Re: reconsidering

[Guest guest]

Hi Kim,

I decided not to tell anyone except my immediate family. Not even my

Supervisor or co-workers. People have a tendancy to not only be rude

when asking about your surgery but also some believe that the surgery

is the " lazy " way out. Never mind, that we have tried countless

diets and various ways to lose weight in the past. I have a friend

who is 18 months post-op and the negativity that surrounded her in

the workplace and amongst others was unbelievable. So even though

every one is different in the way which they choose to handle

speaking about their surgery, I've made the decision not to tell

anyone who didn't have a need to know. The way that you are handling

their probing questions is GREAT, but I just dont think I could be

that cordial about it LOL I'm a bit of a hothead and can see myself

now " politely " telling them to bug off. LOL Even though I'm just now

starting the long process to get approved, unless there are major

complications, no one will know except my family and very closest

friends.

So I think you should do what YOU feel comfortable with and what YOU

feel is best for your peace of mind. Hang in there!!

~~Tee

[Guest guest]

I love it when people come up and ask me how much weight I lost and how good

I look..

Pam

[Guest guest]

It's been a very long time since I've posted on here, I try to read

as many posts as I can.

First I want to wish everyone about to have surgery, good luck and

you will all be in my prayers while you begin your journey.

Next, To Kim,

I can understand completely what you are going thru. I had lap RnY on

1/30/04 and went thru the same thing when I returned back to work 2

weeks later. I do not give specifics to anyone that I am not close to

or those that are just being nosey. I generally say that I'm not

sure, I haven't checked in a while. It does get better but

unfortunately there will always be nosey people in this world.

Be proud of what you have done to change your life, I know that I am.

I would go thru the surgery again in a heart beat. I'm 7 VERY

greatful months out and down 115lbs. I have been extrememly lucky

that I've had no complications and have not gotten sick even once.

The thing I love most is that I still never feel hunger pains. Deal

with the head hunger now and then but now know the difference and win

those battles when they arrise. Went in for my check up 2 weeks ago

and I'm not sure who smiled more while I was there, my doctor or me.

Congrats on the great weight loss and keep up the good work!

Kathy

Lap RnY 1/30/04

Hanover, PA

327/212/165

> I am reconsidering the decision I made to make public my decision

to

> have wls. My thinking was that I wanted others to know that this

was

> a possibility and not to hide anything. I am not ashamed of having

> the surgery (7 weeks ago), I am just tired of rude people walking

up

> to me and saying " so, how much weight have you lost? " No " hi, how

> are you " or anything else, just straight to the " how much "

question.

> I have begun to reply " quite a bit thankyou " I am proud of what I

> have done and how I am doing and I have nothing to hide, I just

feel

> funny having people I hardly know asking me personal questions. I

> mean, if they were questions about the surgery, because they or

> someone they knew wanted to have the surgery I wouldn't mind, but

the

> how much question is getting to me. Does anyone else out there

feel

> the same way, or am I being to easily offended? Hope everyone is

> doing well.

> Kim

> 7/19/04

> 242/201/95 (I am only 4'11 " )