Re: OT recommended reading RE: fear Re: fear

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This is a perfect analogy. People seem to call it different things -

instinct, woman's intuition, fear, etc. It all amounts to the same

thing, pay attention to the gut reaction, that little voice but don't

obsess about it. Thanks Amy.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

On Sun, 12 Oct 2003 12:13:35 -0500 Amy Towery

writes:

A book I really enjoyed, " The Gift of Fear " , talks about using fear to

our advantage because it is a gift - a sort of message from the

subconscious that says " something is out of kilter, pay attention " .

It's been a long time since I've read it so I'm probably not spinning it

exactly as it was written but one of the message that I got from it is to

listen to that little voice - you know, the one that you hear when you

also notice that the hair on the back of your neck is standing up? The

author asserts that usually there are often valid causes/reasons - clues

or cues that we might not consciously immediately recognize - that cause

that hair to stand up. Lest it sound like the book encourages living in a

constant state of near panic, unless I'm totally misremembering, he talks

about learning how to identify the clues so that we act appropriately to

the risk and so therefore we DON'T panic, but we also don't ignore the

messages.

I read the book after my house had been robbed several times, a coworker

had been raped and beaten and left for dead, another coworker was

murdered, etc. etc. etc. And the book actually helped me reduce my level

of paranoia. Yes, I also moved to an area with a lower overall crime

level. :-) I think I may need to track down a copy and read it again.

Amy

RNY 12/7/2000

At 09:24 AM 10/12/03, loriowen@... wrote:

Just an FYI, my social worker cap is on. I believe that fear, if

used properly, can be a great motivator. A little bit of fear keeps me

from being in certain areas of town alone after dark. A little bit of

fear helps when the wrong guy is making advances. A little bit of fear

of gaining weight can prevent me from eating that candy bar or ice cream.

I remember a couple of years ago when I lived in Dallas, I didn't

own a car. I had the option of taking 3 buses home and avoiding downtown

or going downtown and taking only 2 buses. My common sense (fear) told

me take the 3 buses but my comfort level told me 2 buses. I ended up in

downtown Dallas at 10 pm and was robbed while down there. If I had

listened to that fear of mine I would have gotten home safetly that

night. Sometimes I have to listen to that little feeling and respect it

for what it is.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

On Sun, 12 Oct 2003 13:56:27 -0000 " Freeman "

writes:

> I definitely understand the fear, but is that really the best way to

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> live your life? Isn't peace and love a better place to be? How do

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> we get away from the fear, find that peace and love, and get to a

> point of balance in our interactions with food?

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> > How do we keep on track?

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> > In my case: fear

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> > so simple. so effective

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