Guest guest Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 At 04:52 PM 8/11/2010, you wrote: I agree. I think a lot of these people feel there's an implied criticism of their own sorry ways. Or they are " control " people, who have to make everyone do things their way. If what you are doing isn't Their Way, you will have to change. Or YOU are the one being " unreasonable. " — Marilyn New Orleans, Louisiana, USA Undiagnosed IBS since 1976, SCD since 2001 Darn Good SCD Cook No Human Children Shadow & Sunny Longhair Dachshund Babette the Foundling Beagle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 Ok my two cents on this subject..... I was dating a great guy when I found this diet.. He was wonderful with looking for the not so common items.. like the dry curd.. and loved finding new things to cook and a great help with all of that aspect of my life.... He struggled with trust....and as his feelings grew he would dig through my text... I watched him go through the history on my computer.. I had nothing to hide.. It was just the thought of it.. and when I made comment of his phone.. I was never offered to see it..... Long story short ... it killed our relationship... WHAT AM I GETTING AT... Our lives are ALOT more then this diet.. AND it takes alot more things brought to the table (pun intened) then the SCD diet to make a relationship fruitful and multiply... What each of us eats is just a small factor when all else is weighed in.. I rather eat what I need to eat alone.. then have someone questioning my truths...... To: BTVC-SCD Sent: Mon, August 9, 2010 1:25:31 PMSubject: Re: Re: Single SCDieters I am hoping this will give other single SCDers hope. I met my fiance online after I'd done quite a bit of healing, and I'm extremely fortunate that he has only ever been supportive of my eating and the lifestyle that goes along with it. He had no previous experience with digestive issues, but he's been only the best about it and I told him very early on. The most heart warming part of it all is that he loves being able to find things he can make for me - like squash fries, grilling and a couple other things. He likes to ask me each time he makes the squash fries, "Are they the best ever?" I'm very lucky, and I thank you for reminding me of that! There are people out there that can and will accept you for just who you are and what you eat! From: Misty <miztydawn (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: Re: Single SCDietersTo: BTVC-SCD@yahoogroup s.comDate: Monday, August 9, 2010, 12:14 PM I have a lot of the same concerns. Everyone wants to go out to dinner on the first date. I have like 4 safe places here in Baton Rouge and the food isn't that cheap. What I do is suggest a place I can eat that way I don't have to be scared and then I usually explain about the diet while I'm on the first date. So far everyone has been ok with it and wanted to go on a second date. My friend warned me against telling at first, but it's such a major part of my life, I couldn't imagine not sharing it.I'm sorry, I can't help you find a fellow SCDer. I only know 4 others in my direct vicinity and they are all women. <sigh>Ultimately, I'd like to find someone to share my life with that understands my situation, embraces it and lives through it with me. Someone like Marilyn's husband Harry would be great. However, you're right in saying you need someone that has either lived it or lived through it with you. Some people I've dated have a hard time understanding my situation because they never have digestive issues and they have never lived through it with someone. Good luck to you!!!Misty KimbleCD - no medsSCD - Jan 2008>> This may seem a little random so I will explain, I am a young guy and have found the SCDiet an absolute life saver and am absolutely disciplined to strictly staying on the diet. > Even though its just a diet/food it really is more of a lifestyle then anything I feel. I have a good job keep fit and cant really complain about much except socially I find this diet can be really restrictive and I guess I feel like it would be hard for someone who hadn't struggled with digestive issues and or eat to a strict regime like the SCDiet to really understand. > For this reason I really want to meet someone in a similar situation, dieatary/lifestyle etc. Ideally an Aussie/Syd SCDieter. > If there is anyone who feels the same or any ideas on how other people approach this aspect of there life on the SCDiet I would be interested to hear from you. Thanks for reading.> OK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 12, 2010 Report Share Posted August 12, 2010 , What you are getting at is right. This is about boundaries, and a healthy relationship requires them for both people. I'm married, and although I shared the major points of my experience with GI issues and starting SCD, I also realized that a lot of it was individual to me. I knew that my H could be supportive, but the details and feelings were mine. He knows I am on this board- but does not go through my computer and texts, and I don't go through his. It's a matter of trust but also that we are individuals with unique experiences, and I don't expect him to fully share the details of what we share on this board because he does not have to be on SCD. Relationships are about dealing with life- the good and the challenges and I think how someone deals with the diet is an indication of how they will deal with other things in life. They can be considerate, critical, intrusive, supportive, even abusive...but what they do may be indicative of how they deal with other situations too. PJ > >> > >> This may seem a little random so I will explain, I am a young guy and have > >>found the SCDiet an absolute life saver and am absolutely disciplined to > >>strictly staying on the diet. > >> > >> Even though its just a diet/food it really is more of a lifestyle then anything > >>I feel. I have a good job keep fit and cant really complain about much except > >>socially I find this diet can be really restrictive and I guess I feel like it > >>would be hard for someone who hadn't struggled with digestive issues and or eat > >>to a strict regime like the SCDiet to really understand. > >> > >> For this reason I really want to meet someone in a similar situation, > >>dieatary/lifestyle etc. Ideally an Aussie/Syd SCDieter. > >> > >> If there is anyone who feels the same or any ideas on how other people approach > >>this aspect of there life on the SCDiet I would be interested to hear from you. > >>Thanks for reading. > >> > > > > > > OK > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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