Guest guest Posted October 6, 2003 Report Share Posted October 6, 2003 You gotta laugh, or you'll cry. I finally " came clean " with my Mom. She wants me to drive down to L.A. to clean out her garage (haven't even done my own in 11 years!!). Problem is, whenever we are together, she thinks it's party time. Tons of food and alcohol and sitting aroung talking (in other words, not moving, just stuffing ourselves). I finally told her a couple of days ago that I Would come help her, but I can't do the food and alcohol thing. It's just too much for me. Surprisingly she agreed. I don't know why I wasn't honest with her earlier instead of suffering through the visits and building resentments. Hmmm. Maybe, just maybe, I had a part in this. Vicki > Stacey, I'll see your evil stepmother and raise you...an actual, > biological mother. When I'd lost over 100 lbs., I had a call from my > mother's doctor, who basically told me that if I wanted to see Mum > before she expired from the effects of her lifelong alcoholism, I > should get my tushie out to the west coast tout de suite. I boarded a > plane the next day. > > Walked into Mum's hospital room, where she was sitting in a chair, > actually looking quite chipper for someone who was about to die. She > greeted me with a smile, but (and this still amazes me!) said NOT A > SINGLE WORD about my weight loss. My dear aunt, Mum's younger sister, > said, " Shirley, doesn't look great? " Mum looked me up and down > with her usual critical eye, and said, " I suppose so. " > > Stacey, I think there are people in our lives who, for whatever reason, > just cannot accommodate the idea that anyone else has achieved anything > significant. My mother was always one of those people. She shut herself > off from people in the last year of her life, and when she did die > (about 10 days after my arrival), the only people who showed up at her > memorial gathering came because they'd known my father. Mum died as she > lived: a bitter, sad shell of a person. I can't say anything about your > stepmother since I don't know her, but I can tell you that I have come > to feel sad for people who just can't seem to extend themselves beyond > their own insecurities. It's no way to live. > > Sometimes all you can do is laugh, huh? > > Be well... > > > > -- > <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> > PLUTO RISING > JUPITER'S DAUGHTER > MARS ECLIPSED > > http://www.karenirving.com > <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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