Re: Re/ Single on SCD and Vulnerability to Cheating

[Guest guest]

One red flag in dating would be someone who was opposed to the diet and tried to

sabotage it. In this case is sounds like narcissism or abuse. They may try to

blame the diet for their behavior, but if not for the diet, they would do this

in other aspects of your life.

Best to stay away from these types.

Others may use the diet as an excuse for " not being into you " . A good and kind

person who is truly interested in getting to know you should hopefully look

beyond this.

PJ

>

> <<I know even in a marriage- I try to minimize the diet part and keep

> life as " normal " as possible. What personal traits can we bring to

> the table? We are so much more than this >>

> Yes. This is really true.

>

> When alone on a Friday night, though, I try to remember what it was

> like to be married to someone who " pushed " illegals offering me

> deserts at restaurants and at home. My ex constantly felt sorry for

> himself demanding that it was his right to keep candy, chips, ice

> cream, etc. not only in the house but very prominently displayed.

> Rarely I would be exhausted and " desperate " for something to eat ...

> Like when I'd worked on my feet all day long at very physical labor

> painting a mural.

>

> At these times I'm vulnerable. Blood sugar is crashing so I'm looking

> for ANYTHING that will raise my blood sugar and his junk was right

> there. Nothing around that's legal and easy. A very immature and

> self-centered man, my ex had no sympathy for it. There are such women

> out there, too. And we are far better off alone!

>

> On the other hand, there are also kind, patient, and loving people who

> are looking for a mate and when looking at my own positive attributes

> I believe that through the requirements of my gut " problems " God has

> given me GIFTS, too... like humility, kindness, and patience. Some

> folks never learn these. I am grateful to be presented the

> opportunity for learning them. And I am ALSO grateful not to be with

> folks who DON'T have these attributes!!!

>

> Blessings,

> Artful Carol

> Former me: From babyhood - CFS, Depression, Candida, Severe Chemical,

> Inhalant, and Food Allergies. Current me: Global Carb and Fungal

> Problems well-controlled past 30 yr. by extremely low-carb, no dairy,

> no grains allergy/anti-yeast diet, SCD 01/05. After 35 yrs. no need

> for allergy shots since SCD! Magnesium/Vits A, B, D, E/Evening

> Primrose, Fish, Olive, and Other Oils, Lecithin. 2 grown kids

> recovered from serious developmental problems which I believe were

> fungally-caused

>

[Guest guest]

Hi PJ,

Not that this applies to the dating world- which is a whole other dance

altogether. I really hear and want to acknowledge what people are talking

about... It can be challenging..

My own family routinely tried to sabotage me with the diet directly lying to me

over and over. I kid you not! It's actually a lot worse than this. I won't

even go into one instance of what one of them did to me when I brought my own

food to a family function.

For me the hardest has been dealing with family.

I am glad I live far from them. Sounds harsh but most of my family is not

supportive.. They have never been supportive of my health challenges.

Thing is as they've seen me heal some of them have come around just happy even

though they lack understanding and I still get comments. My father (and his

side of the family) are extremely supportive as when I first started I told him

" Abba, this helps me feel better " and he was like that was all he needed to

hear.

Crohn's caused a whole chain reaction for me. I became socially isolated and

pretty depressed in general. Always being the loner. I met my husband when I

was quite young and he has always been incredibly supportive and so has my

brother. I consider myself so fortunate!

It was hard when I first started the diet since my husband and I- one of our

connections was food and it was like we had to relearn all of that.. Suddenly I

immersed myself in even more culture, art, music, theater and so on. So

enriching!

When I started getting better I made new friends.

The years being isolated and all of the family drama taught me to kind of choose

who I want in my life and it showed me that there are many wonderful people out

there and the ones that really care about me have no issues with what I eat and

actually want me to feel comfortable and safe. They have no issue with a

restaurant I choose or that I bring my own snacks etc.

A few months ago I went to my first dinner party! I have not done something

like this in years. I have since gone to a few more.

I am so thankful for being back in the land of the living.

It's such a blessing that all of my hard work has paid off.

Moreover, what Elaine has given me- well her hard work uplifted me out of the

catacombs and hell of Crohn's Disease.

Jodi

> >

> > <<I know even in a marriage- I try to minimize the diet part and keep

> > life as " normal " as possible. What personal traits can we bring to

> > the table? We are so much more than this >>

> > Yes. This is really true.

> >

> > When alone on a Friday night, though, I try to remember what it was

> > like to be married to someone who " pushed " illegals offering me

> > deserts at restaurants and at home. My ex constantly felt sorry for

> > himself demanding that it was his right to keep candy, chips, ice

> > cream, etc. not only in the house but very prominently displayed.

