COMES HOW YOU GOING TO DEAL WITH IT? I MEAN AFTER ALL YOU > BOTH MADE IT THRU FREAK MAJOR WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY SO STOP IT NOW > THANK YOU. THATS IT NOW I SAID ALL I HAD TO SAY. 1 MORE THING YOU > MAY NEVER KNOW YOU MAY BE GONE TOMORROW LIVE IT TODAY LIKE IT IS > YOUR LAST. > > > > THANKS , DENISE IN NJ ALWAYS IN CARE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 Amy, I totally agree about dropping it, I do not post here much, I do get pretty postive responces when i do , i hope this does not discouarge you from asking if you have any more questions , usually there is someone else with that same question or someone else who did not think of the same question. I am learning alot from this group. I am counting on them for info after my surgery (Oct 6th). But I am glad to see you decided to stay with the group so far:) Patty S Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 Personally for me i don't take anything you all say personally to each other but what i do take seriously is my life. I am trying to learn new life coping skills before i get my surgery not after i get my surgery . I am learning through you ladies here the ones who have had the surgery are very benefical to me. The ones who haven't had are as well because we are going through the same emotions the changes the overwhelmings and the loses of a lover which is the food . Which for me and i am speaking for me at 1 time was my lover , best friend and confidant (sp).So you see i am sort of going into a mourning stage because i have to give all old behaviors and not that i really have to but i want too. and i hate when someone tells me i have too or i say to myself i can't because i am rebellious my nature and so my brain automatically tells me. Oh you want to bet you can do anything you want to and immediately i go the opposite direction. So what i am trying to say here is i am greatful that i have you all your all a wonderful bunch of ladies and really so smart and such strong indivduals in your own rights. What ever it is that brought you to this point in your life made you who you are today. Dont take things so personal that you hold grudges they take way to much energy. and look how far you have come. Ok now i will get off my soap box and back on my little chair ok big chair (giggles) i am just trying to be helpful if i offended anyone i am sorry. In care always, in NJ. Patty Schroeder wrote: Amy, I totally agree about dropping it, I do not post here much, I do get pretty postive responces when i do , i hope this does not discouarge you from asking if you have any more questions , usually there is someone else with that same question or someone else who did not think of the same question. I am learning alot from this group. I am counting on them for info after my surgery (Oct 6th). But I am glad to see you decided to stay with the group so far:) Patty S Have a great day! Patty Schroeder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 , What you wrote was so " right on target " since I have only just crossed over to the other side one week ago it all is so true. This group has helped me with knowledge and friendship. What more can we ask for... By the way, I think your my long lost twin...heehee!!! We are so much alike or is it that dang redhair thing again??? Just remember this and I've said it before to several...what we write down might not be what our brains wanted to say and it can be received as a negative comment when it wasn't meant to be taken that way. Your a pretty special lady!!! Big hugs from this big chair, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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