Dearest Becky...

[Guest guest]

Dearest Becky,

Somehow I just knew that something was up but I was praying that your

recovery was going so superdooper well that you didn't need to post.

First off, if you are feeling down that is exactly what we are here

for. I know what you mean about feeling guilty. I often feel guilty

posting here and complaining about something stupid like not being

able to talk with the splint. It is only a temporary thing in my

life. But you know what? It's happening to me now and I hate it and

if talking about it with you guys who are going through something

similar is going to help make me feel better then post to you I

shall!!

I think one of the worst parts of the recovery period has been the

depression because it's not even constant. It just sort of attacks

you when you least expect it and sometimes you lash out at those you

love and who are around to support you during this trying time. I

just know that at the end of this ordeal I want to take my mother

away to a spa or something to reward her for being such an absolute

star throughout all of this despite my bitchy and whiney moods.

Now on the cosmetic aspects. Well of course you're going to be

obsessing over how you look if you have doctors constantly telling

you that they could do this or that just to make that much more

perfect in your eyes. The important thing is for you to feel that you

are perfect and if you have reached your ideal level of comfort then

that is fine, if you haven't, well it's ok to go and get that lip

job. We live in a funny society where people get judged on looks a

lot but most of the time those oh so beautiful people are some of the

most miserable people around. Well, at least this is my opinion. I've

seen the pics Becky and to me you are beautiful already and because

of all the hardships that I know you've been through I think you are

an even more beautiful person. And judging from how dedicated Joey is

to you I am willing to bet my life that he thinks you are beautiful

too. This said, if you want to get another nose job or a lip job then

do it. Don't feel guilty.

And I totally agree with 's comment about worrying about

something when it comes along. The cleft palate baby may come and

he/she may not just as I could have a down syndrome baby, a deaf baby

or a blind baby...or not. Let's worry about it when and if it

happens, ok sweetie? I think as we prepare to start our own family

it's normal to worry about these things. In your case you obviously

have somewhat more of a reason to worry but just as said, if

you were to have a cleft palate baby I couldn't think of a better

mother than you. And I am sure that Joey feels the same way too.

Well before I continue to ramble on I better stop but just wanted to

let you know that you are not alone in feeling the post-op depression

and getting to grips with the whole physical pyschological drama of

it. I look at myself everyday and say to myself " who are you?! " and

sometimes I feel like smashing the mirror and then I remind myself

that all is well and that this is just a little bump in the road to

recovery. Hold on tight sweetie. Your journey (a verrrrry long one)

is almost over.

Sara xx

[Guest guest]

Dear and (Rebwend)

Just a quick note to say you both look so beautiful in your pics. I

am amazed!!!!!!! I know the journey has been difficult, but I wanted

to let you both look great!!!! My thoughts are with you

Cathy

In orthognathicsurgerysupport , " Sara "

<sararegine@a...> wrote:

> Dearest Becky,

>

> Somehow I just knew that something was up but I was praying that

your

> recovery was going so superdooper well that you didn't need to

post.

> First off, if you are feeling down that is exactly what we are

here

> for. I know what you mean about feeling guilty. I often feel

guilty

> posting here and complaining about something stupid like not being

> able to talk with the splint. It is only a temporary thing in my

> life. But you know what? It's happening to me now and I hate it

and

> if talking about it with you guys who are going through something

> similar is going to help make me feel better then post to you I

> shall!!

>

> I think one of the worst parts of the recovery period has been the

> depression because it's not even constant. It just sort of attacks

> you when you least expect it and sometimes you lash out at those

you

> love and who are around to support you during this trying time. I

> just know that at the end of this ordeal I want to take my mother

> away to a spa or something to reward her for being such an

absolute

> star throughout all of this despite my bitchy and whiney moods.

>

> Now on the cosmetic aspects. Well of course you're going to be

> obsessing over how you look if you have doctors constantly telling

> you that they could do this or that just to make that much more

> perfect in your eyes. The important thing is for you to feel that

you

> are perfect and if you have reached your ideal level of comfort

then

> that is fine, if you haven't, well it's ok to go and get that lip

> job. We live in a funny society where people get judged on looks a

> lot but most of the time those oh so beautiful people are some of

the

> most miserable people around. Well, at least this is my opinion.

I've

> seen the pics Becky and to me you are beautiful already and

because

> of all the hardships that I know you've been through I think you

are

> an even more beautiful person. And judging from how dedicated Joey

is

> to you I am willing to bet my life that he thinks you are

beautiful

> too. This said, if you want to get another nose job or a lip job

then

> do it. Don't feel guilty.

>

> And I totally agree with 's comment about worrying about

> something when it comes along. The cleft palate baby may come and

> he/she may not just as I could have a down syndrome baby, a deaf

baby

> or a blind baby...or not. Let's worry about it when and if it

> happens, ok sweetie? I think as we prepare to start our own family

> it's normal to worry about these things. In your case you

obviously

> have somewhat more of a reason to worry but just as said, if

> you were to have a cleft palate baby I couldn't think of a better

> mother than you. And I am sure that Joey feels the same way too.

>

> Well before I continue to ramble on I better stop but just wanted

to

> let you know that you are not alone in feeling the post-op

depression

> and getting to grips with the whole physical pyschological drama

of

> it. I look at myself everyday and say to myself " who are you?! "

and

> sometimes I feel like smashing the mirror and then I remind myself

> that all is well and that this is just a little bump in the road

to

> recovery. Hold on tight sweetie. Your journey (a verrrrry long

one)

> is almost over.

>

> Sara xx