> > Rarely I would be exhausted and " desperate " for something to eat ...

> > Like when I'd worked on my feet all day long at very physical labor

> > painting a mural.

> >

> > At these times I'm vulnerable. Blood sugar is crashing so I'm looking

> > for ANYTHING that will raise my blood sugar and his junk was right

> > there. Nothing around that's legal and easy. A very immature and

> > self-centered man, my ex had no sympathy for it. There are such women

> > out there, too. And we are far better off alone!

> >

> > On the other hand, there are also kind, patient, and loving people who

> > are looking for a mate and when looking at my own positive attributes

> > I believe that through the requirements of my gut " problems " God has

> > given me GIFTS, too... like humility, kindness, and patience. Some

> > folks never learn these. I am grateful to be presented the

> > opportunity for learning them. And I am ALSO grateful not to be with

> > folks who DON'T have these attributes!!!

> >

> > Blessings,

> > Artful Carol

> > Former me: From babyhood - CFS, Depression, Candida, Severe Chemical,

> > Inhalant, and Food Allergies. Current me: Global Carb and Fungal

> > Problems well-controlled past 30 yr. by extremely low-carb, no dairy,

> > no grains allergy/anti-yeast diet, SCD 01/05. After 35 yrs. no need

> > for allergy shots since SCD! Magnesium/Vits A, B, D, E/Evening

> > Primrose, Fish, Olive, and Other Oils, Lecithin. 2 grown kids

> > recovered from serious developmental problems which I believe were

> > fungally-caused

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Jodi,

I hear you and how sad for your family. They are the ones who are missing out

here. This is exactly what I mean about dating or any other situation with

people: The people who are nor supportive or even cruel about GI issues and diet

are just that: not supportive. We think the problem may be our situation, but it

is more of a reflection of them.

I agree that it is an adjustment and yes so isolating. Feeling sick was

isolating enough and I spent many days in tears feeling defective. This board

helped me not feel so alone. The food is a challenge, but like you, I feel like

SCD gave me my life back. It has been hard " coming out " to people about diet but

many have been supportive.

I haven't eaten at a dinner party yet, but I have found some restaurants that

work for me. I will admit that at first this threw my DH off because he loves to

eat out, and was angry at first that he " could not take me anywhere " , but he has

seen the diet help me and has become more sensitive.

I am glad that you have such a supportive spouse and good friends. I think we

have all learned that the people in our lives who like us for us, will like us

regardless.

There are no perfect people in this world and our culture focuses on physical

perfection. The dating world sounds pretty brutal these days, but I hope there

are still some kind ones around.

PJ

> > >

> > > <<I know even in a marriage- I try to minimize the diet part and keep

> > > life as " normal " as possible. What personal traits can we bring to

> > > the table? We are so much more than this >>

> > > Yes. This is really true.

> > >

> > > When alone on a Friday night, though, I try to remember what it was

> > > like to be married to someone who " pushed " illegals offering me

> > > deserts at restaurants and at home. My ex constantly felt sorry for

> > > himself demanding that it was his right to keep candy, chips, ice

> > > cream, etc. not only in the house but very prominently displayed.

> > > Rarely I would be exhausted and " desperate " for something to eat ...

> > > Like when I'd worked on my feet all day long at very physical labor

> > > painting a mural.

> > >

> > > At these times I'm vulnerable. Blood sugar is crashing so I'm looking

> > > for ANYTHING that will raise my blood sugar and his junk was right

> > > there. Nothing around that's legal and easy. A very immature and

> > > self-centered man, my ex had no sympathy for it. There are such women

> > > out there, too. And we are far better off alone!

> > >

> > > On the other hand, there are also kind, patient, and loving people who

> > > are looking for a mate and when looking at my own positive attributes

> > > I believe that through the requirements of my gut " problems " God has

> > > given me GIFTS, too... like humility, kindness, and patience. Some

> > > folks never learn these. I am grateful to be presented the

> > > opportunity for learning them. And I am ALSO grateful not to be with

> > > folks who DON'T have these attributes!!!

> > >

> > > Blessings,

> > > Artful Carol

> > > Former me: From babyhood - CFS, Depression, Candida, Severe Chemical,

> > > Inhalant, and Food Allergies. Current me: Global Carb and Fungal

> > > Problems well-controlled past 30 yr. by extremely low-carb, no dairy,

> > > no grains allergy/anti-yeast diet, SCD 01/05. After 35 yrs. no need

> > > for allergy shots since SCD! Magnesium/Vits A, B, D, E/Evening

> > > Primrose, Fish, Olive, and Other Oils, Lecithin. 2 grown kids

> > > recovered from serious developmental problems which I believe were

> > > fungally-caused

> > >

> >

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