My 2nd FAMILY?????????

[Guest guest]

Well, I felt that this group provided support for one another. I

understand that everyone, including myself, has been missing Ray. I

only expressed how my feelings were hurt about one commment. I got

over it and began to not care anymore. This has been dragged on long

enough. I am so disappointed that no one understood how I felt, not

stood up for me or even " babied " me, but just expressed sincerity.

We are all emotional and uneasy after surgery. I felt hurt by Ray's

comment about my situation when I was simply spilling my emotions

and trusting all of you. I have recently decided that I may be

leaving the group. Since no one has cared up to this point or even

expressed sympathy, I believe that I will soon be leaving. I have

learned so much from everyone and enjoyed hearing stories, and yes

even jokes. I understand that humor helps healing, but sometimes we

also need to think about others. I am sure that we have all been

made fun of at some point or another and it has rolled off our

shoulders or not. In this instance I felt that I am connected to all

of you by a bond that is so strong, I felt comfortable saying

anything. When my comfort was broken slightly, I felt as if I was

belittled and ridiculed for honesty. That is how I FELT. Now, I

think that if Ray came across my path that I would extend my hand

and have a truths. The only problem with this is that someone e-

mailed him and asked him to leave. I have never even thought about

saying this to anyone here, especially since that would break this

special bond. I know how I would feel if someone came to me and

asked me to leave this group. In essence, I feel that since no one

expressed concern or sympathy for the way that I felt, as expressed

in previous posts, that no one would care if I decided to leave. I

have looked for new support groups, other than the one with my

surgeon, and have found none that compare with the sharing and

feelings that are here. I will continue to read posts and help those

that need it, but I am now apprehensive. I do not feel as though I

am welcomed here anymore. I am sorry that this happened with Ray

when he was having a problem with others. Timing is beyond anyone's

control. I hope that Ray finds out how I feel now and that he comes

back for the sake of the group and for my benefit as well. I can

only hope that in the next few days that I feel like part of my

second family.

Bethany

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